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Dress distress: Mothers of the bride or groom needn't settle for 'make-do' outfits
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Anonymous | 6:11 a.m. April 6, 2009
The expectations on wedding attire is such a crock. Just wear a nice dress.
Anything new should suffice. Get over yourself. It's ridiculous how much
money is wasted on a single day's worth of stress and superficial nonsense.
Amen Amen Amen | 6:35 a.m. April 6, 2009
Amen to Anonymous | 6:11 a.m. April 6,
The best wedding reception I ever went to, the families were of modest means, and were in their sunday best, (no rented clothes) in the cultural hall of our church (no cost for the reception center) and for refreshments there was koolaid in paper cups and home made cookies on church tables after we shook hands.
My estimate of the cost of this wedding and reception combined (weddings don't cost anything in our church). . . . . . . . about $30.00.
I'd follow their example, except I plan to encourage my kids not to have a reception at all.
The best wedding reception I ever went to, the families were of modest means, and were in their sunday best, (no rented clothes) in the cultural hall of our church (no cost for the reception center) and for refreshments there was koolaid in paper cups and home made cookies on church tables after we shook hands.
My estimate of the cost of this wedding and reception combined (weddings don't cost anything in our church). . . . . . . . about $30.00.
I'd follow their example, except I plan to encourage my kids not to have a reception at all.
Pardon me? | 6:40 a.m. April 6, 2009
We have friends of our family, that made payments on their oldest daughters
wedding for over 7 years to pay for her wedding / reception.
When people say that people have to live within their means so government should too, I typically ask, which people are you talking about?
When people say that people have to live within their means so government should too, I typically ask, which people are you talking about?
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people are different | 7:31 a.m. April 6, 2009
Personally, I don't worry so much about what I wear to a wedding but I know
other people do. I guess I worry about stuff that other people find odd. Oh
well, it would probably be a boring life if everyone were like me.
M.G, | 8:42 a.m. April 6, 2009
Don't invite the entire ward to the reception. Just family and the closest
of friends. Have a buffet and a d.j. with dancing. Very fun and memorable. For
the rest of the ward: a dessert and punch only affair on a different night.
prob | 10:17 a.m. April 6, 2009
I have just gone through the same search. Damon & Draper's is by far
the best source for such an event. You can go online or find a location. This
might help someone else with her search!
Receptions | 11:56 a.m. April 6, 2009
Unless you are rich enough that it doesn't put a dent in your budget (i.e.
hire somebody to do it all for you) - forget the reception. I had a lovely one
on a low budget - and my mom and I were exhausted. If I could go back in time
and do it all over - I'd have a punch and (Costco) cake thing in my parents
backyard after the wedding, and wear nice but comfortable clothes (no wedding
dress or tux).
HELP!! | 12:34 p.m. April 6, 2009
Does anyone else know of some good places to look for inexpensive, classy
mother-of-the-bride dresses?? I'm in the process of looking... thanks!
bjj | 2:18 p.m. April 6, 2009
seem's like stores don't sell dresses anyore. I'm a grandmother
and wear asize 6-8. the only descent looking dresses are usually in women's
sizes. anything smaller is for teenagers. why can't there be any in ladies
sizes that are fashionable, and don't have hemlines 3 inches above the knee
and necklines that don't go down to the navel. i also have narrow feet and
find it almost impossible to find a descent pair of shoes that will stay on my
feet. the clothing industry is a lost cause.
CB | 2:25 p.m. April 6, 2009
Try Candlelight in Sandy. They also have beautiful bridal dresses. Our
daughters bought their dresses there. Beautiful and inexpensive ($200).
ls | 2:40 p.m. April 6, 2009
Why do Mormons receptions mimmick nonMormon weddings? And why don't Mormons
restrict their wedding receptions to those who are close to the bridal families?
I am sooo tired of getting invites from families whose children I do not know.
Maybe if this became the rule brides would actually receive substantial and
desired gifts instead of 32 casserole dishes.
If you are a 16+ | 2:55 p.m. April 6, 2009
There's a large sizes store in Murray on State Street around 5400 South
(across from an auto dealership), which is closing. My mother-in-law and I
recently picked up several dresses each there - originally $80+ for around $20 -
and they were beautiful, one of hers is for her son's wedding.
Hey "Is" | 3:45 p.m. April 6, 2009
Why the impulse to blame Mormons for weddings? Did it ever occur to you that
you were getting invites to weddings of children you didn't know because
you knew the PARENTS? Apparently they considered you were a friend.
Just out of curiosity, oh greedy one, what's your idea of a "substantial" gift?
Just out of curiosity, oh greedy one, what's your idea of a "substantial" gift?
great dresses | 3:48 p.m. April 6, 2009
Modest by Design-- they have 2 stores, one in Layton and one by Fashion Place
mall-- Prom dresses, wedding dresses, and mother of bride dresses-- always have
a great selection and reasonably priced
LDS wedding invitations | 9:14 a.m. April 7, 2009
"Is" is right. We moved into a new ward 4 years ago. Within the
first year we'd moved here, we received no less than 6 wedding invitations.
Some of them we hadn't even met the parents, and none of them had we met
the kids getting married. Our kids are much younger (oldest is now 14), and
we're still getting invitations to weddings where we've never once met
or spoken to the kids, and barely know the parents. It's ridiculous. If
we're getting invited, then every last person in the ward must also be
getting invited.
Don't feel left out | 9:39 a.m. April 7, 2009
When one lives in a big ward, one feels obligated to invite almost everyone in
it, so one does not offend by leaving anyone out. I know -- that's what I
did. I didn't do it to obligate anyone to come to the reception or buy a
gift. Just didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I assumed they
were adult enough to decide if they felt close enough to attend. I get wedding
invites and if I don't feel close to the family, I just regard it as an
announcement--not a mandate to buy something.
K | 10:29 a.m. April 7, 2009
I think part of it (inviting everyone) is for the gifts, but I also think that
in the typical LDS Ward, people's feeling are hurt if they're not
invited.
Just my humble opinion. Your Ward may be different.
Have a nice day in spite of it all.
Just my humble opinion. Your Ward may be different.
Have a nice day in spite of it all.
Re: all complaining about invite | 6:38 p.m. April 7, 2009
Believe me, I understand the annoyance of being invited when you don't even
know who the blazes they are. I've done my share of making fun (not in a
mean way) of my husband's extended family because of this. Never met them,
probably never will. Yet they waste their money on an invite to us. But did it
occur to you that they may be doing that to not offend anyone? I know plenty of
goofballs, within that very family I mentioned, that get offended when not
included. It's childish, and they know better, yet they still do it. As
for me, forget the stupid reception. It's annoying, at best. Party.
Close family and friends. Much cheaper, much more fun. Gifts will come from
those who care regardless.
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