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Homosexuality ruins lives

This is just getting sad . . .

Gays think if they get "equality" it will make the feelings of guilt, lack of the Spirit, emptiness, self-doubt (hate?) go away. But it's not acceptance or lack of acceptance that makes them feel that way - it's the sin itself.

Bridger,

Homosexuality by itself does not ruin lives anymore than heterosexuality by itself ensures successful lives. Hateful attitudes ruin lives. As much as you would like to believe that you harbor no ill will toward gays, your opinion is hardly benign. Such thinking promotes discrimination and worse.

Think honestly for a minute: You did not choose your sexual orientation - it came to you as a natural phenomenon. Is it so hard to imagine that a gay person's sexual orientation also comes as a natural phenomenon (beyond the individual's choice)?

If you have witnessed a life ruined, consider the possible societal influences, including those stacked up against the unique individual.

As I have recently seperated myself from the church, I understand your thoughts and comments but also have had the opportunity to see the other side. Be careful when you use such strong words as "hate" or "evil". You might "disagree" in your beliefs when it comes to homosexuality, alcohol, etc. but that doesn't make it evil. You should be familiar with 11th article of faith that says we allow people to worship as they may. Your worship might not emcompass something that another deems permissable. Also, I don't doubt that you have seen lives ruined however many lives have been ruined in traditional marriages as well. I know you don't agree with the practice however people are free to live their life in their own fashion. I'm not asking you to accept it either, you can still be at odds with the practice just understand these individuals are friends and neighbors among you and might comes across as a hateful and demeaning letter to many. Just one man's opinion.

Dn why even print this letter? is this a joke or a real letter?

I'm so tired of reading latter after letter after letter about people spewing their fears, prejudices, hatreds towards any and all others, whether they be dems, repugs, gays, immigrants, hummeroids, ad nauseum. You people are pathetic. I daily read many other "newspapers" from around the world, but still there is this morbid curiosity that keeps me dropping in just to know that there are really more enlightened, tolerant, and insightful people in this world than are shown in this Desert News forum. And don't get me started on how many of my posts have been censored..if y'all actually get to read this one....

Mormons refuse to see they will pay for this view. This may be a price worth paying for them to make a moral stand. This stand will push a few more member off the fence and out of the church.

The church makes a moral stand on gay marriage. This is their right. I see a church that won't take a stand on torture. They talk about the value of life but they are silent on access to health care that life depends on.

It's like they can't bash a party that good for business even if they waffle on morality.

It is very sad that a person can't decide whether people who are different from him "deserve equal rights." What stupidity! Everyone "deserves" equal rights! Why don't these blockheads get it?

As Darin said above, homosexuality does not destroy lives. It is the prejudice, the bigotry, the unmitigated conceit of people like Bridger that ruins lives. No, Bridger, you have never seen being gay or lesbian ruin anyone's life. If you have seen anything, you have seen your own ignorance and that of people like you destroy lives that should have been beautiful existences.

Thank you to the writer for having the courage to say what is true. Homosexuality destroys the lives of many. These people are badly broken and living in denial. It doesn't have anything to do with how society accepts them. It has to do with the fact that it is an unhealthy and spiritually destructive practice.

It has happened throughout history. Any civilization that accepts homosexuality as normal and morally equal to heterosexuality hasn't much time left. I fear for our country.

It amazes me how many people continue, like the writer of this letter, to spew such ridiculous rheteroic. Sadness, tragedy, etc. exists in all of our lives, not just the gays. Why do people continue to single out gay people as miserable, just to support their bigoted ideas. Tragedy, infidelity, STD's, abuse, etc. exist everywhere, not just in the gay community. It all depends on the individual and the value they place on their own lives, the lives of their partners, their children, etc. It also depends on self-respect and the respect for others. The bottom line here is, how can anyone continue to expect gay men and women to pay taxes, tax revenue that supports straight families and their rights, and then tell those gay men and women that they can't have equal rights as you because you think their lives are a perversion. It's as plain and simple as that! It's wrong! It's bigoted! And it is time to stop this madness and discrimination once and for all. If you go by sadness and tragedy, than we need to outlaw marriage all together. How silly is that?!

It didn't ruin mine. I have a rich, full life. I wouldn't presume to tell you it's for you or anyone else, so what puts you in a position to tell me?

I have to agree with the other posters that this is getting well beyond the realm of pathetic.

Hi Sid, I agree with you. Over 50% of my postings don't appear. It's odd how use logic and reason is feared, but treated as though it were offensive.

Judgments and biases like Bridger's is what ruins lives.

What a hideously hateful letter.

Blind faith and narrow mindedness ruins lives.

What ruins lives is when a homosexual person faces people like this letter writer. YOU, Bridger Talbot are the reason so many gay people are heartbroken to the point of taking their own lives.
Shame on you! I hope you can live with the hatred burning inside you.
This letter and your bigotry make me sick!
THP

The letter from Bridget as well as those that support her and her viewpoint are right on. That was a good letter. It takes courage to write on a board like this and say what you feel because the hate and nastiness just gets so pervasive. Her view is correct as well. I have known people who practice homosexuality. I don't think I have ever known one who was happy, really deep down happy with themselves or their lives.

God will never conform to you. We are asked even invited strongly to "come unto Christ". He has no need of change and perfection, only we mortals have that.

Cat - I find your comment ironic. As an "out" gay man I am actually living a life that is free from denial - don't cha get it? And please don�t fret because I am anything but broken. My partner and I live happy and productive lives that contribute to our community, and we have absolutely no desire to change our lives for you or anyone else. I�m afraid Cat, that it is you who are broken and living in denial. PS - My partner and I have spent 24 wonderful years together and wish others could be as fortunate - like the 50% of LDS folks whose church-sanctioned "Temple Marriages" have failed miserably. Maybe we could teach them a thing or two about real love and commitment.

"The issue of same-sex marriage is not only a complex issue, but it is a passionate one for many. None of us can say, or begin to say, that based on our own research gays deserve or do not deserve equal rights. The issue is simply too large for any human to decide."

Bridger,
Actually the issue of same-sex marriage isn't really that complicated. I can say, as a fellow human and based on my own research of gays and the U.S. Constitution, that gays do deserve equal rights. This issue is not too large for me to decide.
Many Americans do not need to seek the council of old men to determine what is right or wrong. Each human has an inner voice that can tell them these things. You may have heard of the Golden Rule. We can apply this rule to this situation and do so in light of the U.S. Constitution and what I like to call the harm principle. Will allowing same-sex marriage harm me or my family? No. If I were to deny the right to same sex marriage would I be denying others something I hold dear? Yes.

The pro-homosexual lobby has honed their skills well. Anyone who is against their "lifestyle" is filled with hate and bigotry. Normal is "abnormal" and those who have a normal abhorrence of this perversion are the real perverts. Talk about calling day night and night day.