Comments about ‘Attention to clothes and makeup a form of etiquette’

Make-up is a waste of money. Also, the chemicals in it are bad for you.

Being clean and neat should be good enough for your husband, and he should be clean and neat too when going out.

I disagree. I think makeup is not a waste of money and I have seen such a difference from the dates with my husband when I try to dress up and look good by wearing something really nice and putting on makeup and the dates where I haven't tried as hard. Besides, if you're only going on a date once a week or less, (and only wearing extra makeup those times) the chemicals in the makeup won't harm you.

I question the strength of a marriage when a man can only feel attracted to his wife if she is painted up.

True, the strength of a marriage goes beyond a painted face. But the passion and excitement of a marriage can be encouraged by small efforts on both parts to look (and feel) great. Whether that is a little lip gloss or the perfume he likes, making an effort to be physically attractive is important. Men are visual creatures by nature. I am not naive in believing that looking good for my husband is also important in strengthening our bond. Make-up, however I choose to wear it, is not a waste but rather an investment in me and ultimately us. Sometimes, the slightest efforts can go a long way. And though there are efforts required in ALL aspects of a relationship, let's be open to how all those aspects relate. Happy Dating!

Glamor is illusion.

I question the strength of a marriage when the wife is unwilling to do a little thing for her husband like wear makeup.

My husband knows it's not fashionable to want me to dress up for him. But because he trusts me not to criticize his need, he has told me what he likes, and I feel real joy when I see how happy it makes him.

When you're old and makeup is ineffective, will your husband still be pleased with you? How will "his need" be satisfied then?