Bryan Kehl's big Mormon family and the blessings of adoption


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  • kokua KAYSVILLE, UT
    June 16, 2012 1:24 p.m.

    A tremendous and inspirational story. I am never surprised to hear stories of how love has healed lives. Love is like a mountain stream that becomes a brock, a river and finally empties into the vast ocean of life, flowing with life and endless potential.

    These pearls of great price have come to these families as preciuos gifts in the sight of God.

    Aloha Pumehana

  • sparkey Clearfield, UT
    June 15, 2012 8:41 a.m.

    Like many others who have commented I too am an adoptive father. I have two beautiful kids, age 7 and 9. One is black and one is half-black, quarter white, and quarter puerto rican. At any rate, this story brought teart to my eyes and a tight throat. It was very inspiring and touching and I appreciate it very much.

    Having said that, if there was one thing that I wish people would change, especailly the press, when they talk about adoption it would be to discontinue using the phrase "give up the child" and instead use the phrase "place the child". It is quite common for adopted kids to have lingering fears or beleifs that they were "given up" or "given away" perhaps because they were unloveable and unwanted. I'd like to think that relpacing the term "given up for adoption" with "placing for adoption" may do some good in reducing this fear and at leat not feeding into it. I want to encourage anyone who finds themselves talking about and especially writing about adoption to use the "placing for adoption" phrase as opposed to the "giving up for adoption" phrase.

  • Sqweebie Salt Lake City, UT
    June 14, 2012 11:42 p.m.

    I forgot to mention adoption records are opened after 100 years and when both birthparents names are known the child is sealed to them. I see this as Heavenly Father righting a wrong. Yes adoption is wrong no matter how much you sugar coat it.

  • Sqweebie Salt Lake City, UT
    June 14, 2012 11:39 p.m.

    In the predawn hours of Saturday, June 16, 1984, a baby was born, wrapped in a white blanket and purposely kept from the young woman on the hospital bed" This is coercion people and cruel to both parent and child. I guess they felt that if the mother held her baby she would fall in love with it and no adoption would take place. Why the heck was the adopting family doing in the room? I wish I had there I would have encourage the new mom to mother her child and if she felt she couldn't parent it then give it up for adoption.

    June 14, 2012 10:43 p.m.

    What a great story. I have always been a big fan of Bryan Kehl. From everything that I have heard and read of him, he sounds like a very genuine and good person. I am so happy for him and his family. I have a sister-in-law, who was forced by her first husband to give up her first child for adoption. She is always hopeful that this child will find her one day. When I read of how Bryan's biological grandfather kissed him on the forehead like he did, when he was a infant, I almost lost it. What a fantastic story.

  • S. Max Brown Salt Lake City, UT
    June 14, 2012 8:32 p.m.

    Great story and I relate to it well.

    My folks had 5 kids and adopted 8 more (I'm the oldest of 13). They also fostered nearly 100 more kids over 20 years. Several of my brothers & sisters have discovered birth parents (some good & bad experiences). I traveled with my sister to see her adoption records in Korea, and one of my brothers visited with his birth mom before she died. Some have less contact after they learn more & others have stayed connected.

    Now, I have 2 adopted kids. We have a very close relationship with the birth mom & her family. Indeed, it has expanded my own views on family and life.

  • xert Santa Monica, CA
    June 14, 2012 10:45 a.m.

    If all the children from non-sanctified bi-racial couplings could be given to good families with Temple Recommends, the world would be a happier place. I just know it. Every adoption of bi-racial babies could be just like this, with happy people all around and youngsters growing up to play in the NFL.

  • LAL South Jordan, UT
    June 14, 2012 8:04 a.m.

    We are privileged to have been able to provide our adopted son with an open adoption with his birth mother/family since his birth nearly 13 years ago. We have cherished this relationship and the love that comes from it for all of us involved. A year or so ago our son was able to reunite with his birth father/family and we discovered so much more about him and about our son in doing so. We have only love and affection for these family members and cherish their unique rolls in our family. Because of these experiences, my husband has found and reunited with his birth father and this has added to the wonder and amazement of our adoption journeys. So very thankful for a POSITIVE adoption story like the ones that we are living. Thank you, I cried reading this story, feeling the unique bond that we can relate with :)

  • LAL South Jordan, UT
    June 14, 2012 7:38 a.m.

    I am in the unique position of having provided my adopted son with an open adoption with his birth mothers family for the last 13 years of his young life. It has been a blessing for everyone involved and something that has enhanced all of our lives. We have reunited with his birth father and that side of the family a year or so ago and again, only wonderful love and knowledge came from that reunion and continued relationship as well. It was so satisfying that my husband decided to find and reunite with his birth father that he had never met. I cried as I read this article seeing so much in common with our own lives and the true joy and wonder the reunion and relationships can bring. We truly feel that this was prompted from our Heavenly Father and has opened our eyes to so much. Thank you for the POSITIVE adoption story like the one we are currently living x 2 :)

  • Penguin Inc. Salt Lake City, Utah
    June 14, 2012 4:18 a.m.

    This is the second article in the last month from the Deseret News saying Kehl plays for the Rams. He signed for the Redskins two months ago. Don't they check on this stuff? It seems kind of inconsiderate to the Bryan to be so lax on the details, as if they weren't important.

  • K Mchenry, IL
    June 13, 2012 10:39 p.m.

    Actually she cared nothing for the dad of the child. Or his parernts. And honestly was it her decision, her parents held the baby but he was purposely kept from her? Fortunately we know better. How cruel. They could have done fine. The APs and child could have done better had she and the dad been involved in their lives. The bio parents should have never been lost. Parents don't give up their children, they place with a family who is prepared and has proper support. Why doesn't everyone get proper support?

    Honestly an argument could be made that it would be better for a child not to be raised with many siblings, better they should go to some childless couple. Do you really think being unmarried is any worse than a child being raised with many siblings? It isn't really about better situation for the child, many would be unworthy under that standard. The question is can either parent parent this child?

  • Duckhunter Highland, UT
    June 13, 2012 6:12 p.m.

    I just love stories like these. Love to read them and love to hear about the good things in life.

  • ute alumni Tengoku, UT
    June 13, 2012 5:48 p.m.

    Life isn't fair, great looking, great family, wife and a mother that cared more for her baby than herself to let someone else love and raise him.
    I am glad it has turned out so well for all involved.

  • Northwest Coug Pasco, WA
    June 13, 2012 4:56 p.m.

    Awesome story about the Kehl family! And I'm looking forward to follow Bryan now that the Washington Redskins picked him up.

  • valhas5 Salt Lake City, UT
    June 20, 2011 8:24 p.m.

    WOW what a great story! I actually know Gary Kehl, he is a client at the place I work. He seems like a great man. I have heard about some of his adopted children. He really cares alot and loves to help people! I to am adopted. And when I was 27 (now 46), I found my biological mother and 2 years later my biological father. I never get to meet him in person before he died. But I have met his children, and my birth mother and her daughters and am close to all of them. It is funny this story came out today. I just learned today that my aunt from my birth mothers side of the family passed away. They have all taken me in and considered me part of the family. My birth mom said that before her dad died he told her that her baby would find her. And I did! I totally believe that there should be more access for adoptees and birth families to find each other. This was a great story! I to got teary eyed about the grandfather kissing his head. I hope I can meet Bryan some day!

  • plyxply SLC, UT
    June 20, 2011 5:27 p.m.

    great story....I've had the opportunity to meet some of the Kehl's in a competitive situation on the football field and they are good people and it's apparent have been raised well. Thanks for sharing your story with us!

  • K Mchenry, IL
    June 19, 2011 8:51 p.m.

    I am for adoption. I adopted. But I can't help but point out that the way of not letting the baby be held or seen by mom thankfully has gone by the wayside. These young mother's were treated awful. Wouldn't the mom liked to have had a tender moment with her child like her parents had.

    As for the other poster's story. An adult went and lived with her orginal mom as an adult. Same influences whether in an apartment building or dorm room. This is an adult. Can't really blame contacts for their own choices. Surely no one is suggesting original families must be screened to figure out if contact is a good thing or not? Now families don't need to be found, they aren't lost in the first place. There are no secrets to hide behind. No relationship forbidden.

    Children are placed for adoption. They aren't given up. They will still always be parent and child even with adoption. Birth parents are as real as adoptive parents. Why must the birth families be kept at bay until some decade into the future?

  • So. Cal Reader Escondido, CA
    June 17, 2011 4:27 p.m.

    Awesome, inspiring story! As parents of an adopted little girl ourselves, my wife and I are trying to be as open & communicative with the biological parents so SHOULD the time come where our little girl has an interest to meet her biological family, it will hopefully be as beneficial on both ends as, apparently, it was for Bryan Kehl.

    June 17, 2011 2:58 p.m.

    What a fabulous story. I have seen the miracles of adoption many times in my life... from the perspective of both the birth mother and adoptive parents. It is truly a beautiful thing- arranged by Heavenly Father himself! I teared up a bit when I read about Bryan's grandfather kissing his head as he did on the day he was born... so tender! Bryan Kehl is an amazing athlete and from what I have read and heard about him over the years, even more of an amazing man. I am fortunate enough to know the Woodward family! I can't wait to see Mason grow and reach his potential... again- as an athlete and as a man. I don't usually leave comments, but this story really was an inspiration and uplifted my day! Well done!

  • FriendOfFam SYRACUSE, UT
    June 17, 2011 12:56 p.m.

    What a terrific story; it brought tears and lump in my throat! I am priviledged to be considered Family with Mason; a fine young man I have not meet. Mason is as amazing as this story, and the parallel life experiences of Kehl and Mason are uncanny. If you were around Mason you would quickly discover a young man that knows who he is, what he wants, and most importantly his love for his family, God, and friends. Those of us who know and love Mason, are privlegded to know him...Oh, and BTW, he is a heck of a football stud!!!

  • washcomom Beaverton, OR
    June 16, 2011 9:14 p.m.

    This speaks volumes on many sides - for Bryan's successful journey from his birth mother's womb to his adoptive parents' loving home and attitudes, and back full circle to his birth parents. Amazingly written, and amazingly loving people.

    Truly a very endearing story.

    Can't wait to hear more about young Mason Woodward's story. It is so great to see Bryan take Mason under his wing, to help him along.

  • TRUTH Salt Lake City, UT
    June 16, 2011 6:05 p.m.

    Bryan is that one in a million child that every father and mother dreams about having for a son.......Its no wonder that four parents have been blessed to have this fine young man for a son! I am so happy for Bryan Kehl~

  • Two Cents Springville, Utah
    June 16, 2011 3:46 p.m.

    Thanks for this interesting and heartwarming story about the Kehls and the discovery process. Glad it all turned out so well. I always enjoyed watching Bryan play for BYU and thought he was a classy, well-spoken, admirable athlete. My opinion has not changed. Kudos to all of his parents.

  • golfrUte SALT LAKE CITY, UT
    June 16, 2011 3:21 p.m.

    I'm a Utah alum and a big Ute fan, but I also respect BYU and their athletic programs. I don't know Bryan Kehl personally, but I have always been impressed with how he represents himself, his family and his faith. Great story.

  • BobP Port Alice, B.C.
    June 16, 2011 2:16 p.m.

    My oldest son was adopted. A handsome lad of great charm, a natural athlete in a family of klutzes. He called me and his mother and asked if we objected to his finding his biologcal parents and with very little hesitation we agreed.

    They are great people.

  • Mikhail ALPINE, UT
    June 16, 2011 10:57 a.m.

    I think that this is a wonderful story and I believe that Amy did the right thing for Bryan. I am happy that this turned out so well for all involved. Having adopted children myself, I am familiar with some of the issues that the adoption situation brings on. So that others may understand that these reunions aren't always wonderful, I wanted to share that my first adopted daughter was contacted by her birth mother when she turned 18. My daughter ran away to live with her birth mother a couple of times and lived for two years the lifestyle of her birth mother - which was 180 degrees from what she had been raised with. It wasn't healthy. She is still trying to pull her life back together after realizing that the Gospel provided more comfort than drugs, sex, crime and alcohol. I think that it is more healthy when the birth parent is grounded in truth and where the adopted child seeks out the birth parent.

  • fowersjl Farmington, Utah
    June 16, 2011 8:52 a.m.

    Another great example of how the Lord blesses young women who make that incredible sacrifice of giving up their babies for the good of the baby.

  • Eddie Syracuse, UT
    June 16, 2011 8:16 a.m.

    What a great story! This is the kind of story that really needs to be out there for everyone to read.

    Too bad they don't do a 90 minute made for TV movie about it.