Comments about ‘Single Mormon Twentysomething ties the knot’

Good attitude. Just remember to keep that attitude during the "rough" times too.

Good luck and bon voyagee!

Coppins,

One can't help but wonder if maybe you married too young. I think it is a general problem here in Utah and one of the main reasons our divorce rate mirrors the national average. However, I wish you well and time will tell.

What is it with EVERY Mormon friend that I have getting married so young? Is that what the Mormon Church teaches? If so, why? It seems to me that a church would be better served if they encourage their youth to get an education.

Come on now. Do we really need another article about marriage? We as LDS singles are getting pressure from all sides to marry young and marry now. It is too much stress and pressure.

Where are the wedding pics? I thought you would at least post a couple.

Marrying young seems to be a "Utah Thing". Mormons outside of Utah usually get their educations and make a contribution to society before getting married.

they do teach them to get an education, but they also teach them the importance of marriage and family. i would have hoped your morman friends would have taught you this by now. just the same, just ask them. i'm sure they will be more than happy to explain this to you.

Don't forget about Idaho. We get married young also.

My brother married at 21 right off his mission despite advice from our parents to the contrary. He is now 26 and going through an awful divorce. My advice to any 20 Single Somethings out there would be to take your time and don't rush into marriage.

Also, if the person you are dating tells you that you are the "one" you need to break off that relationship immediately. It is false doctrine and unrighteous dominion if someone tells you that.

I'm a single LDS woman and have my college education and work for a computer software company. I have traveled the world extensively and volunteer my time to various non-profit organizations.

When I feel it is time to settle down, I feel that my kids, marriage and spouse will be much better off because of my education, savings account and life experience that I will be able to bring to the table. Young women out there who are thinking of tying the knot young, I would tell you to please not sell yourselves short. You have so much to offer and experience the world before marriage. Your marriage will be better off if your able to bring more things to the table (education, experience, wisdom and money).

Give it a rest Deuce bigelow.
Twenty something is not too young to marry.
And Kitty, you're kidding right?
"The church would be better served encouraging their youth to get educations'? Huh?
Do you know any religion that pushes both men and women to get educations more than the LDS church does?
The problem is that too many get lost along the path of school, job and fun and forget what their purposes here on earth are.
And it's not to stay single, play video games and waste our youth.
That's why Oral Roberts commenter feels pressure to get married.
I'll bet he's late twenty's and still living off mom and dad and playing video games 30-40 hours a week.
Try putting down the controls and decicate yourself to something that really means something.
I promise you the pure joy of seeing your own child born will far outweigh the thrill of the next new game.
A dad who married in his twentys.

You think the reason Utah's divorce rate "mirrors the national average" is due to the dissimilarities between Utah's *marriage rate* and the national average? Your argument makes no sense.

I expect the reasons for divorce here do in fact "mirror the national average" - money, infidelity, poor communication, lack of commitment, etc. I think Utah's divorce rate has very little to do with the fact that many of Utah's LDS population marry in their early-to-mid 20s.

Congratulations to the columnist formerly known as Single Mormon Twentysomething and his new bride.

To "to cats",

What is a "morman"?

Utah isn't the only state with young marriages. I've lived in 5 different states around the country and there are young marriages everywhere, but for different reasons than the majority of young marriages here. The main difference is that outside of Utah many couples live together and/or have kids first BEFORE they marry. It's acceptable to "test the water" by living together and having a family before committing.

I am LDS and never felt pressured to marry young. Sure, there were people who thought there might be something wrong with me because I wasn't married at 21, but I didn't want to rush into something very important just because people are "pressuring" me.

@ 9:43: Perhaps you should just live life and marry when you meet someone you love and when you're ready. Ignore the people who tell you to do otherwise. Your life is YOURS not theirs. Too many LDS people confuse lust/love with "feeling the spirit" and they get married very fast. Practice the principles we're taught in church, one of the most important is recognizing the importance and sacred nature of marriage. NOT TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY.

Please | 10:23 a.m. June 26, 2009 wrote,

"A dad who married in his twentys".

That type of dad will usually divorce in his thirties.

Utahns divorce rate mirrors the national average. These divorced Mormons seem to have forgotten about the sacredness of marriage.

One of the reasons we make the most important decision of our lives when we are young is because we haven't been tainted by the world's pessimism and our faith is more likely to still be pure.
We make this decision when we are-relatively speaking-the least prepared because:

We are more humble and receptive to the Spirit.
We still rely upon the Lord strongly because we realize we don't know enough to rely upon ourselves.
We haven't become so well acquainted with the world that we think we know better than the Lord or his Propehts do.
Heavenly Father's plan sure is a perfect one to aid His children in their quest for happiness.

Married at 21 and going strong x 27 yrs!

The reason Mormons are encouraged to marry young is to curb the teen pregnancy problem that is very prelevant (and above the national average) in Utah.

I'm on my second marriage. My first marriage, I felt pressured to marry my RM that I waited for. Things didn't work out as we were both so immature and not ready for marriage. I think we were both pressured by our familys, bishops and friends. People should NEVER be pressured into marriage by anybody. Even your bishop should never pressure you into marriage. It is certainly unrighteous dominion if your priesthood leaders try to pressure you.

Why is everyone on this comment board so upset when someone says that "Mormons marry young"? It is a fact that we do marry young. Get over yourselves!! I wish more Mormons would think twice about getting married so young and think more about getting their degree and some work experience. However, it is a fact that we have to live with and maybe we can all try to encourage the young men and women that we work with to not get married so young. I would love nothing more than for the divorce rate in Utah to be around 2% instead of being even with the national average. We can't really get up on our high horse and tell people that Mormons value family and marriage more than other people when our divorce rate is the same.