Published: Monday, Sept. 19 2011 12:00 a.m. MDT
To paraphrase Martin Luther King:I have a dream that one day my
daughters will not be judged by their appearance, but by the content of their
character.I'll bet I'm not alone.
Amen and Amen.Watch any show about teenagers. The "kids"
(usually older actors) are not even close to the physical norm. Not one looks
like anyone your child actually goes to school with. We struggle not simply
against digitally altered images but with the fact that so many in the media
have been surgically altered. What does it say about us as a culture when our
"standard" of beauty is not something that occurs in nature?We may say that the 50s and early 60s views of sexuality were unrealistic or
too restrictive. But there can be no doubt that the pendulum has swung much too
far in the other direction. Girls over the age of 9 or 10 have few if any years
left of simply being girls. Rather, they must immediately become young women
with sexual potential. The situation for boys is becoming problematic as
well.The teenage years are hard enough. They have always been
filled with some self-doubt and a grappling with image. But the current climate
makes a difficult situation toxic. Surely the Lord is not pleased when we allow
the degradation of his daughters in this fashion. We should be similarly
'that dominate billboards, newsstands, airwaves and even toy stores
are,"Why would business do such a thing? The answer is
obviously MONEY.I am not pushing for more regulation, but it is
obvious that business will go past the line in order to make more profit.For those on the far right, ask yourselves "How far would these
companies go if they were not regulated at all?"I am not for
more regulation, but those who say that the free market will keep business in
line are delusional.We need to reign in regulation, but it does not
have to be all or nothing.
The market for all of its virtues also is the site of abuse - labor and in this
case children. If you want the benefits of the market, you put up with the
abuse. It's just that simple.
One thing that can be done is for schools to adopt dress codes and then ENFORCE
them. The school my older kids attended on the east coast had standards for
shorts/skirt lengths, a ban on spaghetti straps etc and they were usually
enforced. Here the dress codes are more relaxed and never enforced. Once, when
my son was in middle school he said to me, "I like winter more than
summer." When I asked him why, he stated "because the girls have to
wear different (warmer) clothes." I had never discussed dress codes with my
son. Please young ladies, cover up. The boys will
"notice" you. The question is do you want them to "notice"
ONLY that aspect of you?
Like the Drug, Tobacco, FastFood and Skiing industries learned many, many years
ago...Hook them when they are little kids, and they'll be hooked for
life.Meanwhile, Mommy getting liposuction and breast implants
doesn't give a kid a sure sense of reality either.Which will fuel the
problem getting even worse with the next generation.This calls for
more regulation.Conservatives and their "Less Government
intervention" and "Free Market Capitalism" reigns supreme are
selling out America and our values to Corporate greed and profits to the highest
Truthseeker:Hard to believe that you are still blaming women. Better teach
you son to learn to deal with it. You might like the Mid East better?
Women wear burkas, and have few freedoms.Possibly you could find gainful
employment as the "Clothes Police" in your school district? But, you
gotta know that California is definitely the wrong place for you to live with
your frame of mind, as it is populated by a majority of free thinking people.
Re:nofitinSGI'm sorry if it came across that I was primarily blaming
women.Actually, I've lived 18 yrs in CA, (back east for 13 yrs) not in the
same part of the state, and do enjoy the diversity here. I don't know if I
could return to UT where I grew up. You are making a lot of judgments
about me as a parent and as a person without knowing me. Of course all the
responsibility shouldn't just fall on women, and I often get frustrated because
it seems in our society we accept immoral/promiscuous behavior from men, because
they are men, while holding women to a higher standard. However,
styles today are far from burkas. It is difficult sometimes, even as an adult,
to find clothes that are a little more modest. Some girls in school wear
clothes here that are so short or so low cut they more resemble bathing suits.
My son's comment came out of the blue that day and for the first time raised my
awareness of his awareness.
Just want to say thanks to Truthseeker for not taking offense to NofitinSG.
These comment boards can get so ridiculous sometimes. It's nice to see an
apology and explanation rather than a defensive response like is so common on
the internet.We can all agree that society's treatment of women
today is harmed by the media's infatuation, over-indulgence, and fixation with
sexuality. The Pope said it well: "The problem with pornography isn't that
it shows too much of a person - it's that it shows too little."
@Swedish reader: "To paraphrase Martin Luther King: I have a dream that
one day my daughters will not be judged by their appearance, but by the content
of their character. I'll bet I'm not alone."You may not be
alone but your are wrong. Mother Nature has declared so. If a suitor is
looking only at character content, you daughters will be sitting alone for a
long time... perhaps all their lives.
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