Comments about ‘Adoption battle quashed by Utah Supreme Court’

This is a very very sad story. I feel for the victim.

Just because its legal doesn’t make it right.

“but this was completely my decision from the beginning to place the child for adoption.” —Olea
Why didn’t she include the father in the decision? I missed that part of the story.

I am sorry, a father should not be denied his rights because of a loop-hole. There was proof that he had taken steps to stay in the babys life, and it sounds that the mother was not going to let it happen.

So sad..

If O'Dea really cared about the child he should have married the mother. Men who have not married the mother should have no say it what the mother does with the child.

I hope the best for the baby.

It is well known that if you want to put your baby up for adoption that Utah is the place to do it. Fathers have no rights here! This is definately a step in the WRONG direction for parental rights.

"If O'Dea wanted the same relationship, he would need to talk with the adoptive parents, Olea said, adding she has never stopped him from trying."

That's not what they want nor should they have to ask his child's kidnappers (including you) to see his own child. He protested from the start and you knew it but you are a manipulative jerk who doesn't care about anyone and who believes that this was her decision alone and not his even though he is the father because the baby is your property and not his even though he is the father. Father's have no rights in this country and it is because of people like you.

I would never want to beg the adoptive parents to see my own child. I would not crawl to them on my knees and say "can I see my child this weekend because its mother kidnapped it and sold it to you."

Advice to father: Spend hundreds of thousand of dollars getting the best attorneys if you want to stop scumbags like Olea from kidnapping and selling your child and hire 24 hour monitoring of the mothers travel.

Sounds like Ashley has a good head on her shoulders, she should be proud that she made the best decision for the baby. It sounds like the baby is well cared for by two loving parents, thank goodness for the positive outcome!

I would agree. This 23 year old is very immature and selfish. Thinking of herself first, the child and fathers relationship last.

What was she thinking at 18? I think her decision making process had been compromised.

Its sad some times when the courts jump in and have to take over.

John Pack Lambert | 5:26 p.m. July 30, 2009

"If O'Dea really cared about the child he should have married the mother. Men who have not married the mother should have no say it what the mother does with the child."

Why we he marry a manipulative narcissist?

He learned the hard way what kind of person she was. The fact that he didn't know what kind of person she was until this whole thing happened doesn't make him wrong. Also, she doesn't decide what happens to his child since it is also his. It's not her property.

It's clear from the history of this case that she has serious mental issues including a strong case of narcissism and the belief that she has more rights then the father of the child. There is no doubt that she knew he was legally trying to prevent her from placing the child up for adoption. That is clearly shown by the evidence yet she still went and did it by manipulating the law. Just because she has better lawyers (probably paid for by the adoptive parents) doesn't give her more rights.

Married the mother? who sais he wasnt willing to?

"Sounds like Ashley has a good head on her shoulders"

what are you referring to? When she made a baby out of wedlock on a one night stand or when she failed to include the father in the decision making?

I do hope the best for this little child. Its a very sad story.

"she should be proud that she made the best decision for the baby"

correction- "The best decision for her."

Was he aware of the mom being in Utah? If he was then he was in error.

Adoptive parents need and deserve finality. So does the child.

When birth parents behave badly (lying about miscarriage) that puts things in jeapardy for all the parents: birth or potential parents and the child.

As an adoptive mom I wouldn't have touched this match with a 10 foot pole. Adoptive parents hardly win, just loose money and heart still broken. Child's life disrupted. Were they aware within the time period alloted for him to come forward he was wanting to parent? Did they place all the necessary public notices? I find it interesting the agency bowed out. Were they lax or did the prospective AP's take things farther than they should?

It's not up to the birth mom if the birth dad has contact. It's up to the prospective adoptive parents who have custody. Shame on the courts for letting this drag on for years.

Please stop being close with another until you are married. That would have prevented this situation. People think it feels good and no one gets hurt. Just isn't true.

I suspect part of the reason he's fighting it is because he didn't want the child placed through the LDS church. If he really wanted what was best for his child, he'd drop this, let her stay in the only home she's ever known and establish a relationship with her like the birth mother has.

Another happy ending! Obviously things turned out the way it was meant to happen. Hopefully everyone can move on with their lives now. Good job Utah courts!

When does a child being torn from her bio dad become a positive out come? He made a big mistake and now hes paying the price. It makes me want to cry. The Bio mom makes me sick.

Try being pro family first. Im a faithfull LDS member and I think family should come first.

That seems to be lost on the "father," here. He's demanding his property rights, rather than being concerned for the welfare of the baby.

At least this case turned out right and the baby will have a chance to grow up healthy and happy, instead of under the eyes of a control freak who considers her his property.

Too bad other kids haven't been so lucky.