Wilcox: "Because as study after study tells us children are more likely
to thrive and to simply survive when they are raised in an intact, married home.
This is no small social fact, given that the primary purpose of family law is
not to serve the desires of adults but rather the 'best interests' of
children."About 30% of gay couples have children in the
household, usually the biological offspring of the partners (conceived in
previous straight marriages or via artificial insemination). Yet most states
deny these couples the opportunity to raise these children "in an intact,
married home," thus sentencing the children to the social pathologies
Wilcox describes. How can this be considered pro-child?
The worst abuse happens when the government gets involved and "tries to
help". I suggest googling: "A Critical Look At The Foster Care
System:How Widespread a Problem?" THIS is where abuse regularly
occurs (various studies quite consistently estimate the percentage of children
experiencing abuse while in foster care at 25-28%).
About 30 years ago, a close friend's cousin was living with her boyfriend when
this was much less socially acceptable. In a rage he killed her baby (not his),
and then felt bad because he knew there would be consequences for him. I had
been a student of behavioral science and was much interested in how children
would be impacted by moms living with boyfrineds, a practice then gaining
popularity. I'm glad that a study has been done to back what most of us have
already believed, just by reading the newspaper if nothing else. I hope that
education on this matter will help. The article is well written.I
have read about a study comparing children raised by single parents, who were
divorced, versus children raised by single parents who lost a spouse to death.
The children of the single widowed parents did much better statistically.
Very interesting article, thank you.
Here we go again. Get the government out of my business - so you'll have more
time to mess with someone's else's business. If hypocracy weren't
such a popular pastime I would think we should just make that illegal.You just can't separate freedom from consequenses no matter how long you hold
your breath. There are plenty of women that say getting away from an abusive
husband was the best thing they could do for thier children. Have a closer more
honest look at the data, it doesn't pass the smell test.It just
doesn't seem right to compare married couples that are not yet divorced and
unstable to the same people 10 years from then that are unstable. Or do we not
have a divorce rate of 50+% ??? No crossover huh?Maybe it's
judgemental narcisistic attitudes that lead to divorce and mistreatment of
children. People like that tend to point thier fingers at others whenever there
is a problem in society. God bless, but you may be divorced and unstable yet. Be
humble.As a widower, I object to the idea that my home is
statistically or otherwise less loving.