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Published: Friday, July 15 2011 10:38 a.m. MDT

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JWB
Kaysville, UT

This is a great tool for anyone or family to use to help in the battle of the destructive force due to pornography and that type of addiction.

Thanks to the Church in any and all efforts to stop this problem for individuals desiring to help those in trouble.

I know the Church News, etc. will publicize this to the world. Thanks so much.

Zoniezoobie
Mesa, AZ

In a priesthood leadership meeting, a quorum of 70 member said that everyone in the room, including himself, is not immune to pornography. It requires lifelong vigilance.

It is like a raging storm, destroying individuals and families, utterly ruining what was once wholesome and beautiful.

Pornography is not some titillating feast for the eyes that gives a momentary rush of excitement. Rather, it has the effect of damaging hearts and souls to their very depths, strangling the life out of relationships that should be sacred, hurting to the very core those you should love the most.

The minds of youth become warped with false concepts. Continued exposure leads to addiction that is almost impossible to break. Men, so very many, find they cannot leave it alone. Their energies and their interests are consumed in their dead-end pursuit of this raw and sleazy fare.

Ye have broken the hearts of your tender wives, and lost the confidence of your children, because of your bad examples before them; and the sobbings of their hearts ascend up to God against you.

patriot
Cedar Hills, UT

good video. Important message. The internet is the life blood of the 21 century economy and day to day life for all Americans however with the good comes the bad thanks to Hugh Hefner and all the rest of the porn Czars out there lurking in the shadows. There is a balance between free speech and protecting society from collapse and I think we are reaching that tipping point where something more needs to be done to restrict the distribution of porn on the internet. Filters are great ... for kids ... but it is adults that need protecting and filters are easy to turn off or bypass by adults. Porn is 10 times more deadly than cigarettes yet we think restricting cigarette advertising is fine. Go figure.

CTR Stan
PROVO, UT

When I was a boy in the 60's & 70's my father placed porn in my bedroom. Relatives had porn available and with my cousins we were exposed to this filth. I learned as a child porn warps the mind and changes reality. It nearly destroyed my life.

I have lost friends to porn. They changed and lost their families, and so much more.

Today, it is not a matter of if we are exposed, it is a matter of when. I use filters, spam protection, and yet some filth still gets through. Pornographers are always looking for ways to beat our defenses. We must walk away from it and shun it as the cancer of the mind, which it is. If ever porn slips through my defenses, I remove it and then I talk to my wife. Talking, even while innocently exposed cleanses my mind and I can let it go. Together with my wife and the Spirit of the Lord as my final safety net I feel safe, though constantly vigilant protecting myself from this evil.

Thank you Elder Holland for your inspired words of counsel.

Johnson72
Salt Lake City, UT

What did that have to do with anything about porn?

JohnJacobJingleHeimerSchmidt
Beverly Hills, CA

Porn is the personification of selfishness and lack of reality. Real women have feeling, needs and responsibilities. Real women are tired from a day of taking care of their families whether it be in the home or on the workplace. Men need to support their wives by doing more, changing more diapers, helping around the house. Then your partner will be more open to you. Expecting the false porn glamour and expecting it from your spouse while expecting them to have all your kids while you do no work on raising them is an unrealistic and terrible path that only leads to pain.

CTR Stan
PROVO, UT

Johnson72, To answer you question: "What did that have to do with anything about porn?"

From the video it shows we have choices, and to choose to avoid porn is to choose to save our families. Porn is about selfishness, false expectations, and warped senses of reality.

I have a friend, one of the sweetest people I have ever known. When her husband choose porn, he started comparing her to the filth he was watching. She was thin and beautiful, there was nothing wrong with how she looked. (BTW: thin does not equal beauty.) He became so critical of her she sunk into a terrible depression. He said she was fat, when she was not. She gained a lot of weight and the depression increased. She eventually left him and is now married to a wonderful man, but she still suffers emotionally from the abuse inflicted by her former husband.

The message is we have choices and the choices we make affect those we love.

PGVikingDad
Pleasant Grove, UT

That was a terrific, powerful message. Excellent. Imagine a world...

LVIS
Salt Lake City, UT

Johnson72 | 11:26 a.m. July 15, 2011
Salt Lake City, UT
What did that have to do with anything about porn?

What do you think it dealt with?

BYU Alum
Cedar Hills, UT

I agree with Elder Holland... but then ask, why if many R-rated movies have explicit nudity and pornographic elements are they now allowed in classes at BYU? The Harold B Lee Library has over 300 of them now at location "Faculty Use Only". They used to be in the general catalog but they had too many complaints. In the 1990's when I worked at BYU, full fledged porn was used in certain marital counseling situations. Unbelievable, but true. We need to practice what we preach, and that includes at Church owned BYU. Porn is destructive.

JohnJacobJingleHeimerSchmidt
Beverly Hills, CA

"Johnson72 | 11:26 a.m. July 15, 2011
Salt Lake City, UT
What did that have to do with anything about porn?"

People must live in a world where no one feels pain, betrayal and worthlessness due to actions of others because of choosing porn over their families. The video encourages you to choose your family and their worth.

JWB
Kaysville, UT

Johnson72

I remember my father telling me 50 years ago, when I was a teenager something very special to me. His father passed away when my father was only 9 years old so his mother raised him as a single-parent. One time they were walking down the street in Ephraim, where they lived, and my grandmother and father were watching a couple in front of them. My grandmother said, "What that boy is doing is not appropriate and he is not treating the girl with respect."

I believe we all know what treating with respect means in relation to all people but especially with our wife. One thing in this video mentions "Fidelity" and we all know what means in our relationship with our wife. I could see the choice this individual or all of us have to make, do we treat our family with respect or not. In the dark side, you could see what the effects of pornography did to his wife and children. The look on the daughter's face when he was doing the right things and the happiness in his wife's face was an endearing smile as she showed love to the family.

Alaskan Ute
Fairbanks, AK

Well done! Timely and important.

Johnson72
Salt Lake City, UT

@LVIS I still don't know... and I watched it twice!

Eliot
Santaquin, UT

Johnson72, perhaps your naivete is a sign that you have not been touched by the devastating effects of pornography. Congratulations!

SA Lifeline
Lehi, UT

This is a very sobering video, on how simply viewing Pornography can impact our lives. Many feel like their little problem is not worth addressing, is not worth eliminating because I am the only one involved. This is a lie propagated by the devil himself. God would never condone this behavior. God wants you to choose him, and to choose yourself. Choose God, and yourself today and begin writing your own story of recovery. A story that requires that you come forward and address this behavior!

bgl
Santa Monica, CA

I think that if men can keep porn down to about a half hour a week, there's no real problem. I know many of you don't want to hear that, but it's probably true. At the extreme ends, yes--over exposure to it can be soul sapping and harmful--just like spending too much time on shoot-em-up video games, or too much time at the bar. But my gosh, when I was a kid my dad would take me to the barber shop (in SLC btw) and there were Playboys, Penthouses etc laying on all the tables. Men would wait for a chair and read the nudie mags. Big deal.

I think that if the Des News ran an article about people who have looked at a lot of pictures or saw a lot of clips of naked people in their lives and still lived productive lives and had good relationships, raised good kids and did great things for scociety, it would blow this story out of the water.

Pagan
Salt Lake City, UT

*Utah No. 1 in online porn subscriptions, report says By Elaine Jarvik 03/03/09 DSNews

That's the conclusion of a Harvard economics professor who tracked subscriptions to online porn sites. Utah ranks No. 1 in subscriptions, according to Benjamin Edelman, who reported his findings in the article "Red Light States: Who Buys Online Adult Entertainment?," published in the most recent edition of the Journal of Economic Perspectives.

Grammy3
SOUTH JORDAN, UT

This is for bgl I read your comment and got sick to my stomach. The reason why is that I was in a marriage that my husband had the same outlook as you do. That lasted for a few years but by the time we were married for seven years things started to really change. More and more he became involved with porn. Then when I was seven months pregnant he started to cheat on me. The first year of my daughters life he was hardly home. He would even go to bars to pick up women so that he could make his act out what he had watched. By ten years of marriage I had no self esteem and our marriage was ruined. He even started to become very emotionally abusive along with mentally. To this day he still cheats on his wives as he in now looking for wife number 4. So please reconsider what you are saying because porn is deadly. I have been blessed in finding a good man who loves and respects me for whom I am. Porn is poison.

screenname
Salt Lake City, UT

bgl-

A person can smoke their entire life and never get lung cancer. Does that mean smoking isn't bad for your health?

You're right that people who use pornography can have productive, good lives. But they'll never know what they missed out on.

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