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My view: Gay marriage is essential to equal civil rights for all
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- ANOTHER condescending, self-righteous leftie who seems to know the thoughts and motives of everyone he or she disagrees with.
I love these people who NEVER bother to ask an opponent what their true concerns are. Rather, they just shove words in their mouth, then point a bitter finger of ridicule.
"Gay marriage is not an attempt to undermine families. It's only purpose is to grant equal civil rights to all."
- Oh I see. So attempts to undermine free speech and freedom of religion is simply a way of granting civil rights for ALL? And save your "We aren't trying to force our lifestyle on anyone" CRAP, cause we've already heard the lies.
Gay rights groups in other countries, such as Canada, Sweden and Denmark, have SUCCESSFULLY lobbied to make any negative speech aimed at gays and lesbians, EVEN when it comes from the CHURCH, a "hate speech" crime, punishable by fines and imprisonment.
Go ahead and keeping spinning this into some "civil rights" issue, but the true motives of the gay rights movement WILL BE EXPOSED.
1. What scientist, theologian or politician ever said that heterosexuals would turn gay if same-sex marriage became legal?
ANSWER - NONE! This straw man point has been made up by gay supporters as a smoke screen to hide behind their true reasons for legalizing same-sex marriage. Oh, and constantly screaming "HOMOPHOBIC" to anyone who disagrees with them works the same way.
2. Why was nothing mentioned in this letter about the numerous individuals in countries like Canada, who face possible jail time for simply expression and opposing opinion about the gay lifestyle?
ANSWER - Because it's only a matter of time before the emperor's new clothes will be revealed.
I invite everyone to Google the name Stephen Boisson sometime. It's only a matter of time before what happened to him will happen to anyone in the U.S. who dares to oppose the gay rights movement.
All these years, all this talk about "hate crimes" and "fairness doctrine" and "equality" is nothing but a way of controlling speech and thought.
If you think I'm just being paranoid, WAIT AND SEE!
Both the writer and the people who've responded thus far want the same thing (I assume). And that was enough to churn up a firestorm of negativity from the anti-gay marriage side.
There should be no special rights to those that can reproduce- government shouldn't discriminate. Benefits should be given to partners of the same sex, or taken away from everyone!
Our Constitution prevents dictatorships, dictatorships of an individual, and dictatorships of a majority. It's the second kind a lot of people don't recognize. They don't recognize it because they think we are a pure democracy. We're a liberal democracy, one that guarantees equal civil rights, not just what the majority dictates.
Rant all you want. It's your right. But ultimately, things like homosexual marriage will work themselves out, one state at a time. That's the way it should work itself out. That's our system of governance by design.
Unfortunately for the letter writer, results don't come in realtime. But it's better overall for these things to work out slowly.
Instead of warring over gay marriage and getting nowhere, let's do something we can all agree on:
simplify the tax system so that nobody receives special perks and everyone pays a uniform fair share. TAKE MARRIAGE OUT OF POLITICS AND VICE VERSA!
Make marriage a personal matter between consenting parties, regardless of relationship configuration.
Does anyone agree, or are we all content to stay at each others' throats and sling mud? If the same amount of energy had been put into the tax crusade as has been put forth by the opposing camps in the gay marriage war, we'd have abolished the IRS by now.
We obsess over other people's personal lives and ignore the lunacy that governs us all. The only difference between us and so-called "less civilised countries split by warring parties" is that we rarely shed blood over this kind of stuff, we just waste a lot of ink and oxygen. It's time to grow up and work on fixing things for EVERYONE. That isn't good advice exclusively for the Middle East, folks.
If you want to keep gays from marriage inside the Temple, that's fine.
Using 12th century logic inside your house is fine.
Go ahead and use it in your churchs also.
Nobody cares.
Try to trample on the "God" given rights to all American citizens and use out-dated religious text to change laws, and you will never win.
It is heartening to read that more people are begining to see the non-issue of gay marriage for what it really is in their lives: irrelevant. People come up with all sorts of ludicrous reasons to remain opposed to granting full equality to gay people from the erroneous "they can't have children" to absurdities that "God forbids it."
And the idea that giving gay people society's acknowledgement in their relationships somehow unleashing a Gay Agenda to turn everyone gay is the silliest thing printed in this forum since the drive to legitimize creationism in the form of "intelligent design".
Only in the Deseret News do you find these issues being kept alive with week after week of people writing how opposed they are to these non-issues and giving the same tired refrain of worn-out talking points that have long since been discarded by many others.
The religious argument is the weakest of all, yet it will fall eventually.
The religious argument is the strongest argument of all.
In a godless world, nothing matters. Might makes right. Loud voices triumph over reason. Clever advertising and packaging hide sub-standard goods foisted on the public.
Only religion gives a valid reason for conduct. That is not surprising when the author of good and honorable conduct is considered.
The idea that any group of people, anywhere in the world, for any reason, would announce that their viewpoint is all that matters and that anyone who disagrees had better learn to like it, is prone to fail. There is no group on this entire earth who has the ability to determine, with their own little finite abilities, what is right and what is wrong. Sure they can look at the obvious, but only an infinite mind that understands all law, not just the laws recognized by mankind, can determine whether one course of action will lead to happiness or whether that course of action will lead to destruction.
That infinite mind has already spoken on the subject of homosexual activity. His voice is being shouted down by the homosexual activists. His is the only voice that matters.
What is religious freedom? Freedom FROM religion or freedom OF religion?
For that matter, what is religion? Is it a belief in a set of rules that some claim comes from a god, or is it adherence to eternal and absolute law? If religion is based on absolute and eternal law, then to say that one has freedom to deny religion means that one loses freedom when he limits the scope of absolute law he accepts.
Only those who follow absolute and eternal laws have the continued agency to make choices. Everyone else, who limits themselves to a small subset of absolute and eternal law, automatically limit their possible choices.
What does this have to do with a tread based on homosexual "marriage", only this: Until we truly understand all factors (laws) that influence happiness, we cannot arbitrarily restrict any factor (law) that is required for happiness, just because we may see it as a religious factor (law) or a factor (law) with which we do not agree.
We need to judge religion by the author of religion, not by the messenger who carries the author's books.
Natural and absolute law govern all of us, including homosexuals.
The civil purpose behind recognizing marriage is for the promulgation of the species and the teaching the "values of strong character, dedication" and a strong moral belief system, thereby insuring that there is a civil anything. Extending this civil acknowledgment to s does not meet this central purpose.
To say that the Church is "wrong" for advocating a constitutional amendment in California is to make a moral judgment concerning an organization who is in the "moral" field. Either the Church speaks with authority or it doesn't. If it does, maybe it should be listened to.
Society does not gain from treating unions the same as traditional marriage. Individuals who try to make those who oppose marriage feel politically self-conscious should continue to reap the results of their choice to live the way they do. ("choices," otherwise those who live this chosen lifestyle would need to blame it on God that they live in a relationship and would be required to acknowledge that God might have an opinion on the matter).
Leviticus 11: 9-10 (King James Version)
9 These shall ye eat of all that are in the waters: whatsoever hath fins and scales in the waters, in the seas, and in the rivers, them shall ye eat.
10 And all that have not fins and scales in the seas, and in the rivers, of all that move in the waters, and of any living thing which is in the waters, they shall be an abomination unto you:
I am calling all Christians to meet for a protest at Red Lobster every Friday (fish day) at noon. We must rid our community of these sinners who go against nature and God's will. It is clear, He Has Spoken! Don't believe me? Look what happened to the shrimp gumbo capital of the world a few years ago - New Orleans. We called it Katrina. What city will feel His wrath next?
"I love these people who NEVER bother to ask an opponent what their true concerns are. Rather, they just shove words in their mouth, then point a bitter finger of ridicule."
They have to build a straw man argument to tear down because they have no serious argument so it becomes necessary to mock the opinions of others.
"Oh I see. So attempts to undermine free speech and freedom of religion is simply a way of granting civil rights for ALL? And save your "We aren't trying to force our lifestyle on anyone" CRAP, cause we've already heard the lies."
That's exactly what they are trying to do.
"Go ahead and keeping spinning this into some "civil rights" issue, but the true motives of the gay rights movement WILL BE EXPOSED."
It has noting to do with civil rights since marriage isn't a right. It's a social institution created by the majority to promote a certain lifestyle just like Democracy is a social institution created by the majority to promote a certain lifestyle. Both are frameworks in which we work and its unfair to arbitrarily deny others civil rights but this isn't arbitrary.
"1. What scientist, theologian or politician ever said that heterosexuals would turn gay if same-sex marriage became legal?"
No one is worried that heterosexuals will turn gay if same-sex marriage becomes legal. That's contrary to reason.
"2. Why was nothing mentioned in this letter about the numerous individuals in countries like Canada, who face possible jail time for simply expression and opposing opinion about the gay lifestyle?"
Sweden and Canada where religious leaders can face jail time for condemning homosexuality have stronger freedom of speech, press and assembly provisions then the U.S. so we can expect something similar to happen here.
"All these years, all this talk about "hate crimes" and "fairness doctrine" and "equality" is nothing but a way of controlling speech and thought."
They don't care about freedom, equality or civil rights or they wouldn't seek to violate the most important civil right of all which is the right of the majority to enact POSITIVE law promoting certain things so long as they don't enact NEGATIVE laws preventing another from acting according to their
own consciences.
"If you think I'm just being paranoid, WAIT AND SEE!"
I don't since Canada's free speech provisions are stronger.
RE: Mike Richards | 2:22 p.m. Aug. 10, 2008
"Mike, we do not live in a Theocracy. We live in a country that was based on religous freedom - freedom to accept it or freedom to deny it. Your God may have the final word for you, but that doesn't mean the rest of us have to accept it."
That's true but that also means that we don't have to accept your word as final either. You can believe whatever you want and come to that belief however you choose but that doesn't negate the right of others to do the same.
No one is suggesting that we live in a theocracy but in a democracy no belief however formed is excluded from the public square rather religious, scientific, or just plain stupid. If you don't like that then move to a country where freedom doesn't exist since you would be more at home.
"God has nothing to do with getting a marriage license."
No one has suggested that God has anything to do with getting a marriage license instead we are saying that the MAJORITY has to do with it since THEY CREATED IT as a SOCIAL INSTITUTION.
"If you want to keep gays from marriage inside the Temple, that's fine."
I agree and if the LDS Church wants to have gay marriages in its Temples its the business of the Church. Civil marriages and religious marriages aren't the same.
"Using 12th century logic inside your house is fine.
Go ahead and use it in your churchs also.
Nobody cares."
But I guess you care when we dare to speak out mind and vote because that isn't allowed in your country. My opinion has nothing to do with religion or God.
"Try to trample on the "God" given rights to all American citizens and use out-dated religious text to change laws, and you will never win."
Leave your God in your Church or your Temple or your home HYPOCRITE. I guess you can talk about God when it suits you but when others do it how dare they. We bow before you!
"Gay people will eventually be accepted as full-fledged card-carrying members of society."
They already are. Gays aren't denied their rights based on their sexuality nor are they denied the privileges others enjoy based on their sexuality.
"As people begin to realize that there is no need to be afraid or feel threatened their attitudes change - you can already see it in the youth today."
No one is afraid of gay people. This is just another straw man argument. Apparently you think that every one who opposes same sex marriage have come to their opinions based on the same feelings.
"Even deep-rooted religious-based attitudes can evolve as evidenced by the acceptance of Blacks into the Priesthood."
The reason blacks were accepted into the Priesthood was because they FINALLY could FULLY exercise it and not have to worry about rather they would be beaten to death if they were assigned to be Home Teachers to a single white woman.
"There is no doubt a bumpy road ahead - but in the end what's fair for ALL will win out."
I just love it how you speak in noble terms as you violate the rights of others.
"It's so clear from reading these comments that there are strong forces at work against freedom."
You got that right and you are one of those who are working against freedom.
"It's the second kind a lot of people don't recognize. They don't recognize it because they think we are a pure democracy."
No one's suggesting we are a pure democracy since we are a Republic yet minorities don't get to legislate but the Constitution protects the rights of minority groups from a majority making negative laws which violate their rights.
In other words the majority gets to define marriage but don't get to tell you that you don't get to have sex if that's your choice.
"We're a liberal democracy, one that guarantees equal civil rights, not just what the majority dictates."
Legal marriage WOULDN'T EXIST if it wasn't created by the majority but you believe a MINORITY defines it. That proves you are a totalitarian.
"Rant all you want. It's your right. But ultimately, things like homosexual marriage will work themselves out, one state at a time."
You are a master manipulator who decides that you will twist the Constitution to mean the minority makes laws.
You'll get to meet Him someday, face to face, then you can ask Him personally how He would like to be addressed.
In the meantime, follow the path that your own superior intelligence leads you so that when He shows you what you could have become, you'll be able to show Him how you settled for so much less.
Because He is God, he will let you keep the memory of your petty experiences for all eternity. He'll let you live far, far beneath your possibilities. He'll let you squander your life, if that is what you want to do.
It's your choice. It's your agency. You get one shot at life; don't waste it.
It's not about equal rights. People can call their relationships anything they want. It's about redefining legislation that has been around for many years without going through the appropriate process.
Personally I'd vote against added government support for an institution I believe is very harmful to society (e.g., same-sex marriage).
Marriage should be a religious institution, a union should be the legal institution.
Any monogamous couple should reap the benefits of a union.
A religious ceremony should cement a "marriage."
No on is denied rights. No special privileges.
The argument that heterosexual marriages should benefit more because they have children is dumb. Barren women, under that logic, should be denied tax benefits because they cannot conceive. Also, the many couples that choose not to have children should also be denied rights.
No one should have special privileges, and getting rid of marriage as a legal institution would do the trick. That way your judge hands out the unions and your bishop/pastor/etc. hands out marriages.
Problem solved. The only arguments against this are based in discrimination and conservative rhetoric.
Apparently you believe that your right to discriminate and practice bigotry is more important than seeing that all Americans have equal rights under the law.
Please reconsider.
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First, to start with, all the benefits which you mention, Aaron, are given to married couples for a reason, that reason being that the vast majority of married couples will at some point bear the responsibilities of raising children. The vast majority of gay couples (a few like yourself excepted) will never bear such burdens.
Second, as for gay marriage and immigration: Marriage immigration and family reunification already is fraught with enough fraud without making gay couples eligible, too. (And does anyone ever wonder why the vast majority of international married couples always seem to want to settle in Spouse #1's country of the US, rather than in Spouse #2's country of India or Pakistan?)
Third, second, you and various gay organizations seem to have a knack for going about things backwards. Normally you try to convince people to do something democratically before you resort to legal strongarm tactics. Having failed to impose gay marriage via judical tyranny, only now do you resort to the court of public sympathy.
Fourth, how many gay couples are actually denied hospital visitation? I mean, really?