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Church leaders have been wrong before on other things, church policies have changed, and the Sun still manages to rise each day.
I trust my inner moral compass. It tells me, in no uncertain terms, that the Church is wrong on this issue.
�If Joseph Fielding Smith writes something which is out of harmony with the revelations, then every member of the Church is duty bound to reject it. If he writes that which is in perfect harmony with the revealed word of the Lord, then it should be accepted.� - Joseph Fielding Smith
�The greatest fear I have is that the people of this Church will accept what we say as the will of the Lord without first praying about it and getting the witness within their own hearts that what we say is the word of the Lord.� - Brigham Young
Where was the common sense of church members who continued to "support" & "sustain" their church leaders in denying black members the priesthood -- despite the changes already brought about in society by the Civil Rights movement, and the lives of black church members which evidenced they were every bit as valiant and acceptable as white members. [And then, of course, there is always the fact that Joseph Smith himself ordained a black man to the priesthood].
Even the apostle Bruce R. McConkie was eventually constrained to admit, speaking of himself and other church leaders: "We spoke with a limited understanding and without the light and knowledge that now has come into the world....Forget everything that I have said ... or whoever has said in days past that is contrary to the present revelation."
Because of the "limited" and conveniently racist understanding of church leaders and members on this issue, thousands of potential converts (black & white) never joined the church, and many active members (again both black & white) left the church.
I've been an active Mormon all my life, but I resent being told how I'm supposed to vote and which political causes I should support. In my case, this issue forces me to choose between my deeply held libertarian political philosophy and my just-as-deeply-held Mormon upbringing. The two should be perfectly compatible, especially given the church's belief in free agency.
Remember, Christ said, "Come, follow me." He didn't say, "Come, re-write the laws so everyone HAS to follow me."
There is no reason that the Church can't eventually make accomodations for the loving, committed, "earthly" relationships of same-sex couples and their children, adopted or otherwise. Doing so would apply both the principles of mercy and justice!
One other thing: with our belief that the bible is the word of God only "insofar as it is correctly translated," there is no reason that we should not reexamine the "homosexual" scriptures in the light of current day scholarship and science. Other churches have done so, and have realized that our past understanding of these scriptures were based in cultural and religious biases -- and a misunderstanding of who and what homosexuals are.
Many gays & lesbians have been in committed relationships for a lifetime.
There is a way that the LDS Church could accomodate this issue, and it is found in the fact that church members in many countries have to marry civilly first, before they can be "sealed" in a Mormon temple.
Such marriages are "for time only," in Mormon-mindset, and would thus not affect either Church doctrine nor their ideas about eternal families. After all, many things will NEVER be resolved in this live -- no matter how much we think we know.
These things, together with the fact that the LDS Church believes the bible is only God's word "as far as it is correctly translated," evidence that Mormonism needs to rethink it position and create an honorable space in its religious practices for gay & lesbian members who wish to live in loving, committed relationships.
After all, members of the Church throughout the world are often required to marry Civilly first, prior to their being "sealed" in a Mormon temple. These are "for time only" marriages, in contrast to "eternal" marriages.
Civil Marriage would provide gays & lesbians and their children the same level of security as their straight counterparts, without Mormons having to change either their present doctrines or practices.
And, ultimately, God will decide who is together in the next life.
I worry more about the rebels within the church who think they can change the doctrine of the church by lobbying.
I will stand with the prophet of the Lord and stand for marriage as between a man and a woman.
Their line about "fear of retribution" is just total hogwash. If they disagree with the teachings of the church why are they still in it?
I am tired of the wimpy, go with the flow, spineless people who on Sundays pretend to be faithful members of the church, but then spend the rest of the week opposing the teachings of the prophet.
Either we stand with the prophet and suatain him, or we reject him. He delivers God's word to us. God has called upon us to oppose the evil institution of same gender marriage.
Those who oppose the church on this by trying to twist the Doctrine and Covenants need to spend a little more time reading Alma, a little more time considering whose religious rights will be infringed upon and a little less time trying to fit in with mainstream society and be normal like everyone else.
There have been many denunciations of homosexuality in the scriptures. The Doctrine and Covenants clearly states a man should cleve unto his wife and none else. This totally excludes same gender relationships.
Your lack of knowledge about even the basics of Latter-day Saint doctrine and assumption that we have to turn to a dead prophet instead of the living Thomas S. Monson to denounce homosexuality as immoral tells me trying to answer your bated question is not worth while.
same Gender relations will never be sealed.
Your view that protest would have solved the issues related to blacks holding the priesthood is unfounded.
Why the Lord allowed the priesthood ban to remain in place I do not know.
I do not normally see church members of African descent bringing this issue up, and rarely even see church members who have many African descended friends and associates bringing up the issue with such hate and vitriol.
To people like you it is a staff to hit the church with. However you misunderstand the issue. The analogy to same gender relations is totally misplaced.
Those of African descent were not ordained to the priesthood, but they were not deemed by accepted church doctrine to be sinful by nature.
In the case of same gender marriage the church has always opposed it. The Lord has condemned it throughout history. The united first presidency has urged church members to support traditional marriage.
What is your analogy with the issue of people of Afrian descent. Maybe the statements by the First Presidency on the issue of civil rights legislation. Oh, except the first presidency came out in favor of that.
I stand with President Monson.
We get it that you're being obedient. Good for you.
What about those of us who cannot reconcile our desire to be obedient with what our heart-of-hearts tell us?
I caused a bit of a scandal in my ward when as a young man in 1975 I spoke in church against the policy denying blacks the priesthood. That was a mess.
In addition to discovering the ugly racism that many of my "friends" of the time embraced but about which I'd been clueless, I heard many people say, "You're wrong, I stand with the prophet on this issue."
Polygamy, skin color, ceremony changes, the church does change to correct itself.
My conscience, which has served me very well for decades, tells me that the church's stand regarding gays is wrong. I don't know if the church will ever agree with me, and it's really not important that they do, but I'm nonetheless going to speak my mind on the subject.
The church is wrong on this issue. It's irrational, indefensible, and hurtful. There's nothing Christ-like about it.
I think it is quite out of line to give a talk in church opposing the church's position. To say that people reacting negatively to such a talk are racist is quite judgemental.
Spencer W. Kimball said that the church would condemn homosexuality as long as men had bodies to defile.
This is an issue that strikes at the core teachings of the church. Homosexuality is irreconcilable with the Plan of Salvation.
I urge you to go read the article in the October 2007 Ensign on this subject by Jeffrey R. Holland.
To equate changes in the endownment ceremony so that it more accurately speaks to people in a way that they will today understand to questions of sexual morality is to not understand that there are some issues that are more inportant than others.
Marriage is the most important thing, and we must defend it.
True, it sounds arrogant to suggest that other people know what is in a gay person's best interest to a greater extent than he does himself. However, it is not their own knowledge upon which these believers rely, but their faith in the word of God. True arrogance lies in believing that we know more about what is good for us than does our Creator.
Read the scriptures. Man+man, woman +woman=no children=no eternal family unit=false eternal plan. Gay unions are a mockery of a priesthood ordinance called marriage, not that gays in their continuing sin won't visciously claw back at this comment. It's still the truth no matter how much they deny it.
In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, we are taught to be tolerant of homosexuals, even tho' their behavior is a sin. Ok, fine! If you feel to oppose doctrine, then deal with the consequences and stop whining. Your salvation is your responsibility.
God loves all His children, even gays and lesbians. He doesn't love their disobedience or that they mock Him by creating gay pseudo-marriages.
One shows their depth of faith in God by their obedience and faithfulness to His commandments, not some "psuedo obedience". Gays show less faith in God through their choice to be disobedient.
Equality aside, gay marriage is a mockery to God. That's the only truth I need to vote Yes on Prop 8.
If you do not believe in the teachings of a church don't go to it. Leave others to their beliefs. Do what most people do, find a church that fits with your beliefs.
I personally believe that acting out homosexual feelings is a sin. Having homosexual feelings is not a sin. I have always felt that each one of us has been given certain challenges to overcome. This is one of those challenges for some people.
"We have heard men who hold the priesthood remark that they would do anything they were told to do by those who preside over them [even] if they knew it was wrong; but such obedience as this is worse than folly to us; it is slavery in the extreme; and the man who would thus willingly degrade himself, should not claim a rank among intelligent beings, until he turns from his folly. A man of God would despise the idea. Others, in the extreme exercise of their almighty authority have taught that such obedience was necessary, and that no matter what the saints were told do by their presidents they should do it without any questions. When Elders of Israel will so far indulge in these extreme notions of obedience as to teach them to the people, it is generally because they have it in their hearts to do wrong themselves." (Joseph Smith - Millennial Star, Vol 14, Number 38, pages 593-595)
Ah, John, what black members would that be?
2. There is a lot of flawed research that has been used to support a genetic component to homosexuality. Just like the cigarette manufactures used to show no correlation between nicotine and addiction.
3. Pedophiles and rage-aholics can also be shown to have genetic predispositions to their particular weakness but it doesn't make their behavior acceptable! It is a challenge to be overcome just like homosexuality. There are hundreds of thousands or recovering homosexuals who know the healing power of repentence. It is just another challenge of mortality.
We are being COUNSELED, not arm-twisted. Though I have severe qualms with government involvement in marriage to the extent that it is (having been divorced once, I know of what I speak!), there MUST be a definition of what marriage is..and is NOT. At some point, public policy has to be determined.
Unlike some LDS that I've heard, I have no qualms with what ever disgusting thing that two consenting adults do with each other (but put a lid on it, K?). But please don't make a mockery of what has been the historical norm for a stable, healthy society, a family that starts with man and woman as husband and wife.
And having three sons, I can't help but feel profound disgust at the notion that some sick pervert would lust after them in an unnatural way. Likewise I wish to protect my grandsons...and I won't apologize for it.
Marriage seems to be a religious term whereas Civil Union is a legal term. Until recently (the last 30 or 40 years), no one really questioned that a union was only between man and a woman so marriage was accepted within the law despite the fact that it was religious ceremony. Now that there is clear support that men want to unite themselves with men and women with women, we should create only civil unions within the law.
Sure, LDS are not expected to blindly follow what the prophet says. We are, however, expected to search for a reconciliation between what we are told and any preconceived positions we may have. In the end, the knowledge that the Prophet speaks for God should be a really compelling factor in following willingly. There is also a very fine line between ignoring counsel and actively fighting against it. When you cross that line, you should not be surprised to find yourself on the wrong end of church discipline.
Over 160 years ago, the LDS were told not to smoke or drink alcohol. It took more than a century for science to validate this health advice as sound. Maybe it's time to show a bit of faith that church leaders know what they are doing.
We also do not have enough evidence to predict the effect of same-sex marriages on society. We just don't know if it is sociologically good or bad. It is irresponsible to allow gay marriage when we don't even have our facts straight.
The science guy statement above says means being heterosexual is a choice as well (big shock) and since it is a choice it must needs be governed by the laws of God. Why would he give a law when we have no choice in the obeying of that law. Thou shalt breathe?
We know that gays currently have a right to marry here in CA. We also know that D&C 134:4 says that those who let their religious beliefs prompt them to infringe upon the rights and liberties of others are not in synch with God. Why are we disobeying scripture by trying to impose our religious teachings of marriage on others?
We bitterly complained when others used their religious opinions to infringe upon a weak and unpopular minority (us) by dictating what constitutes a legal marriage. Now we are doing the same thing to others. Why are we being 2 faced?
Jesus said to render unto Caesar that which is Caesar�s and unto God, that which is God�s. The religious aspect of marriage is where the Church comes in. We set standards for temple worthiness and other qualifications. The secular/legal aspect of marriage belongs to Caesar. These include tax laws, inheritance laws, child custody laws, alimony, etc�. Why is the Church ignoring Christ�s words?
I�ve asked bishops and stake presidents and have yet to receive an answer. Can ANYONE provide one? We'd L-O-V-E to hear it.
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CM - The purpose of school is NOT to push YOUR values. That's what seminary is for. What if you were a member of the racist Aryan Nations Church? Should the school stop teaching that all men are equal simply because this parent will object?
Parents need to take responsibility to teach the kids their own values.
Darius Grey does bring up the issues of blacks and the priesthood, but since he is an active and faithful member does not use it as a club to attack the church as some people do. Dr. Marcus Martins is a strong and faithful supporter of the leaders of the church although he has written books on this subject.
I just realized I totally neglected to mention several members of African descent I have known, and as I sit here I realize that the longer I think the more I can think of. Even Jackie Oludipei who told me she was afraid being around all the white people at BYU never expressed distress over the blacks and the priesthood issue.
I did know one African-American church member who had major hang ups over this issue.
There was Elder Duarte whose very presece allowed for progress with a lady whose husband was African-American and who had been told the church hated black people but never brought this issue up with the missionaries.
Then there was Borhter Jones, the black man who was the high councilor assigned to my ward when I got back from my mission.
Here in the Bloomfield Hills Michigan Stake possibly close to a third of the members are of African descent in some way. Maybe not quite that high, but it does depend if we count children under the age of eight because several of these are either of mixed parentage or adopted.
I'm quoting scripture...D&C 134:4 which we are in open rebellion against. We are also violating the Savior's words about rendering unto Caesar. The legal rights associated with marriage is the domain of Caesar. Why are we trying to usurp Caesar's rights?
I've been waiting for 10 years for an answer as to why our Prop 22 / Prop 8 efforts are not in violation of D&C 134:4 about us allowing our religious opinions to prompt us to infringe upon the rights and liberties of others. The CA gays have this right and we are using our religious opinions about gays and marriage as an excuse to get involved in denying them their equal rights. Why are we in open violation of the sustained word of God?
Consider -
�Some of my friends begged me to come out and appeal to the people individually, to ask every Latter-day Saint to vote to maintain the Eighteenth Amendment. I believe men that have lived the gospel just as well as I have ever lived it, many of them, were conscientious in voting for repeal.�
(Heber J. Grant, GOSPEL STANDARDS - Selections from the Sermons and Writings of Heber J. Grant, Compiled by G. Homer Durham, Ch.9, Pg. 144)
�As a public official in my young manhood, I was given some wise counsel by a Church leader. He said: �The only action we will ever ask you to take is to vote for that which in your heart you feel is right. We would rather many times over that you would make a mistake doing that which you felt was right, than to vote for a policy sake.�
(Harold B. Lee, Ye Are the Light of the World: Selected Sermons and Writings of Harold B. Lee [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1974])
We CAN vote differently than the Brethren wish we would and still be just as righteous.
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