Video-game addiction blamed for 15 percent of divorces


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  • spoonfullasugar san francisco, CA
    July 5, 2015 12:11 p.m.

    I disagree with Spong's quote. "Spong quoted Divorce Online's Keenan, who said video games are "used by men in particular as a means of escape from an already unhappy relationship," and said that video games shouldn't be blamed for previously rocky relationships." Because my husband and i dated for 6 months before we got married and no gaming occurred at all... Once we moved in together the addiction to gaming started from DAY 1. I doubt I was in an unhappy relationship after being married for 24 hours.
    So not true in my case.
    FOr example it is sunday morning 11 am and he's already spent about 2 hours on his game; no breakfast, no good morning hug, nothing... to me, this man uses being mormon and church standards only if its convenient to his case... but sure, ill get dressed in a hurry and go to church like a good mormon wife to him! lol ha ha

  • suzanna014 los angeles, CA
    March 1, 2012 7:01 p.m.

    Hi Everyone!

    My name is Suzanna an If you yourself or you know anyone that has had this happen to them, could please email me at suzanna014@yahoo.com, I just have a few questions for you I am doing a class assignment on this topic, so only myself and my instructor will be reading it!

    Thanks in advance!
    Hi Everyone!

    My name is Suzanna and a recent study has been done that 15% of divorces come from video game addiction. If you yourself or you know anyone that has had this happen to them, could please email me at suzanna014@yahoo.com, I just have a few questions for you I am doing a class assignment on this topic, so only myself and my instructor will be reading it!

    Thanks in advance!

  • suzanna014 los angeles, CA
    March 1, 2012 6:59 p.m.

    If this has happened to anyone, I am doing a class assignment about this topic and would really appreciate it if you could answer a few questions on your thoughts about this happening to you. Only myself and my instructor will be reading the assignment.
    MapleDon? or anyone else?
    Please email me at suzanna014@yahoo.com

  • three11stu Saratoga Springs, UT
    June 1, 2011 2:47 p.m.

    So by your logic, if somebody owns a computer, then you should stay away and not date them, because they are probably addicted to pornography. Same goes with the television. If they own a fridge, they are probably obese because they are addicted to food. Is that right?

  • DeltaFoxtrot West Valley, UT
    June 1, 2011 2:37 p.m.

    @My2Cents: It's nice to know what generation you are a part of.

    My wife and I are both gamers. It's what we do to unwind. Sometimes together, sometimes separately.

    You can't blame technology for people's inability to work out their problems.

    Increasing divorce rates are simply our society evolving. People are used to instant gratification, and if they aren't getting what they want out of a relationship they would rather just end it and move on than spend years trying to sort it out.

  • Hugo Stiglitz Ogden, UT
    June 1, 2011 10:10 a.m.

    I have played Video games my whole life. I was told not to play video games when I got married because we would get divorced. I still play video games and my wife is as happy as can be.

    My video game playing is not a problem because I have no other problems or issues to escape from. Since I have no issues I really cannot play more than 2 or 3 hours a week because I just get tired of playing and want to do something else. I am not escaping anything so on my own my brain tells me thats enough. My wife loves it because she has a little time to do what she wants and when we are ready we then spend time together.

    On a side note, Maybe I should spend more time playing video games, then I might be able to get past Level 29 on Nazi Zombies. LOL.

  • My2Cents Kearns, UT
    June 1, 2011 4:38 a.m.

    It's the only social life these gamer addicts have ever had so what else can we expect from them.

    Maybe when these couples start dating they should pay attention to the front of the TV sets, if a game pad is in sight let it be a red flag. And if there is a unionization of a couple, game pads and consoles should be banned from the home. Don't even allow them for children, if the parents are addicted you can bet it will affect the children in the same way.

  • Not So Fast Salt Lake City, UT
    June 1, 2011 12:29 a.m.

    Scapegoating. The cause for divorce is the people in the marriage 100% of the time.

  • JRJ Pocatello, ID
    May 31, 2011 10:10 p.m.

    More people stay inside because of the recession? When will that excuse go away? When spring comes there is never enough time to get things in order. Perhaps these couples could volunteer to help elderly folks get their yards spruced up or clean a highway or come help me with the garden. I don't know whether to be glad the sun finally goes down so I can take a shower and go to bed, or wish it would stay up longer so I could get just one more task completed. There are too many good things to do in this world to find excuses in video games.

  • justamacguy Manti, UT
    May 31, 2011 5:51 p.m.

    I firmly believe the biggest precursor to divorce is marriage.

  • three11stu Saratoga Springs, UT
    May 31, 2011 4:56 p.m.

    Trust me, no divorce on the horizon. Despite the appalling activity I participate in (playing video games) I am happily married, and I am a devoted father of one boy.

  • sanpaco Sandy, UT
    May 31, 2011 4:34 p.m.

    Yeah and what percentage of divorces are caused by nagging wives not allowing their husbands to do what they want for a few hours a week to unwind?

  • Independent Henderson, NV
    May 31, 2011 4:11 p.m.

    three11stu, you might want to set aside the video games and have a heart to heart with the wife tonight. He he he.

  • three11stu Saratoga Springs, UT
    May 31, 2011 3:28 p.m.

    If playing violent video games led to violence, then I would probably be a serial killer by now. My games of choice are Grand Theft Auto, Call of Duty, and a bunch of other games that are pretty violent. And I am not a violent person, and I am not getting a divorce from my wife(at least, that is what I believe:)

  • cliff_77 West Jordan, Utah
    May 31, 2011 3:03 p.m.

    @bikelehi - I don't disagree that there is most likely a certain subset of people that when exposed to violent media reciprocate with violence themselves. But to say that the correlation across the entire spectrum of people is very strong and valid might be taking it to far. For essentially every study that says there is a definitive link there is one showing that there is no link at all.

    At the end of the day the problem that I have isn't when violent video games are blamed as a factor in some sort of violent episode, it's when they are blamed as the primary factor, not taking into consideration all of the other hundreds or thousands of other factors that taken individually or as a whole could also explain a violent episode. It's frustrating to see the media just hop on the "Oh, he played video games, that must be the answer." bandwagon so quickly after any incident, not taking the whole picture into account.

  • bikelehi Lehi, UT
    May 31, 2011 2:45 p.m.


    I agree with most of what you said, however, to claim that video games are a scapegoat for violence is just not true.

    Many studies have been done that links more aggressive behavior and violence to seeing violent images, whether they are photographs, movies/tv or video games.

    The correlation is very strong and valid.

  • cliff_77 West Jordan, Utah
    May 31, 2011 2:20 p.m.

    I'm pretty sure that if whoever wrote the title of this article had been looking for something a little less one sided than it actually would be "Video-game addiction blamed for 15 percent of divorces by people that were probably getting divorced anyway".

    In addition, currently video game "addiction" does not exist in any sort of formal way. The AMA considered adding it as an actual condition, but refrained from doing so because there just isn't enough information. Do some people play to many video games? Yes, but generally speaking they are doing so in order to compensate for some other issue in their life, just like any other compulsive behavior. Gaming continues to be used as a scapegoat for all sorts of issues including increased violence, aggression and now divorce. Perhaps instead of just looking for something to blame we would be better off looking at the actual causation of the problem, not just how it manifests...

  • JohnJacobJingleHeimerSchmidt Beverly Hills, CA
    May 31, 2011 1:41 p.m.

    "Drinking, drug use, infidelity, pornogrophy, criminal activity, bad parenting, laziness, domestic violence, child abuse, immaturity"

    In a word, Selfishness.

  • DeltaFoxtrot West Valley, UT
    May 31, 2011 1:31 p.m.

    More playing the blame game.

    You know what really causes divorce? FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE. It's really that simple.

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    May 31, 2011 1:27 p.m.

    Pornography is the leading cause for earthquakes in....!

    Oh. Wait.

    Video games are the leading cause for original sin and divorce in this country!

    Sarcasm off.

    No drinking, no smoking, no fun.

  • MapleDon Springville, UT
    May 31, 2011 1:19 p.m.

    It's not just men. I know a young man who just let me know that he is seeking to get a divorce from his wife of three years because she spends all her time playing video games.

  • Gruffi Gummi Logan, UT
    May 31, 2011 1:16 p.m.

    The list keeps growing:
    - porn
    - romance novels
    - video games

    What next?

  • Shawnm750 Lehi, UT
    May 31, 2011 1:09 p.m.

    See, the real story behind this article is buried in the last paragraph. This story is similar to a story running today on KSL.com about how romance novels are as addictive as pornography. As with any addiction, when the activity becomes more fulfilling than reality, or real-lifer interactions, then that is when something becomes a problem. What this article asserts is that because of the slow economy, people with less money are staying inside and playing videogames to which they are becoming addicted, and leading to divorce. When really what the study indicates is that in the down economy, more people are staying indoors and playing videogames instead of distracting themselves in more expensive ways, so videogame addiction is becoming increasingly cited as a cause for divorce. I'd be interested to see if there is a decrease in other reasons that people claim as reason for getting divorced. I mean, are there less people getting divorced because of alcoholism or other money-related issues because now, instead of wasting money on sporting events or shopping, their spouse is spending it in front of a computer or game console?

  • JZ42 Salt Lake City, Utah
    May 31, 2011 1:03 p.m.

    Yes, life in moderation is good but spending countless hours when everyone else is in bed on the computer is not "in moderation". So many thing cause divorce but unfortunatly the access to technology etc. are destroying families. Deadbeat Dad applies to attention given to family including video games, porn, etc. when you spend 8-10 hours at work then another 6-10 hours on the computer leaves a little for sleep. That is great for society. It happens more than people think!

  • three11stu Saratoga Springs, UT
    May 31, 2011 12:14 p.m.

    Let's see... What else causes divorce?
    Drinking, drug use, infidelity, pornogrophy, criminal activity, bad parenting, laziness, domestic violence, child abuse, immaturity, and on and on.

    I am sure that if your spouse spent 100 percent of their time volunteering at a school or a homeless shelter, and no time with their family, then they would get divorced as well.
    As with everything in life, moderation.