These so-called statistics can be a skewed sense of reality since it doesn't
address "happiness" within marriage. I believe their are many
"unhappy" long-term AND more recent marriages that survive because of
religion's disapproval of divorce. Many unhappy married couples may be hiding
the fact that their marriage is neither happy nor fulfilling because their
religious convictions tell them divorce is wrong. Divorce is discouraged by
religions so I think many suffer through bad marriages in silence rather than
admit failure or unhappiness to their religious leaders. Many are staying in
marriages for their family's sake, for financial reasons, for religious reasons,
for security, for appearance sake, or because they don't want to feel like they
have somehow failed themselves or their religion. Polls and statistics probably
don't tell the real story! How many of these long-term....or even less than
long-term marriages are not wedded bliss behind closed doors? Atheists,
agnostics, etc. have less pressure (especially religious) to stay in a unhappy
Another statistical piece is the number of divorces filed with county recorders
compared to the number of marriages. In that regard, Utah ranks second highest
in the nation. Number one Mississippi. Utah's divorce statistics are similar
to the rates in the southern Bible belt. The guess as to why the most
"religious" states have the higher divorce rates is that church
leaders too often use marriage for fornication control, pushing young couples
who probably should not marry into a "legitimate" relationship.As for myself, well over 90% of the weddings I perform are for strangers
(I'm like a contractor). The rate of divorce for the weddings I performed in
California is around 4%. Here in Utah it's over 25%.
So if you meet some non-scientific standard of being "more" Christian
than your neighbors, you are less likely to get divorced - and the way of
determining if you meet this non-scientific standard is to see if you get
divorced.Does anybody else find this logic rather circular?
No surprise to me that atheists and agnostics have a lower divorce rate. People
who marry for all the good reasons and not just peer/social/religious community
pressure are bound to have better marriages. This is true of whatever
background, but I think you'll find many people who identify with a religion
getting married because "it's the thing to do" not wholly because it's
the right thing for them to do.
Just wait. The L.D.S. church stats will also reveal sharp increases in temple
divorces.Let's not get smug. Trust me. There will be more emphasis coming
from the brethren, for the young adults to slow down and think a bit more,
before rushing into marriage. Too many returned missionaries these days are not
prepared and marry people like my daughter and fail miserably to even get away
from the simplest habits, like playing video games. This new generation just
likes to "hang out". It's the "hang out" generation
syndrome.This is a phenomenon that transcends both beliefs, between
Evangelicals AND Mormons.Get ready. You will be hearing more about it from
the general authorities in general conferences in the near future.Trust
Cat would post those sources from the Ensign, or the Christian Monitor but why?
Cats, please cite your sources.
so I think we like to count those non-active Christians as Christians when it
serves our purposes. but we want to exclude them as Christians when that serves
our purposes. that's what I gleaned from this article.
Marriages which include God are much more likely to succeed both in duration and
happiness. That's just a fact. Relationships that are without moral basis and
don't include God are highly unlikely to succeed under any circumstances.
Studies bear this out.
All this talk of 'morality.' And yet, the title emphises that the
divorce rate is DISPUTED. Not DENIED. If this 'time
honored tradition' is so effective, and such a critical part of our
society... why the omission that divorces occur? When
people try to actively campaign against marriage, at all, for others?
I would be intrested to know if there are any more current stats beyond the
1980's study for divorce rates for members sealed in the temple. Considering
Mormons marry at an earlier age then the US average they must be doing something
right if those stats are correct.
Oh boy, here we go.
As the institution of marriage itself is under attack, it will be even harder in
the future to track divorce rates, or whatever future virtual equivalent takes
its place. I was taught by my instructor in a 197 university class in child and
family development that formal marriage offers nothing more than any other
"committed relationship" except a piece of paper. Should
that view prevail how would we measure family stability? Good luck measuring
commitment changes without "pieces of paper" to assist us.