Parents of special needs kids start Easy to Love, Hard to Raise
I would love a parents' group like this! I have a son with some of these
issues, and it can be very isolating to me, as a mom, and him, too.
My heart goes out to these children and their families. I wonder what type of
education is done for schools and children attending school with these children?
I would think that educating classmates might help students have a better
understanding and increase cooperation and empathy. Has this been shown to be
helpful? There is so much we still don't know about the brain. Science is
advancing, but never quickly enough for families struggling with these
Often times we think difficult children cannot learn or we don't understand
enough about their disabilities to create change. My son was
diagnosed with ADHD. Specialist after specialist told us all we could do was
medicate. As a former elementary school principal, I knew that wasn't going to
solve his problems; medication teaches nothing and he was short on many
cognitive skills. We finally discovered two options that worked for
us: Play Attention (www.playattention.com) and ADHD Nanny (www.adhdnanny.com).
They teach cognitive skills, attention training and organization. I know there
must be more, but it was a real beast finding the right fit. It's important we
share this information to make the road easier for each other. Life's often
difficult enough when raising a child with ADHD or any other disability.
How refreshing to have an article dealing with some of these children and
parents who are facing unique challenges! Another aspect that may
not be mentioned is that I believe a parent can "know and feel" what a
child is going through better than most others because of the genetic
similarities. One understands because of the same challenge or chemical
imbalance. They can also know of solutions to problems, having found them by
life lessons.In our society where divorce is common and somewhere
around 50 percent of children do not live with both "genetic
contributors," non-biological caregivers generally are just not as good.
I say that it is important to get along with the "other"
non-custodial/custodial parent in order to facilitate child growth and
We raised one very difficult child, but he was never diagnosed with anything. I
would like to see better research into the reason we are seeing such an increase
in these disorders. I have far more questions than answers, but I want all
parents to know that I pray for all of you. Parenting is a monemental
undertaking, and more so when there are serious complications.
We parents of handicapped kids appreciate all the help we can get. I look at
others and admire how strong they are and how they keep going. Having a support
system makes such a difference. I see what some families go through and feel
like I have it so much easier than they do. Thank you for this story. I can't
imagine having a child that didn't want to be touched. That would be so
hard.Wow MyChildrensKeeper, I guess you wanted to use this story to sound
off. We have some of the safest food in the World. Please go and volunteer in
other Countries and you will have your eyes opened as to how safe our food is
here. Also go and help a family or two who have handicapped children. Helping
someone out will sure make a difference in your life. Maybe instead of ranting
about something you can lighten someones load.
To the parents who have difficulty getting fruits and vegetables into kids, how
about a vitamix? Just recently had chocolate ice cream made in one that
contained cabbage, spinach and avacado. You absolutely couldn't tell. Also
smoothies full of various vegetables and fruits that tasted like sorbet. Have
heard of friends or family members who have bought one together to afford the
Raising children with any disorder or handicap is very difficult becasue our
economy, and society is not developed or designed to incorporate them so
everything is costly special design to accommodate their needs. Then
I think every needy child with every disease or disorder are becoming pawns in a
disability war to get funds and grants from government. Schools get it and is
the only reason many of these children are allowed in the education system,
emotional and physical acceptance by society. But the war of
disorders is more complex becasue each disability is the result of different
genetic mutations. Because of the vastness and widespread higher percentage of
mutations in our population now we should be challenging the creators of these
mutations, drug companies and genetic food modifiers altering the state of our
beastly existence and ability to reproduce non mutated children. We,
the US, are a nation of Thalidomide adults and children that has been covered up
and hidden from the public by FDA and Monsanto profiteering. Our food is not
deemed fit for human consumption by the rest of the world and food and seed are
banned. We are the creators and consumers of genetic disorders.