I disagree with Spong's quote. "Spong quoted Divorce Online's
Keenan, who said video games are "used by men in particular as a means of
escape from an already unhappy relationship," and said that video games
shouldn't be blamed for previously rocky relationships." Because my
husband and i dated for 6 months before we got married and no gaming occurred at
all... Once we moved in together the addiction to gaming started from DAY 1. I
doubt I was in an unhappy relationship after being married for 24 hours. So not true in my case. FOr example it is sunday morning 11 am and
he's already spent about 2 hours on his game; no breakfast, no good morning
hug, nothing... to me, this man uses being mormon and church standards only if
its convenient to his case... but sure, ill get dressed in a hurry and go to
church like a good mormon wife to him! lol ha ha
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@My2Cents:So by your logic, if somebody owns a computer, then you should
stay away and not date them, because they are probably addicted to pornography.
Same goes with the television. If they own a fridge, they are probably obese
because they are addicted to food. Is that right?
@My2Cents: It's nice to know what generation you are a part of.My
wife and I are both gamers. It's what we do to unwind. Sometimes together,
sometimes separately. You can't blame technology for people's
inability to work out their problems.Increasing divorce rates are
simply our society evolving. People are used to instant gratification, and if
they aren't getting what they want out of a relationship they would rather just
end it and move on than spend years trying to sort it out.
I have played Video games my whole life. I was told not to play video games when
I got married because we would get divorced. I still play video games and my
wife is as happy as can be. My video game playing is not a problem
because I have no other problems or issues to escape from. Since I have no
issues I really cannot play more than 2 or 3 hours a week because I just get
tired of playing and want to do something else. I am not escaping anything so on
my own my brain tells me thats enough. My wife loves it because she has a little
time to do what she wants and when we are ready we then spend time together.On a side note, Maybe I should spend more time playing video games, then
I might be able to get past Level 29 on Nazi Zombies. LOL.
It's the only social life these gamer addicts have ever had so what else can we
expect from them.Maybe when these couples start dating they should
pay attention to the front of the TV sets, if a game pad is in sight let it be a
red flag. And if there is a unionization of a couple, game pads and consoles
should be banned from the home. Don't even allow them for children, if the
parents are addicted you can bet it will affect the children in the same way.
Scapegoating. The cause for divorce is the people in the marriage 100% of the
More people stay inside because of the recession? When will that excuse go
away? When spring comes there is never enough time to get things in order.
Perhaps these couples could volunteer to help elderly folks get their yards
spruced up or clean a highway or come help me with the garden. I don't know
whether to be glad the sun finally goes down so I can take a shower and go to
bed, or wish it would stay up longer so I could get just one more task
completed. There are too many good things to do in this world to find excuses
in video games.
I firmly believe the biggest precursor to divorce is marriage.
Trust me, no divorce on the horizon. Despite the appalling activity I
participate in (playing video games) I am happily married, and I am a devoted
father of one boy.
Yeah and what percentage of divorces are caused by nagging wives not allowing
their husbands to do what they want for a few hours a week to unwind?
three11stu, you might want to set aside the video games and have a heart to
heart with the wife tonight. He he he.
If playing violent video games led to violence, then I would probably be a
serial killer by now. My games of choice are Grand Theft Auto, Call of Duty,
and a bunch of other games that are pretty violent. And I am not a violent
person, and I am not getting a divorce from my wife(at least, that is what I
@bikelehi - I don't disagree that there is most likely a certain subset of
people that when exposed to violent media reciprocate with violence themselves.
But to say that the correlation across the entire spectrum of people is very
strong and valid might be taking it to far. For essentially every study that
says there is a definitive link there is one showing that there is no link at
all. At the end of the day the problem that I have isn't when
violent video games are blamed as a factor in some sort of violent episode, it's
when they are blamed as the primary factor, not taking into consideration all of
the other hundreds or thousands of other factors that taken individually or as a
whole could also explain a violent episode. It's frustrating to see the media
just hop on the "Oh, he played video games, that must be the answer."
bandwagon so quickly after any incident, not taking the whole picture into
@cliff_77I agree with most of what you said, however, to claim that
video games are a scapegoat for violence is just not true. Many
studies have been done that links more aggressive behavior and violence to
seeing violent images, whether they are photographs, movies/tv or video
games.The correlation is very strong and valid.
I'm pretty sure that if whoever wrote the title of this article had been looking
for something a little less one sided than it actually would be "Video-game
addiction blamed for 15 percent of divorces by people that were probably getting
divorced anyway".In addition, currently video game
"addiction" does not exist in any sort of formal way. The AMA
considered adding it as an actual condition, but refrained from doing so because
there just isn't enough information. Do some people play to many video games?
Yes, but generally speaking they are doing so in order to compensate for some
other issue in their life, just like any other compulsive behavior. Gaming
continues to be used as a scapegoat for all sorts of issues including increased
violence, aggression and now divorce. Perhaps instead of just looking for
something to blame we would be better off looking at the actual causation of the
problem, not just how it manifests...
"Drinking, drug use, infidelity, pornogrophy, criminal activity, bad
parenting, laziness, domestic violence, child abuse, immaturity"In a word, Selfishness.
More playing the blame game.You know what really causes divorce?
FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE. It's really that simple.
Pornography is the leading cause for earthquakes in....! Oh.
Wait. Video games are the leading cause for original sin and divorce
in this country! Sarcasm off. No drinking, no smoking,
It's not just men. I know a young man who just let me know that he is seeking to
get a divorce from his wife of three years because she spends all her time
playing video games.
The list keeps growing:- porn- romance novels- video gamesWhat next?
See, the real story behind this article is buried in the last paragraph. This
story is similar to a story running today on KSL.com about how romance novels
are as addictive as pornography. As with any addiction, when the activity
becomes more fulfilling than reality, or real-lifer interactions, then that is
when something becomes a problem. What this article asserts is that because of
the slow economy, people with less money are staying inside and playing
videogames to which they are becoming addicted, and leading to divorce. When
really what the study indicates is that in the down economy, more people are
staying indoors and playing videogames instead of distracting themselves in more
expensive ways, so videogame addiction is becoming increasingly cited as a cause
for divorce. I'd be interested to see if there is a decrease in other reasons
that people claim as reason for getting divorced. I mean, are there less people
getting divorced because of alcoholism or other money-related issues because
now, instead of wasting money on sporting events or shopping, their spouse is
spending it in front of a computer or game console?
Yes, life in moderation is good but spending countless hours when everyone else
is in bed on the computer is not "in moderation". So many thing cause
divorce but unfortunatly the access to technology etc. are destroying families.
Deadbeat Dad applies to attention given to family including video games, porn,
etc. when you spend 8-10 hours at work then another 6-10 hours on the computer
leaves a little for sleep. That is great for society. It happens more than
Let's see... What else causes divorce?Drinking, drug use, infidelity,
pornogrophy, criminal activity, bad parenting, laziness, domestic violence,
child abuse, immaturity, and on and on. I am sure that if your
spouse spent 100 percent of their time volunteering at a school or a homeless
shelter, and no time with their family, then they would get divorced as well.As with everything in life, moderation.