Comments about ‘Save a Child: Utah group works to find homes for Ukrainian orphans’

When will people learn that kids are not accessories. This is such a sad article!

"Finally, after days of soul searching and "buckets of tears," Katie has to admit to herself that she can't be the kind of mom she wants to be to Faith, the new baby and two boys who will need to transition to a new language and new culture."

I hope this great-hearted woman Katie, will reconsider. She already loves these boys and they love her and her husband and CONNECT with them.

Thats the part that's the hardest to achieve in cases like this--if emotional connection is there, the rest will come naturally.

My heart hopes these boys and the Ross's get back together.

Generally I think this is a good thing, but I have 4 problems with it.

1) I don't understand why parents are going out of their way to adopt Ukranians when there are plenty of older foster kids in the United States that need good homes and could be adopted.

2) By simple human nature, these kids have a gang mentality. There are so many of them in Murray they don't try to be assimilated. They only speak to each other and they only play and interact with each other. They may speak basic, broken English at home but that's the only place.

3) Around 80 Ukranian kids in Murray is a big burden on the school district and especially the ESL program. Maybe they could pay for some of the costs the school district incurs (or they can keep letting me and other tax payers subsidize it).

4) It's almost to a point where it is the "cool thing to do" (especially in the LDS community and Mormon peer pressure is a nasty thing). Maybe someone can start a new trend and competing non-profit that adopts inner city Detroit foster kids.

My heart aches....truly aches.

Wow, Katie, I hope the boys don't suffer too badly a withdrawal from the fabulous attention they got while here. I can't think of a more devastating "adjustment" than to tell a child they might be getting a family, only then to return to an orphanage with no prospects on the horizon. It seems like a bit of overkill to cram all of these fantastic experiences into these children's lives. Hopefully they'll be able to strive towards adulthood on their own in Ukraine. Statistically, this article states otherwise. Sigh....such a sad story for these two young boys.

I agree this is a sad article. I can see they are trying to do some good, but over all it just yanked out the hearts of these children.

At least they tried. What have you done to help?

Enter commentIf I wasn't 69 and retired in a tiny town at the end of the road (literally 50 feet further and you're in the Pacific Ocean.) I would adopt one.

I wish them the best of luck and I will pray for them.

I would love to have them!!!! I have 4 boys the youngest is 9, 2 are grown. I will take them. This broke my heart. I have little money so how is it possible? I feel as if these boys have been shown a new life to and then sent back as if they are not good enough to have it.

Wendy, I understand your argument that it's cruel to "test drive" children before making a decision to adopt them. But perhaps you're unaware that adopting children who aren't infants carries enormous risk, typically in the form of emotional and behavioral problems from the adopted children. If correctable, these problems can take years to overcome.

In addition, there are myriad steps (and costs) to adopt a child from a foreign country, let alone this country, that a family also must go through. Also, there are no guarantees that the family will be successful in adopting the child. Knowing that there are families willing to take on the risk adopting older children and go through the lengthy and costly adoption process brightens my day.

amen Murray skeptic it is the fad in Murray, I am worried about a Ukrainian mafia as this kids grow up.

I cried as I read this. I understand Murray skeptic's point of view however when one child is saved many are influenced through their future life. It doesn't matter whether they are from Murray, Detriot, Africa or Ukraine they are equally as important. I am sorry that people think they are too old to have a child. When I was born my mom was 44 yrs old and my dad was 49. You are never to old to love a child! Because of having children when they were "old" they are younger at heart and physically than their peers.

Usually I'm not fond of the negative comments that I find after reading a touching article. But, the above comments are true. Maybe there does need to be a program from inner cities in the USA.

Touching article. I hope the Ukranian children had a memorable experience.

I think those poor kids won't understand, especially cause of the language barrier. They will go away thinking they aren't good enough. Its like taking an ice cream away from my kids when they take a spoonful.

I think the foundation needs to rethink what mental anguish they are imposing...

to skeptic....yea, get a kid from detroit that knows how to make his bed and honors his parents to- be. good luck!!!

You can have problems with your own kids, so cahnces can be taken.

I have three sons and a daughter (the oldest). We had her and thought there would be no more my wife was type I diabetic and miscarred. We then adopted a sone at age 1. We went on to have two more the ordinary way.

There was one difference. With our three naturaul children we got what God sent. With the adopted one we had a choice, but God sent him to us.

I cried when I read this article and I am still crying. These boys seem so cute and wonderful and bonded so well with the family. I am at a loss to how anyone could look them in the eye and say goodbye to them, knowing what they will be returning to.

I am from Detroit so I am well aware if the sad situation of many of the inner city children that are living there, with that said, does it matter where the kids are coming from as long as they are well taken care of or adopted?

Great Article. It is sad anytime there is a pain and suffering.

We can all learn to shower love on others...especially our own families, wives, and kids.

Who are you yelling at today? Who do you need to forgive? Do your best to be better.

Hopefully the people in the Ukraine can start loving others more and providing safe homes for their own children too.

Life is beautiful.

The problem that I see with this, and I do believe the host families have good intentions, is that what these children need is help improving their siuations IN THEIR COUNTRIES, that is where the help should be based, so they can have pride in their own heritage and improve the sad situation THERE.