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Utah bucks national trend against stay-at-home moms
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I love it | 12:04 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I love that so many of these women are middle class, educated women who could
probaby use the extra money but decided to stay home.
This is the kind of home I grew up in and I am so thankful to my mother for always being there when I came home and making our relationship have such a high priority. It meant the wolrd to me.
I know it made our finances tight (not too tight to where we weren't self reliant)
Thanks mom for ALWAYS being there
This is the kind of home I grew up in and I am so thankful to my mother for always being there when I came home and making our relationship have such a high priority. It meant the wolrd to me.
I know it made our finances tight (not too tight to where we weren't self reliant)
Thanks mom for ALWAYS being there
hmmm,,, | 12:53 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
It saddens me that the lady openly admitted she dropped out of college to have
babies. I think she would be a better mother and better example to her children,
especially her daughters, if she had stayed and got her degree. It would show
them that nothing should stop you from getting your education.
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Anonymous | 2:03 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I for one wish my mother had a career or some kind of outlet. She stayed at
home but was basically stifled. She would always say she wished she could dress
up and go to work and feel like she was a somebodyl She felt like a peon.
This made me feel bad For that reason it was hard for me to really feel
worthwhile as a person mothering as a career.
This is the american dream | 4:47 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
These young mothers should be given an award for their courage and standing by
their families needs. This kind of home is what makes happy children who can
enjoy life and the love of their parents 24/7.
I am happy to hear that there are still some family values in this country and this is what america is all about. The family should always come first and that cannot be taken from you. This also helps in a marriage and the bonding of lives, not lively hood or jobs.
The father also deserves some credit here too by sharing his desire to put his family first, shows a lot of character and trust in himself.
A happy family is not dependent on how much they posses but how much they care. This kind of family is the dream of all of us and I'm glad that their story has been revealed and shared to prove that it can be done.
I am happy to hear that there are still some family values in this country and this is what america is all about. The family should always come first and that cannot be taken from you. This also helps in a marriage and the bonding of lives, not lively hood or jobs.
The father also deserves some credit here too by sharing his desire to put his family first, shows a lot of character and trust in himself.
A happy family is not dependent on how much they posses but how much they care. This kind of family is the dream of all of us and I'm glad that their story has been revealed and shared to prove that it can be done.
georgiaonmymind | 5:40 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I will never ever regret staying home with my children. I am so glad to be here
for them. Yes we had a lot less money and we are still struggling but it is so
worth it to be here for them. I can't imagine any other way. My mother was
home with us until we were older and I was so happy she was because she is gone
now. I know there are mom's out there who must work and I salute you too
for all that you do!
metamoracoug | 6:18 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I was a stay at home dad for ten-years. It is very hard work. I always told
people who asked "What do you do?" I'm a dad, the pay isn't
so good, but the benefits are great. I loved being home with my kids (5) and
being part of their lives.
family | 6:57 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Kudos to the stay at home moms.
J | 7:01 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Kudos to these moms and dads. I always wanted to be home with my children (and
I was able to do it part of the time I was raising my children), but my husband
was never very supportive. He wanted my income. My biggest regret is that I
wasn't always there for my kids. My daughter is now able to stay home with
her children, and I often tell her husband "Thank You" because he is
so supportive.
Better than "therapy" | 7:20 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I made a conscious choice to stay home with my children. I spent hours with
then, relating to then and their problems. It was a time of bonding and
cementing that bond for their teen age years. I was fortunate, yes to be a
stay-at-home-mom for 23 years. My youngest was six years old of eight children
when I had to get work outside my home as a single mother. We all survived the
turmoil of the sudden shift in our lives as a family. It paid off for me to
have been home all those years. My time came when the last three children were
in high school. I went back to school to get my education. I was home for my
children even though I was a student. We all went to college and they finished
their undergraduate degrees. The youngest was never spoiled. He is now earning
his MBA. I could not be more pleased. The others did similarly, two with M.S.
degrees and one has her Ph.D. It can be done, even in Utah, But, some mothers
NEED to work. Just do your best & love em.
Toughest Job | 7:41 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I am an executive in a multi-billion dollar corporation. My stay-at-home wife
outworks me every day of the year. She has the toughest, most demanding,
highest stakes and most rewarding job in the world.
lucky? | 7:54 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
My pet peeve - "You're so lucky you get to stay home, I wish I could
do that!" Generally this comment comes from woman dressed up to the nines
on a normal day with accessories and manicured nails.
I on the hand am happy to stay home, but it's not luck that gets us there. We've only had one car our entire marriage. My husband has ridden his bicycle or finds other ways to get to school & work. We do not have ipods, mp3 player, DVR's (we don't even pay for cable), and other fancy things. Our furniture is 2nd hand or clearance items. Clothes come from 2nd hand stores or the new items come from cheaper places like WalMart.
Basically, if you really want to stay home, most people could find a way. (I do recognize there are some exceptions, but not many)
I on the hand am happy to stay home, but it's not luck that gets us there. We've only had one car our entire marriage. My husband has ridden his bicycle or finds other ways to get to school & work. We do not have ipods, mp3 player, DVR's (we don't even pay for cable), and other fancy things. Our furniture is 2nd hand or clearance items. Clothes come from 2nd hand stores or the new items come from cheaper places like WalMart.
Basically, if you really want to stay home, most people could find a way. (I do recognize there are some exceptions, but not many)
Lindy | 9:11 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
It is wonderful to be able to stay at home and give your best to your children,
what more important job can there be for a mother to do?
Our society has changed so much since the 1960's when having mothers at home was the norm, and the changes have been mostly negative. As a teacher who has returned to the work force after raising my children, I believe that our society's ills are directly related to the changes in the traditional family structure, where Mom was home for the children.
No pre-school teacher or baby sitter can love a child and have the child's best interests at heart more than a mother. Today many children don't have the nurture they crave or the simple childhood experiences of time with Mom because most mothers are simply too busy having to work outside the home, come home to do the household chores and care for the children. Motherhood is generally not highly valued in America, and that is a tragedy that is contributing to the lessening of the overall happiness and moral standards as a people.
Our society has changed so much since the 1960's when having mothers at home was the norm, and the changes have been mostly negative. As a teacher who has returned to the work force after raising my children, I believe that our society's ills are directly related to the changes in the traditional family structure, where Mom was home for the children.
No pre-school teacher or baby sitter can love a child and have the child's best interests at heart more than a mother. Today many children don't have the nurture they crave or the simple childhood experiences of time with Mom because most mothers are simply too busy having to work outside the home, come home to do the household chores and care for the children. Motherhood is generally not highly valued in America, and that is a tragedy that is contributing to the lessening of the overall happiness and moral standards as a people.
mk | 9:11 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
This is for hmmm.... There is nothing sad about a woman dropping out of college
to stay at home and raise her children, education and learning can be done in
many different ways. The message she sent to her children is that THEY are more
important at this time in her life than classroom learning. I will never regret
staying home and putting my education on hold so that I could be the one to
raise my children and not a daycare center. You can go back to school anytime
but your children are only young once.
rusby | 9:19 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Teaching a child is the best way to affect the future of society. If you want
to change the future of the world for good, spend as much time with your
children as possible.
The rewards may not be as readily apparent as a promotion or thanks from a co-employee but the end result will benefit us all.
The rewards may not be as readily apparent as a promotion or thanks from a co-employee but the end result will benefit us all.
KingM | 9:21 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
"Gray is not alone in Utah. With just 53 percent of married mothers in the
workforce, Utah has the highest number of stay-at-home moms in the
country."
Sloppy writing. Utah, with under 3 million people, could not possibly have as many stay-at-home mothers as California, with 35 million people. I think you mean, the highest *percent" of stay-at-home moms in the country.
Sloppy writing. Utah, with under 3 million people, could not possibly have as many stay-at-home mothers as California, with 35 million people. I think you mean, the highest *percent" of stay-at-home moms in the country.
The Rock | 9:27 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
In the 1960's court rulings forced banks to consider the wife's income
in approving home loans. Housing prices doubled in two years and then doubled
again. So many working couples were upgrading that housing costs skyrocketed.
Soon it was almost impossible for mom to stay home unless her husband was a
college graduate. Buying a home became a remote dream for many.
They complained about stagnent wages in the 1980's. This is when women made a mass migration into the work force. When the supply of workers increases so dramatically, wages cannot keep pace.
Home production (canning, vegetable garden, clothing, etc.) almost disappeared. Business no longer had to compete with mom and prices increased dramatically. If mom could sew a pair of jeans for $15, could they sell them for $50?
Now they complain about global warming and blame it on carbon. If we returned to the 'Leave it to Beaver' era where mom stayed at home we would have half the cars on the road, half the office and factory space to heat and cool. Carbon emissions would drop by more than 50%.
Stay at home mom's rock!
They complained about stagnent wages in the 1980's. This is when women made a mass migration into the work force. When the supply of workers increases so dramatically, wages cannot keep pace.
Home production (canning, vegetable garden, clothing, etc.) almost disappeared. Business no longer had to compete with mom and prices increased dramatically. If mom could sew a pair of jeans for $15, could they sell them for $50?
Now they complain about global warming and blame it on carbon. If we returned to the 'Leave it to Beaver' era where mom stayed at home we would have half the cars on the road, half the office and factory space to heat and cool. Carbon emissions would drop by more than 50%.
Stay at home mom's rock!
Great Men and Women Needed | 9:42 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I had a mother who grew overwhelmed by raising children in the home. She
escaped into a career and home life was never the same again. Also, I am now a
single father raising three children on my own. I know first hand the great
value that stay at home mothers are offering to their families. There is NO
greater work that benefits society more. NONE GREATER. I admire these women.
And ask any child, they will agree. As a side note, I find it repulsive that so
many men are willing to live off their spouses' income to have a garage
full of toys and more play time. "Not like that" you say? Then
explain again how "leveraging your resources" has not caused you to
have foreclosure on your home and threatened our national economy. Leverage
your children's mother and your children will go emotionally bankrupt. We
need more men and women who put family first and self second. We need great
women who care for their children and great men who make it possible.
CJ3 | 9:44 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
For many, such as ourselves, the trade-off between a little extra money and
having someone else essentially raise our children is too great. The chance to
instill values in our children is lessened when we rely on others to spend so
much time with them.
Forouryouth | 10:00 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.
xscribe | 10:35 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Let's give credit to the stay-at-home dads also!
Jonathan | 10:36 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Kudos to mom
Anonymous | 11:01 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I agree with Hmmm. I find it sad that women feel a need to drop out of school
in order to be a mom. You never know when you will be called upon to use your
education, and it is a great example to your children to have that education. I
have worked outside the home as well as being a stay-at-home mom. When I quit
my job to finish my education, everyone was so supportive. When I told them
that I was getting my degree to get a better job, I was criticized. For those
of us who work, we are looked down upon by those who don't work. My wish
is that as women we support each other no matter what our choices are. I for
one am a better mother to my children when I work. I have a lot more patience
and I cherish every moment with them. Since being home, I can't say that I
have the same feelings. Please, let's all respect each other's
choices and try not to judge each other. It would make things a lot easier for
everyone!
Anonymous | 11:18 a.m. Oct. 4, 2009
"It is wonderful to be able to stay at home and give your best to your children, what more important job can there be for a mother to do?"
Are you saying that Working moms don't, "give their best to their kids"? I personally respect a woman’s decision to stay home... But this decision doesn’t makes you "superior" in any way, shape, or form.
Let’s just be careful that this conversation doesn't turn arrogant... one (the only one, actually) of the biggest pet peeves I have about working mothers is they can quickly turn arrogant and condescending to my decision to work...
Skippy | 12:13 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Way to go stay-at-home parents!
SAHM | 12:37 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I feel sad at those kids with mom's that only care about them self, their
kids are our future criminals.
soccer coach | 1:05 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I am very grateful to my wife to be willing to stay at home and raise our
children. I know that they will be better children because of her sacrifice. I
also understand that she needs a break from them sometimes and I try to give
that to her. Marriage and raising kids is a give and take relationship. This
is what is best for our family and so this is what we do.
Don Guymon | 1:28 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I honor my wife for her desire to stay home. We lived in an apartment for 8
years before buying our home.
The counsel of Ezra Taft Benson who counseled Mothers to Stay at Home meant something to us.
She had an education but knew her first priority was raising our children.
The counsel of Ezra Taft Benson who counseled Mothers to Stay at Home meant something to us.
She had an education but knew her first priority was raising our children.
tc | 1:35 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I feel very blessed to be a stay at home mom - I did finish my college
education, much to my college advisors surprise, and now with 2 teen-agers we
often talk about how important education is. I don't live in a state where
most moms stay home but for those of us who are able we lend our strenghtens to
helping at school or in the community. My only complaint is that many don't
see the value of being the CEO of your household. I'm grateful my mom was
home and i hope my daughter feels the same & that she will be fortunate
enough to be home with her children.
RE: Anonymous | 11:01 a.m. | 1:38 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
What is amazing to me is how stay-at-home moms, with some very localized
exceptions (such as in an LDS Ward or dominantly LDS neighborhood), are
constantly being looked down upon all over this country. Here, you verge on the
edge of complaining about just the opposite - your oppression for being a
working mother who obviously has a social network with stay-at-home moms. The
fact is you should not whine about your choice with anyone. If you're
looking for validation with active members of the LDS Church or other women who
believe a mother should stay at home and raise her small children, you'll
always feel oppressed. And guess what, the same goes for a stay-at-home mom
trying to get validation from her friends who work and have kids - it isn't
going to happen. We can all get along, but we won't agree on this point. I
always shutter when I hear "I'm a better mom when I work".
Really? Because of your needs or your kids? Its not easy for anyone to raise
kids - at home full time or working.
Its all about.... | 1:45 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Its all about Selfishness or Selflessness. Is money more important than
children?
I know a lot of career moms who say they can't afford to quit. All they need to do is spend less and then they can stop working and be at home with their children. But they don't want to give up their eating out, flat screen tv's, elaborate vacations, new cars, big houses, etc. Greed (keeping up with the Jones') will destroy families. Don't be selfish. Realize whats important in life.
I know a lot of career moms who say they can't afford to quit. All they need to do is spend less and then they can stop working and be at home with their children. But they don't want to give up their eating out, flat screen tv's, elaborate vacations, new cars, big houses, etc. Greed (keeping up with the Jones') will destroy families. Don't be selfish. Realize whats important in life.
NJP | 2:04 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I guess I have to brag a little and say this is my daughter and my two
grandsons. I love them dearly and am proud to be her mom and their grandmother.
Zach and Chance and Danette and Rob.....we love you. Mom and Dad
Anonymous | 2:15 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
i stayed at home, i got my degree, my marriage is ending and since i have not
worked no one will hire me except for mc donalds
Helen | 2:32 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Wow... Stays at home-mothers are really arrogant bunch.
"Look at me! Look at me!! I stay home with my kids... I'm Sooooo much better then everyone else!!"
"Look at me! Look at me!! I stay home with my kids... I'm Sooooo much better then everyone else!!"
Anonymous | 2:35 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I hate these, "stay at home" Vs. "Workin' mom"
articles... it’s the equivalent of arguing, "NO! I'm the better
Mother!!".
Sydnie lou | 2:40 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I find it Ironic that RE: Anonymous at 11:01 Goes off on Anonymous about the,
"Validation of a Working mother”... What do they think this Article
is other then Validation for Stay-at-home mothers? And read the majority of
these posts. A bunch of Stay at home mothers who are congratulating *themselves*
for their decision.
to RE: Anonymous at 11:01 | 3:45 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I am entering my rebuttal. Obviously from your spelling, we all know where you
stand on the matter. No education for you, but rather a stay-at-home mom. I
shudder when people tell me that they are a better mother because they are at
home with their children. For my childrens' sake, I am a better mother
when I am working. I have an outlet to have meaningful adult conversations,
which keep me sane. In turn, my children get to play with other children and
learn how to share and play with others. My children are learning so much more
by being with children their age then I could ever teach them at home. I am not
saying that being at home isn't important, nor do I look down on those who
make that choice. Obviously they are better at playing dress-up or reading
children's books all day than I am. I will concede to that. I think that
working or staying at home is a personal choice to be made be each woman and not
to be looked down upon for any reason by anyone. But I agree with Anon @ 2:35.
Enough already!
Where's the difference? | 3:57 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
With so many more kids being raised by stay-at-home moms in Utah, why are the
kids not smarter and better behaved here than in other states? I don't see
that Utah children are better.
Kids are not necessarily worse in any way for having a mother who works outside the home. You can still have good values and love for your kids while in an outside job, and many mothers have proven this by their intelligent, well-behaved children.
Kids are not necessarily worse in any way for having a mother who works outside the home. You can still have good values and love for your kids while in an outside job, and many mothers have proven this by their intelligent, well-behaved children.
Stay at home mom | 3:58 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I do not live in Utah but I am LDS. I have a college degree. I have found many
stay at home (many non-LDS) moms in my area who are also well educated. These
women are truly amazing. They stay home to love and nurture their children.
Some of them work from home to supplement their income but it is NOT their
primary focus. Their focus is their children. That said I also know many moms
who work out of the home. They are also loving and nurturing moms who sacrifice
for their children. Is one better than the other? NO!!! Each woman has
figured out what works for them. Let them decide that without looking down on
them.
Anonymous | 4:01 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I do applaud my decision to be a stay-at-home mom and others who make the same
choice, as well! It's dang hard! We don't get promotions, raises or
fancy job titles with corner offices. I think that if one does something of
merit you can toot your own horn sometimes.
Anyone can push paper work or run a meeting. I'm responsible for my own children and intend to raise them well. When they all leave the nest- I'm totally getting a tattoo and going to Hawaii to celebrate my job well done!
Anyone can push paper work or run a meeting. I'm responsible for my own children and intend to raise them well. When they all leave the nest- I'm totally getting a tattoo and going to Hawaii to celebrate my job well done!
Stephanie | 4:20 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I love staying at home and being with my children but I commend the mothers that
work full time or part time jobs outside the home just because they work outside
the home doesn't mean they don't want to be at home with their kids. I
feel that they are every bit as good as mother as a stay at home mom. I think
the key to being a good mom for me is doing what you know is the best thing for
your kids and taking care of your own self well being. If you are happy and
fulfilled your children will not only see that but it will give them strength
and a strong sense of self. I am proud of all the women doing the best they can
to be the best person and mom they can. Also as an L.D.S women I understand and
see that the lord cherishes all his daughters and is proud of all of us as long
as we are working at being the best people and parents we can be.
AZ MOM | 4:21 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I have been a stay home Mom for 28 years now. Wow... Many women think that it is
only important to stay home during the early years of raising kids, but that is
not the case. Your teenagers need you just as much! It is not a bad thing to
stay home. It is a wonderful thing to stay home. I know that many women
don't for one reason or another are force to the work, but women of the
world you need to know that staying home is not always a given and those of us
that are lucky enough to stay home need to help those who can not.
LegalEaglet | 5:29 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I loved being a stay at home mother! Yes, I had my moments when I thought
I'd go nuts, but I found that I did better when I had stuff to pursue when
my husband was home. For me, that was family history, whether researching
genealogy or scrapbooking, and reading voraciously. Now my husband's health
does not allow him to work, so I've gone back to school, currently a 2nd
year law student. I would love to be able to be a stay at home mom, but that is
not to be. Now I am trying to balance my legal education with my concern for my
husband's declining health and for our children. I am trying to be the best
mom & wife I can be, and will try to be the best lawyer I can be. I engage
my teenagers in discussions about the law, using current events. I read to my
youngest. I make the school events. So what if my grades aren't 4.0; I hope
that in a couple of years, some employer will see past my GPA, and employ me so
I can provide for my family.
megan | 5:46 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I had a mother who worked outside the home and I am grateful. Because she did
my life has been better and not as difficult as hers was or her parents. Not
once did I ever feel I was not her number one priority.
Everything my parents did was for me. Good parents do all they can to make life better for the upcoming generation. I was a SAHM. Luckily-the man I married provided well and didn't leave me for another woman. That has happened to some of my LDS friends who thought they could always depend on their husband. The ones who didn't work outside the home, live on the edge. The ones who did work outside are fine. What if your husband gets sick and can't work anymore? My friend whom that happened to did work and she provided just as well as he had. Her children admire her.
The daughter told me that most of her LDS girlfriends are clueless as to what can happen and you need to be prepared to provide for your kids because you are their mother.
Everything my parents did was for me. Good parents do all they can to make life better for the upcoming generation. I was a SAHM. Luckily-the man I married provided well and didn't leave me for another woman. That has happened to some of my LDS friends who thought they could always depend on their husband. The ones who didn't work outside the home, live on the edge. The ones who did work outside are fine. What if your husband gets sick and can't work anymore? My friend whom that happened to did work and she provided just as well as he had. Her children admire her.
The daughter told me that most of her LDS girlfriends are clueless as to what can happen and you need to be prepared to provide for your kids because you are their mother.
mary | 6:13 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Why is this all or nothing thinking?
Women have different phases in their lives. There will be times you want to be home and times you want to work outside the home. The more education you have the more choices you have--and you won't live in poverty if your husband leaves you!
When I hear that a 'woman's primary responsibility is the nurture of her children'-- that may include going to work outside the home so they can have a better life.
Women have different phases in their lives. There will be times you want to be home and times you want to work outside the home. The more education you have the more choices you have--and you won't live in poverty if your husband leaves you!
When I hear that a 'woman's primary responsibility is the nurture of her children'-- that may include going to work outside the home so they can have a better life.
Anonymous | 6:24 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
My husband and I made the decision, before we ever got married, for me to stay
at home with our children. I did finish my degree, Engineering, studying while I
took care of our first child. My classmates couldn't believe that I
intended to stay at home when I was finished. I did this "just in
case" something happened that forced me to go to work (ie divorce or death
of my spouse), so I would have a skill. No one can raise your children better
than you (unless you have other issues, of course), but it is also smart to be
prepared. I have never regretted my decision to stay home with our children.
I do realize that sometimes, through no fault of their own, some mothers have no choice but to work. My heart goes out to them.
I do realize that sometimes, through no fault of their own, some mothers have no choice but to work. My heart goes out to them.
RE: megan | 6:37 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
there is a differnce between doing out of necessity,
and doing just so have more expensive car or bigger house,
or thinking it will give you identity or fulfullment,
Man or Women, Home is where your real Live is,
work is just something you for that life.
But too many peoople believe work is their life.
and doing just so have more expensive car or bigger house,
or thinking it will give you identity or fulfullment,
Man or Women, Home is where your real Live is,
work is just something you for that life.
But too many peoople believe work is their life.
Sociologist | 6:50 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
to Where's the Difference?
One of the measurable benefits of the investment Utah families make in their children is that Utah schools are able to spend less than every other state (we're number 51 out of 51) on education but still get Top-10 results. Most researchers believe this is because Utah children get more support and education outside the classroom. There are several states that spend more than twice as much on students as Utah does and they still have worse outcomes.
A full salute to all of you who choose to get by on less so you can give your children more!
One of the measurable benefits of the investment Utah families make in their children is that Utah schools are able to spend less than every other state (we're number 51 out of 51) on education but still get Top-10 results. Most researchers believe this is because Utah children get more support and education outside the classroom. There are several states that spend more than twice as much on students as Utah does and they still have worse outcomes.
A full salute to all of you who choose to get by on less so you can give your children more!
Anonymous | 7:11 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
I am glad that my mother and mother in law chose to stay at home. I am
grateful that my wife and three daughters and one daughter in law have chosen to
stay at home. Hateful and judgmental comments about an article like this seem
to come from guilt or just looking for a place to vent. Maybe it would be
better to start your own personal journal to work out your own feelings and
issues before responding with such hate and venting.
Anonymous | 8:17 p.m. Oct. 4, 2009
Anonymous @ 7:11... We aren't being hateful, or judgmental, nor do we feel
quilty or looking for a place to vent. We are just defending ourselves from
those who think it’s their way or the highway... as if we don't love
our children or want what best for our families...self-righteous people have
even gone so far as to call us Selfish!!!! What would you have us do to counter
this arrogance???
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I am a college graduate and plan to make learning a huge part of my life for me and my family. While staying at home is fulfilling it's also just a blast. I mean of course we could use the extra money but along with the lady in the article I'm ok giving up eating out and being a little more frugal just to live this life.
I love it. However I hate the mommy wars and when one life is made to look better than the other. We all need to evaluate the situation and do what is best for our families.
I'll never assume a woman is a bad mom because she works and I hope I'm never assumed to be an idiot because I stay home.