Comments about ‘Do Utah's adoption-friendly laws make it anti-birth father?’

"Many birth fathers are engaged, committed, loving and willing to step up to the plate and care for their birth children" - several concerns -

If they didn't bother to marry the woman how committed can they be?
If the mother is indeed "hiding" from the birth father that is an indication of where the relationship is.
There are certainly cases where a man want to use a baby to continue a relationship with a woman who wants nothing more to do with him.
And finally if a "birth father" (more like a sperm donor) can't have a say in whether or not a woman chooses to have an abortion, why should he have a say in whether or not she gives a baby up for adoption.

Utah is one of the few states left where you can adopt without fear of having your newly adopted children ripped back away from you because of legal red tape and procedural issues. Utah's adoption laws are pro adoption, not anti-birthfather. Agencies and adoptive parents feel uniquely safe here, which is why many agencies choose to come here.

I keep hearing the same thing with respect to fathers who DO want to raise their children:

He doesn't deserve rights because he's unwilling to marry the mother.

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He doesn't deserve rights because the mother is unwilling to marry him.

Why is it HIS fault either way and why does it always hinge on whether the parents are married? If a married woman is not supported by her husband, he still has parental rights even if the child isn't his!

Since a married woman can have an abortion without her husband's knowledge or permission, does that make him just a "sperm donor" as well?

Face it - the purpose of Utah's "adoption friendly" law is to keep as few hurdles as possible between the prospective adoptive parents and the baby. It doesn't matter if the child wasn't born in Utah or if none of the parents (birth or adoptive) are Utah residents. All that matters is taking the baby across state lines for purposes of adoption.

It's got nothing to do with abortion or the condition of the birth parents' relationship. It's all about finalizing the adoption quickly and without recourse. Fraud and coercion can be used with impunity because once the adoption is finalized, it's over and done with.