A tremendous and inspirational story. I am never surprised to hear stories of
how love has healed lives. Love is like a mountain stream that becomes a brock,
a river and finally empties into the vast ocean of life, flowing with life and
endless potential.These pearls of great price have come to these
families as preciuos gifts in the sight of God.Aloha Pumehana
Like many others who have commented I too am an adoptive father. I have two
beautiful kids, age 7 and 9. One is black and one is half-black, quarter white,
and quarter puerto rican. At any rate, this story brought teart to my eyes and
a tight throat. It was very inspiring and touching and I appreciate it very
much.Having said that, if there was one thing that I wish people
would change, especailly the press, when they talk about adoption it would be to
discontinue using the phrase "give up the child" and instead use the
phrase "place the child". It is quite common for adopted kids to have
lingering fears or beleifs that they were "given up" or "given
away" perhaps because they were unloveable and unwanted. I'd like to
think that relpacing the term "given up for adoption" with "placing
for adoption" may do some good in reducing this fear and at leat not feeding
into it. I want to encourage anyone who finds themselves talking about and
especially writing about adoption to use the "placing for adoption"
phrase as opposed to the "giving up for adoption" phrase.
I forgot to mention adoption records are opened after 100 years and when both
birthparents names are known the child is sealed to them. I see this as Heavenly
Father righting a wrong. Yes adoption is wrong no matter how much you sugar coat
In the predawn hours of Saturday, June 16, 1984, a baby was born, wrapped in a
white blanket and purposely kept from the young woman on the hospital bed"
This is coercion people and cruel to both parent and child. I guess they felt
that if the mother held her baby she would fall in love with it and no adoption
would take place. Why the heck was the adopting family doing in the room? I wish
I had there I would have encourage the new mom to mother her child and if she
felt she couldn't parent it then give it up for adoption.
What a great story. I have always been a big fan of Bryan Kehl. From
everything that I have heard and read of him, he sounds like a very genuine and
good person. I am so happy for him and his family. I have a sister-in-law, who
was forced by her first husband to give up her first child for adoption. She is
always hopeful that this child will find her one day. When I read of how
Bryan's biological grandfather kissed him on the forehead like he did, when
he was a infant, I almost lost it. What a fantastic story.
Great story and I relate to it well.My folks had 5 kids and adopted
8 more (I'm the oldest of 13). They also fostered nearly 100 more kids
over 20 years. Several of my brothers & sisters have discovered birth
parents (some good & bad experiences). I traveled with my sister to see her
adoption records in Korea, and one of my brothers visited with his birth mom
before she died. Some have less contact after they learn more & others have
stayed connected.Now, I have 2 adopted kids. We have a very close
relationship with the birth mom & her family. Indeed, it has expanded my
own views on family and life.
If all the children from non-sanctified bi-racial couplings could be given to
good families with Temple Recommends, the world would be a happier place. I just
know it. Every adoption of bi-racial babies could be just like this, with happy
people all around and youngsters growing up to play in the NFL.
We are privileged to have been able to provide our adopted son with an open
adoption with his birth mother/family since his birth nearly 13 years ago. We
have cherished this relationship and the love that comes from it for all of us
involved. A year or so ago our son was able to reunite with his birth
father/family and we discovered so much more about him and about our son in
doing so. We have only love and affection for these family members and cherish
their unique rolls in our family. Because of these experiences, my husband has
found and reunited with his birth father and this has added to the wonder and
amazement of our adoption journeys. So very thankful for a POSITIVE adoption
story like the ones that we are living. Thank you, I cried reading this story,
feeling the unique bond that we can relate with :)
I am in the unique position of having provided my adopted son with an open
adoption with his birth mothers family for the last 13 years of his young life.
It has been a blessing for everyone involved and something that has enhanced all
of our lives. We have reunited with his birth father and that side of the family
a year or so ago and again, only wonderful love and knowledge came from that
reunion and continued relationship as well. It was so satisfying that my husband
decided to find and reunite with his birth father that he had never met. I cried
as I read this article seeing so much in common with our own lives and the true
joy and wonder the reunion and relationships can bring. We truly feel that this
was prompted from our Heavenly Father and has opened our eyes to so much. Thank
you for the POSITIVE adoption story like the one we are currently living x 2 :)
This is the second article in the last month from the Deseret News saying Kehl
plays for the Rams. He signed for the Redskins two months ago. Don't they
check on this stuff? It seems kind of inconsiderate to the Bryan to be so lax on
the details, as if they weren't important.
Actually she cared nothing for the dad of the child. Or his parernts. And
honestly was it her decision, her parents held the baby but he was purposely
kept from her? Fortunately we know better. How cruel. They could have done fine.
The APs and child could have done better had she and the dad been involved in
their lives. The bio parents should have never been lost. Parents don't
give up their children, they place with a family who is prepared and has proper
support. Why doesn't everyone get proper support? Honestly an
argument could be made that it would be better for a child not to be raised with
many siblings, better they should go to some childless couple. Do you really
think being unmarried is any worse than a child being raised with many siblings?
It isn't really about better situation for the child, many would be
unworthy under that standard. The question is can either parent parent this
I just love stories like these. Love to read them and love to hear about the
good things in life.
Life isn't fair, great looking, great family, wife and a mother that cared
more for her baby than herself to let someone else love and raise him.I am
glad it has turned out so well for all involved.
Awesome story about the Kehl family! And I'm looking forward to follow
Bryan now that the Washington Redskins picked him up.
WOW what a great story! I actually know Gary Kehl, he is a client at the place I
work. He seems like a great man. I have heard about some of his adopted
children. He really cares alot and loves to help people! I to am adopted. And
when I was 27 (now 46), I found my biological mother and 2 years later my
biological father. I never get to meet him in person before he died. But I have
met his children, and my birth mother and her daughters and am close to all of
them. It is funny this story came out today. I just learned today that my aunt
from my birth mothers side of the family passed away. They have all taken me in
and considered me part of the family. My birth mom said that before her dad died
he told her that her baby would find her. And I did! I totally believe that
there should be more access for adoptees and birth families to find each other.
This was a great story! I to got teary eyed about the grandfather kissing his
head. I hope I can meet Bryan some day!
great story....I've had the opportunity to meet some of the Kehl's in a
competitive situation on the football field and they are good people and it's
apparent have been raised well. Thanks for sharing your story with us!
I am for adoption. I adopted. But I can't help but point out that the way of not
letting the baby be held or seen by mom thankfully has gone by the wayside.
These young mother's were treated awful. Wouldn't the mom liked to have had a
tender moment with her child like her parents had. As for the other
poster's story. An adult went and lived with her orginal mom as an adult. Same
influences whether in an apartment building or dorm room. This is an adult.
Can't really blame contacts for their own choices. Surely no one is suggesting
original families must be screened to figure out if contact is a good thing or
not? Now families don't need to be found, they aren't lost in the first place.
There are no secrets to hide behind. No relationship forbidden. Children are placed for adoption. They aren't given up. They will still always
be parent and child even with adoption. Birth parents are as real as adoptive
parents. Why must the birth families be kept at bay until some decade into the
Awesome, inspiring story! As parents of an adopted little girl ourselves, my
wife and I are trying to be as open & communicative with the biological
parents so SHOULD the time come where our little girl has an interest to meet
her biological family, it will hopefully be as beneficial on both ends as,
apparently, it was for Bryan Kehl.
What a fabulous story. I have seen the miracles of adoption many times in my
life... from the perspective of both the birth mother and adoptive parents. It
is truly a beautiful thing- arranged by Heavenly Father himself! I teared up a
bit when I read about Bryan's grandfather kissing his head as he did on the day
he was born... so tender! Bryan Kehl is an amazing athlete and from what I have
read and heard about him over the years, even more of an amazing man. I am
fortunate enough to know the Woodward family! I can't wait to see Mason grow
and reach his potential... again- as an athlete and as a man. I don't usually
leave comments, but this story really was an inspiration and uplifted my day!
What a terrific story; it brought tears and lump in my throat! I am priviledged
to be considered Family with Mason; a fine young man I have not meet. Mason is
as amazing as this story, and the parallel life experiences of Kehl and Mason
are uncanny. If you were around Mason you would quickly discover a young man
that knows who he is, what he wants, and most importantly his love for his
family, God, and friends. Those of us who know and love Mason, are privlegded to
know him...Oh, and BTW, he is a heck of a football stud!!!
This speaks volumes on many sides - for Bryan's successful journey from his
birth mother's womb to his adoptive parents' loving home and attitudes, and back
full circle to his birth parents. Amazingly written, and amazingly loving
people. Truly a very endearing story. Can't wait to hear
more about young Mason Woodward's story. It is so great to see Bryan take Mason
under his wing, to help him along.
Bryan is that one in a million child that every father and mother dreams about
having for a son.......Its no wonder that four parents have been blessed to have
this fine young man for a son! I am so happy for Bryan Kehl~
Thanks for this interesting and heartwarming story about the Kehls and the
discovery process. Glad it all turned out so well. I always enjoyed watching
Bryan play for BYU and thought he was a classy, well-spoken, admirable athlete.
My opinion has not changed. Kudos to all of his parents.
I'm a Utah alum and a big Ute fan, but I also respect BYU and their athletic
programs. I don't know Bryan Kehl personally, but I have always been impressed
with how he represents himself, his family and his faith. Great story.
My oldest son was adopted. A handsome lad of great charm, a natural athlete in
a family of klutzes. He called me and his mother and asked if we objected to
his finding his biologcal parents and with very little hesitation we agreed.They are great people.
I think that this is a wonderful story and I believe that Amy did the right
thing for Bryan. I am happy that this turned out so well for all involved.
Having adopted children myself, I am familiar with some of the issues that the
adoption situation brings on. So that others may understand that these reunions
aren't always wonderful, I wanted to share that my first adopted daughter was
contacted by her birth mother when she turned 18. My daughter ran away to live
with her birth mother a couple of times and lived for two years the lifestyle of
her birth mother - which was 180 degrees from what she had been raised with. It
wasn't healthy. She is still trying to pull her life back together after
realizing that the Gospel provided more comfort than drugs, sex, crime and
alcohol. I think that it is more healthy when the birth parent is grounded in
truth and where the adopted child seeks out the birth parent.
Another great example of how the Lord blesses young women who make that
incredible sacrifice of giving up their babies for the good of the baby.
What a great story! This is the kind of story that really needs to be out there
for everyone to read.Too bad they don't do a 90 minute made for TV
movie about it.