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Published: Tuesday, April 26 2011 9:57 p.m. MDT

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El Chango Supremo
Rexburg, ID

Wow I am going to sound old fashioned...

The traditional family is the way to go. Dad works, Mom stays at home with the kids. Mom & Dad wait until they are married to procreate!!!

My point is not to be judgmental. I understand that there are circumstances where this is not possible... things happen! I understand that. But, maybe our Grandparents got this one right!

El Chango Supremo
Rexburg, ID

And I'm not saying Dad shouldn't change diapers or do dishes!!!

I am completely aware that my Wife's job (stay at home mom) is often times more stressful than mine!

ComSen1
Sandy, UT

The problem isn't that so many single women and children are having babies out of wedlock, the problem is that we aren't PAYING them to do so by giving them a year or two of "National-Paid-Time-Off" every time they have another young'un!

Sounds like a sinister conspiracy to remove all women from the workplace and keep them home, barefoot and pregnant!

jenrmc
Fort Worth, TX

Single parents face a great deal of opposition in trying to find the best things for themselves and their families. Sometimes single parent families could be prevented if abortion/adoption were explored. Sometimes single parent families could be avoided if marriage was postponed until two people got to know one another better. None of this matters though when talking about the services available to single parents. We do a very poor job, even though we are getting better, at supporting and helping single parents. Child support enforcement has gotten better but custodial parents still don't get child support. I went an entire year without getting my support and was told the only thing I could do was wait and know that the non-payments were being assessed interest at a rate of 6% a year. Credit cards charge a higher rate in some cases than this. I would like to suggest non payment of support be placed on a credit report just as any other creditor does when a debt isn't paid.

Cedarite
Cedar City, UT

Some people function as married couples in regards to their children while on paper they are not married. In one case I know of, it is to protect the business assets of one parent from the old debts of the other.
In another case I know of, one spouse abandoned the other with three kids under the age of 4 for a hotter, less encumbered new woman. Not excusing it, just saying it isn't all people intentionally setting it up that way, and some are functioning as "traditional" families even though it looks different on paper.

Pagan
Salt Lake City, UT

'MIAMI One in four children in the United States is being raised by a single parent a percentage that has been on the rise and is higher than other developed countries, according to a report released Wednesday.' - Article

Wow. That's LOWER than the numbers from the Center for Disease Control. (CDC) They reported almost 40% of all children in America being raised by single parents.

The 'traditional' family is the ideal. But let's not pretend it is common enough to be used as a reliable goal.

Example? Bristol Palin.
Another Example? John and Kate plus 8.

We need to be able to provide better support networks to raise children BESIDES something that has a 50% divorce rate.

That is why I support same sex marriage, if anything for the estimated 9 million children being raised by same sex couples.

Source? American Academy of Pediatrics.

raybies
Layton, UT

This research is pathetic. Since when does parental-paid-leave have anything to do with whether or not a child is raised by a single parents? That's social agenda stuff... and should've been left out of the report...

IMO, a lot of single parenting occurs unnecessarily now because single mothers are put on a pedastal by the teenage entertainment industry, and it's become this "heartless" taboo for those who have children out of wedlock to give up their babies for adoption. An abnormally large percentage of heroes in popular media romanticize the orphan's quest for his "true" parents, and their bad behavior is swept under the carpet by our sympathies for their sad underprivileged lives.

That combines with the fact that in America there's still a fight over abortion. People still have a conscience about slaying their unborn children (which is a good thing). But because they are keeping their children, there's cognitive disonance. There's a lot of sad social pressure for singles to have children, to care for them when they should be learning to become adults, and in the end the children become trophies to their noble exhibitions of martydom...

USAlover
Salt Lake City, UT

Come on people, we ALL know the reason why America has the highest percentage of single parents. And it has little to do with affordability of daycare.

It's what's happening in the inner-city among our poorer minorities who are paid for having babies. The culture inside these societies doesn't even see a two-parent system as a viable option.

Obviously, we see single parenting at all social levels and in all neighborhoods but the disparity in percentages is what needs to be studied.

patriot
Cedar Hills, UT

Wasn't it Hiliary Clinton that made the infamous "it takes a village" statement regarding the raising of children? The truth is that is takes a father and a mother. It is a fact that more and more children are being rasied by a single parent and I give loads of credit to those single parents (mostly women) that take on this task. However, the best senerio is for a father and mother to do the job - how God intended it.

Idaho Coug
Meridian, Idaho

I certainly believe that children who have two loving, supportive, committed parents residing in the same home is usually the ideal. But divorce occurs in almost half of marriages technically rendering each a "single parent". Fortunately, we all know divorced couples who as single parents still love and provide for their children in every way necessary - sometimes even more than when married.

"Single parent" does not necessarily mean "one parent". In reality some children have two "single parents" who continue to love and care for them as much as they did when married.

Sorry Charlie!
SLC, UT

You know, if you allowed all parents to get married the number of children being raised by single parents would drop...

Just sayin'...

xscribe
Colorado Springs, CO

Since the DN decided it wise to allow God into the discussion, they should not have a problem with a dissenting point of view, in that there is no such thing as God, we all live and then die, and that's the end of it; people and all living things come and go. However, is the best scenario two parents? Yes. But the article only mentions some of the factors - none of which included divorce, so we must assume that was not included in the equation. And there's still that little hint at all this being the mother's fault for getting pregnant in the first place, and not emphasis put upon the father who fathered the child. I'll repeat from an earlier montra from another post: When/until we put greater responsibility upon the father for being in a child's life, abortion, single parenting, etc. will continue to rise.

And yes, you are being old-fashioned. Why can't the mother work and the father stay home? I would dare say that from the beginning of time, mothers have worked at various tasks apart from taking care of the home and child-rearing.

athought
Salt Lake City, UT

I was a married "single parent". My husband was never around thanks to his religious beliefs. Though the religion pushed families, his priority was giving everything to the church, anyone who said they needed money, charities, basically who said they're poor - not his family. I worked full time, took care of the kids, put them through school, etc. They're doing great now.

My youngest was married, and two kids into the marriage found out her husband was a sexual predator. She got rid of him before any damage was done to the kids, but he was court ordered to stay away from them and pay minimal child support. The oldest is 12 - she has yet to see a penny of support. I'm helping with bills, school and kids, or she couldn't do it. She hates the thought of public assistance, but can't afford insurance on the kids, so has to have help. She's struggling to get through school, so she can totally support for them, and isn't looking to replace the loser she was married to just for the sake of having a "typical" family. Sometimes there's no choice.

CougarBlue
Heber City, UT

What a sad commentary on the degradation of our society and it's values we so loudly proclaim.

suess
Salt Lake City, UT

Cougar Blue, I don't think this is a sad commentary. Why do you look at this as degradation of society and it's values? I look at it as people (single parents) stepping up and taking care of business. Perhaps this needs further research to see why. Yes, it's sad if these single parents are single for the purpose of benefitting from it by being supported by society. My thinking is that there are things that were buried in the closet because of stigma attached and single parents are now standing up for their rights. These include spousal abuse, child abuse, sexual abuse, infidelity, etc. Because of programs, and yes, even media, these things are being addressed, and the victims are not feeling they are alone to have to just put up with it and have no other choices. These things are alot of reasons there are now single parents. I applaud these people who leave these situations, there is so much harm done not only to the victims, but the kids, and would it really be better to leave these families intact, just for the sake of having a "typical family with a mother and father"?

Kitenoa
Salt Lake City, UT

Two married people can decide to divorce each other and end their relationship, BUT they must never "divorce their children". After all they are accountable for bringing their children into the world; They must never be allowed to shun their responsiblities of being parents to their own children, no matter the social hardships or financial costs, etc.

Hence, the divorce laws must be made precise and stronger to insure divorsees continue to be effective parents. Make it harder to "divorce children" at will by adult parents.

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