This is a good idea for this father. It is unfortunate that the Church is
designed in such a way that Fathers and Daughters are not provided with
activities together much at all, and the same for Mothers and Sons. In fact, the
emphasis on "family" in the Church does not seem to be reflected in
the programs and activities. Of the 3-hour block of meetings, families
participate together (sort of) only in Sacrament meeting. The rest of the time,
everybody is segregated and separated, with no programs or meetings deliberately
designed to bring together Fathers-Daughters or Mothers-Sons.
Ward choirs are not just for people who can actually sing mind you as much as
they are for people who love to worsip Hevenly Father in song.
Family first, I like that. :) Two thumbs up! Way to go, Dad!
What a delightful story. Good for him, I admire his desire to be with his
daughters and his spunk and determination to sing no matter what. That's what
is the important thing is what he is doing - not that he is a beautiful and
on-tune singer. What a great example to his children and others that see and
Enjoyed your article! I know what you are going through. I've been doing ward
choirs for 34 years, now, taught high school choir for 16 years and now in grad
school to get a doctorate in the same. I understand what you mean about joining
choir "for the girls" and this mysterious counting thing. I will say
that to join choir for the girls is not a bad reason to join at all! And joining
for your daughters is definitely a great thing!Don't worry about the
counting thing or any other "thing" you experience in ward choir--it
will get better. Singers are blessed to be in ward choir. I tell people if they
don't know how to sing or don't know anything about music, ward choir is a good,
safe place to learn.And don't worry so much about counting. Just
learn your music by ear if you can (several musical geniuses also can't read
music). If your choir director is as good as you describe, she probably cues you
for all your entrances, anyway. Really--stick with it and things will improve.
But good for you for doing this!