Quantcast
Opinion

Homosexual behavior publicly condoned but morally unacceptable

Comments

Return To Article
  • Mc West Jordan, UT
    Dec. 28, 2010 4:27 p.m.

    "Homosexuals don't try to impose an athiest lifestyle on you, so why do you try to impose a heterosexual life on them?"

    They don't? That's exactly what they're trying to do. The gay agenda is trying to force society to accept their lifestyle and values through legislation and judicial edict.

    As a society we recognize that adultery is not good moral behavior. We cannot stop people from doing it, but we don't condone or support it legally. We know that adultery is not good for our society. It is destructive to the family unit.

    Those who feel homosexual behavior is immoral and destructive are being forced to accept laws that condone and support it. To me it's like giving a tax exemption for the support of a mistress. That would show support and approval for adultery. We don't do that because we know it would encourage adultery and degrade marriage.

    Is it in the best interest of our society to promote homosexuality? Many of us say it is not, but our values are being ignored and put down more and more every day.

  • EDM Castle Valley, Utah
    Dec. 28, 2010 10:18 a.m.

    Ms. W:

    Are you kidding? Do you really believe that you chose your own sexual orientation? Or that it was gifted to you in adolescence, perhaps, because you were living a better moral life than the neighbor kid who turned out to be gay? - This is the kind of simple intropsection I meant in my original post.

  • blue dot! Eagle Mountain, UT
    Dec. 28, 2010 7:15 a.m.

    It is easy to find outrage in the actions, choices or lifestyles of others if your goal is to force them to live the way you think they should.

    Homosexuals don't try to impose an athiest lifestyle on you, so why do you try to impose a heterosexual life on them?

  • JP71 Ogden, UT
    Dec. 28, 2010 12:45 a.m.

    Thank you Star Parker for having the guts to stand-up for what is right even though its not the popular thing to say. Remember the old saying whats popular is not always right, and whats right is not always popular.

  • RedShirt USS Enterprise, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:58 p.m.

    To "Pagan | 3:58 p.m." just because the laws of men allow sinful behavior that does not mean it is correct.

    Since when is adultery acceptable? Even when Jesus gets the people to spare the life of the adulteress, he tell her to stop sinning.

    Since you are not a person of faith, you don't understand or can't understand that what the world does is not what God would have us do.

    To "Blue | 4:21 p.m." what do I condone that is against God's laws. You claim to know me and Gods laws, so please tell me, how do I "already do or condone _tons_ of behaviors that are 'contrary to God's laws' "?

  • Ms.W South Jordan, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:36 p.m.

    EDM:"I don't know whether to laugh or cry for those who lack the simple introspection that informs us that no one chooses a sexual orientation.

    And Ms. Parker's opinion only illustrates that if anything can skew a moral compass, it is religion. Bigotry hardly exists except in the name of God. "

    I don't know whether to laugh or cry at the simple introspection that informs us gays are not born that way. There is zero concrete evidence to back up the philosophy that homosexuality is innate. Everything I have seen has been inconclusive.

    The fact is, everyone has choices. Including gays. I don't believe homosexuality is wrong because my religion tells me its wrong, as someone on this forum pointed out. It is instinctively understood that its wrong. No man made philosophy is going to change that.

  • procuradorfiscal Tooele, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 7:20 p.m.

    Re: "The scariest people on Earth are those angrily demanding that we strictly adhere to 'God's morality' . . . ."

    The writer seems to be the angry one.

    His disgusted rant is much scarier than sincere Christian profession of submission to the will of a Loving God.

    Real Christians are committed to loving and serving all God's children, even if they lack the inclination or strength of character to abide God's law.

    Refusal of shrill demands to bend His will to the whim of libertines or the PC left is neither hateful nor scary, except to those making those foolish demands.

  • Mlawrence Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 6:24 p.m.

    I remember when I was younger the term "Christian" had connotations of love, compassion and good. Now all I feel when I hear Christian is hate, fear, ignorance and lies. If I were a Christian, I would be much more concerned with cleaning up my own nest, than poking my nose around others nests, where is doesn't belong. I truly do not remember that last time that I witnessed a real Christian act of kindness. I have witnessed thousands of Christian acts of hate, but no kindness. I see people like Ms. Parker rant in the name of Christianity all of the time, this is not news this is venom. Christian venom.

  • working class Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 5:18 p.m.

    Whether Ms Parker is right or wrong she has the unpleasant duty of making the latest line in the sand, others in the past being bibilical justification of slavery, Jim Crow laws, ability of racial minorities to vote, INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE, etc. She has to explain why treatment of homosexuals is in some way different from these earlier travesties.

  • CLM Draper, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 5:01 p.m.

    Many great comments here that have said it all. However, just to add my 2 cents:

    Both the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association state strongly that homosexuality is not a choice but a genetic condition and that homosexuals cannot change their fundamental attractions. Common sense tells us no one would choose to be gay in this homophobic world. Further, research shows that efforts to change a person's sexual orientation may be harmful to the person, leading to depression and suicidal tendencies.

    Gay people, just as the rest of the population, come in many moral stripes. Many keep their partners for life, raise children, and go regularly to those progressive churches who welcome them into the fold. And studies show those in the military do their jobs no differently than heterosexuals.

    With all of this in mind...how many fundamentalist families have agonized over their gay children, disowning them or attempting to change them, causing harm, alienation and grief for all concerned? Is this not also immoral?

  • Blue Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 4:21 p.m.

    RS1701: "...there are those that are so prideful that they think that the Prophets are 'out of touch' and that Gays should be allowed to marry, contrary to God's laws."

    Sorry, that argument has zero merit.

    You already do or condone _tons_ of behaviors that are "contrary to God's laws," and it's a darned-good thing for all of us that you ignore "God's laws," frequently and repeatedly.

    Come on - we've been through this before, right?

    Do we really need to list, ad nauseam, all the things that the Bible unambiguously states are "contrary to God's laws," but which for the sake of a just and sane society we rightly accept and/or ignore.

    It's not "pride," it's simply a matter of living in the real world as a rational human being in possession of a properly functioning moral compass.

    Ms. Parker's original thesis, that homosexuality is wrong because her religion tells her that it is wrong, is irrational and indefensible.

    The more you press the excuse of "it's contrary to God's laws" for your bigotry the more you reveal the Bible itself to be morally bankrupt.

  • hatuletoh Sugarhood, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 4:17 p.m.

    Is there any statistic more meaningless than Americans' self-reported assessments of how "moral" they think their current society is? Yet ask them about acts of "immorality" that they've personally witnessed or been affected by and you will get a very, very brief list if you get one at all. And the lists will generally includes items like "that boy I saw at the mall with the pierced lip and blue hair," or "that girl in the park with the low cut shirt".

    Oh wait, I thought of a more useless stat: any one related to a question asking an American to compare how "moral" he considers his present society in relation to how "moral" society was in the past. Always, always, always will the past be rated as more "moral", forever and ever, amen. This is why the study of history is every bit as important as the study of math. Gives us the much need perspective so as to not see apocalypse in every teenage prenancy (which, incidently, have decreaed in the past 50 years).

  • RAB Bountiful, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 4:11 p.m.

    Christians who profess the moral beliefs of the author are indeed a minority.

    American Christian morality is NOT at odds with the "morality" of the Bible. Christ made it very clear that the main tenants of the gospel were to love others as you would have them love you and to love God with all your heart. The Ten Commandments were the basis of all moral doctrine prior to Christ. It is disingenuous to claim therefore, that the Bible does not condemn slavery or rape or any other act of unkindness. If these are not loving acts, they are condemned by default.

    In as much as parts of the Bible contradict Christs principal teachings, we can safely conclude that those parts either should not have been included in the Bible, that they were translated incorrectly, or that they applied to an ancient culture that we no longer understand.

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 3:58 p.m.

    'The sin is the homosexual relationship, and sex outside of wedlock.' - Redshirt1701 | 2:49 p.m.

    Annnd yet, 5 states allow gay marriage.

    So, that 'sinful' gay relationship, it's sex is actually WITHIN a marriage.

    About sin...

    'I must agree that PRIDE is the greatest flaw in our nation's character. (sic) There are many who are proud that they are not homosexual...' - LDS | 1:58 p.m.

    So, it is 'sinful' to have pride...but it is NOT sinful to be proud you are not gay.

    When you realize that many are prideful, not just those who are gay, you realize that ALL should be held to the same standard.

    Not just homosexuals.

    Let's look at the 'traditional' example of marriage.

    Tiger Woods
    David Lettermen
    John Ensign - Still Senator of Nevada
    Mark Sanford - Still Gov. of SC.
    John Edwards
    Philip Giordano
    Robert Packwood
    Mark Foley
    Larry Craig
    Jim Gibbons
    Kevin Garn

    All adulterer's, and yet, follow the 'traditional' example of marriage between one man, and one woman.

    If you want to defend morality, make yourself moral before you claim others are not.

    Work to make divorce illegal.

    Then, come back to me.

  • Redshirt1701 Deep Space 9, Ut
    Dec. 27, 2010 2:49 p.m.

    To "LDS | 1:58 p.m." you forget that there are those that are so prideful that they think that the Prophets are "out of touch" and that Gays should be allowed to marry, contrary to God's laws.

    To be attracted to a person of the same gender is not a sin. The sin is the homosexual relationship, and sex outside of wedlock.

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 2:00 p.m.

    'There is much information about this available. Check narth etc.' - firstamendment | 12:16 a.m.

    I do enjoy checking Narth.

    The National Association for Research & Threapy of Homosexuals. Essentially, a group that tries to support that homosexuality can be 'cured.'

    As if it was a disease.

    Let's look at Narth's boardmembers....

    As one of their board members, George Rekers, was found to be in the company of a male escort. An escort found on a website in April, 2010.

    'A Heaven-Sent Rent Boy' - By FRANK RICH NY Times - 05/15/10

    Line:
    '61-year-old Rekers was caught by Miami New Times last month in the company of a 20-year-old male escort at Miami International Airport.'

    Narth is like Exodus International, and yet, Exodus' research only showed a 0.4% change to change orientation.

    I wouldn't go to Vegas with those odds.

    Rekers has since resigned from Narth.

  • LDS Cedar City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 1:58 p.m.

    I must agree that PRIDE is the greatest flaw in our nation's character. I agree with Redshirt1701 to a large degree.

    There are many who are proud that they are not homosexual and will not accept those that are. They may find members of their family among the "sinners".

    Let's not be casting stones. But rather be building bridges of acceptance, love and humility.

  • Anti Bush-Obama Washington DC, MD
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:43 a.m.

    This is just more pointless drivel that is used to keep the illusion of a two party system alive and our minds off issues that actually matter.

    My opinion on this is that anyone who is willing and physically able should serve the constituion by joining to military. You can serve the constitution or you can serve the president. I wouldn't serve tyrants like obama and bush who lead us into pointless wars and don't stand for the constitution at all/

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:34 a.m.

    'New research has shown that...' - firstamendment | 12:16 a.m.

    How unfortunate then that this research dosen't have an:

    1) Author
    2) Date
    3) Study

    That we can all find.

    Just the claim that it does.

    'If the rate of success is defined as the percentage of clients with a HOMOsexual orientation who became HETROsexual, then this survey found a less than 0.4% success rate.'
    - Religious Tolerance website
    The Exodus International study was done in 1978. The year I was born. It had a 0.4% 'success' rate. The other 99.6%, had no change.

    'AMA meeting: "Don't ask, don't tell" said to hurt patient care; repeal urged' - By Kevin B. O'Reilly - 11/23/09

    'The House of Delegates also said a lack of marriage rights contributes to health care disparities that affect gay families.'

    - The American Medical Association

  • Blue Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:31 a.m.

    JW: "The Deseret News ought not to accept anonymous comments."

    I disagree. The focus needs to be on the messages, not the messengers.

    Ideas transcend the people who express them, and should stand or fall on their intrinsic merits, not someone's name.

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:26 a.m.

    Homosexual behavior publicly condoned but morally unacceptable - Title
    From my point of view, I'm feeling increasingly like a minority in our country. Not because I'm black, but because I am a Christian. - Article

    These two lines are very telling.

    1) That 'minorities', like self admited black people, cannot possibly make 'moral' choices.

    2) That your morality somehow makes you the 'majority' and therefore 'right' in many regards.

    The color of your skin does not indicate what you believe.

    Only as much as the claim that homosexuals cannot be 'moral.'

    Should a gay person be able to go to church? Should they be able to follow doctorine?

    Should they be able to serve our country?

    The answer is 'yes.'

    And yet, when some make these attempts, they are labled as 'immorral' regardless of any actions taken or not taken.


    Redshirt claims Pride is the downfall of morality. Trying perhaps to tie this into the anual Gay Pride' parade downtown.

    Please review the 'days of 24' parade for other examples of pride.

    The military is not a christian branch. It is made up of many faiths and peoples.

    Even those you may not agree with.

  • EDM Castle Valley, Utah
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:15 a.m.

    I don't know whether to laugh or cry for those who lack the simple introspection that informs us that no one chooses a sexual orientation.

    And Ms. Parker's opinion only illustrates that if anything can skew a moral compass, it is religion. Bigotry hardly exists except in the name of God.

  • Redshirt1701 Deep Space 9, Ut
    Dec. 27, 2010 10:11 a.m.

    To "Sal | 7:41 a.m." actually, the decay of the US can be summed up with one word. Pride.

    Should there be "jobs that Americans won't do"?

    What about the arrogancy of the elites in politics and the media?

    Pride has even trickled down to the poor. Remember the footage after Katrina with the people standing around wanting "their check"?

    We are quickly approaching the point in the pride cycle where catastrophy is immenent.

  • Blue Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 9:48 a.m.

    Sal: "Our nation will continue see an increase in natural disasters as we abandon God's standards."

    You're saying that natural disasters are a punishment from God?

    What you are really saying is that God kills terrified, desperate children in floods, earthquakes and fires because someone opened a Victoria's Secret in the local mall.

    You are saying that God _could_ prevent natural disasters, but either chooses not to, or can't.

    Think carefully about that before you take it farther.

    procuradorfiscal: "But (morality) does not countenance the sliding scale. It does not reinvent or redefine moral values to satisfy political expedience or to curry favor with one or another voting constituency."

    Wrong, it absolutely does. Don't be so ignorant of history!

    We are hugely fortunate that religious morality _does_ undergo change. Otherwise, we'd still be killing people for working on Sundays, not letting people with birth defects into church and burning people at the stake for heresy.

    The scariest people on Earth are those angrily demanding that we strictly adhere to "God's morality" and shaking their fists at the "immoral" 21st century.

    They fly airplanes into buildings, remember?

  • Joe Watts Holladay, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 9:44 a.m.

    Star Parker put her name on her beliefs and while I totally disagree with her, I respect her for not hiding behind an anonymous name.

    So far there are about eight comments on this article, and seven of the eight, and perhaps all eight, have not been willing to sign their own names. The comments have been about equal on the pro and con side, but none are willing to put their name on their comment.

    The Deseret News ought not to accept anonymous comments.

    Joe Watts

  • JoeBlow Miami Area, Fl
    Dec. 27, 2010 9:35 a.m.

    "Yet, at the same time that Americans are increasingly at ease with homosexual behavior, the public says that the nation is not in good moral shape."

    Wonder why?

    Our banking system almost collapsed our economy in order to make huge profits and bonuses. Many are morally bankrupt.

    Our politicians vote whatever way will increase their campaign donations. Many are are morally bankrupt.

    Our corporations will lie, cheat, steal and kill to increase their bottom line. Many are morally bankrupt.

    And you are worried about a gay guy in the military?

  • Christy Beaverton, OR
    Dec. 27, 2010 9:20 a.m.

    How sad that Ms. Star, who identifies herself as a Christian, should think that "better understanding about other people and cultures/more diversity/less racism" is our ultimate undoing.

    Sensible people know that being gay or straight is not a choice, and neither is right or wrong. It just is. It's like eye-color or handedness, and just as innocuous.

    Perhaps Ms. Star would better represent her faith if she were more concerned with caring for the poor and the sick, and less about openly gay soldiers being allowed to die for our country.

  • procuradorfiscal Tooele, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 9:04 a.m.

    Morality is, of course, the elephant in the room blithely ignored by this administration.

    Christian morality includes tolerance of others' failures, even acceptance of those benighted by ignorance, heretical teachings, even corrupt self interest.

    But it does not countenance the sliding scale. It does not reinvent or redefine moral values to satisfy political expedience or to curry favor with one or another voting constituency.

    That was the beauty and strength of DADT. It permitted service by those whose strong suite was service and love of country, without justifying or exalting moral weakness.

    DADT was all good LGBT soldiers asked. But it was never enough for selfish, officious, unpatriotic LGBT activists.

    Their goal was never limited to equality, but to use the law to dictate moral redefinition.

    This administration is courting disaster by its implementation of this ill-considered and ill-advised DADT repeal.

    If it requires, not merely tolerance and acceptance of otherwise good soldiers who won't abide Christian morality -- as did DADT -- but rather, requires embracing LGBT immorality, it will destroy the military, and ultimately, the Nation.

  • PolishBear Charleston, WV
    Dec. 27, 2010 8:27 a.m.

    I sincerely doubt there will be any problems following the repeal of DADT. All of our allies have successfully and uneventfully integrated Lesbians and Gay men into their militaries without problems. And most American military personnel already say they serve or have served with Gay soldiers without any problems.

    For what it's worth, I really don't care if any soldier, Gay OR Straight, is disciplined or booted out of the military because of inappropriate conduct when on-duty. That's not what's at issue here. A qualified soldier should not be at risk for losing his career simply because of who he's dating on his own time. Under DADT, if Sgt. Mike is dating another man off-base, and his commanding officer is informed of this and asks him about it, Sgt. Mike can either lie or tell the truth. Either way he is jeopardizing his military career.

    Hold all soldiers to the same standards of professional behavior, regardless of their sexual orientation, and the military will be able to do its job just fine. We don't need DADT to accomplish that goal.

  • Sal Provo, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 7:41 a.m.

    Bravo to Star Parker for identifying the root cause of our decline as a nation, our immorality. Things will not improve economically. Our nation will continue see an increase in natural disasters as we abandon God's standards. When it is bad enough Americans will repent.

  • silas brill Heber, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 7:29 a.m.

    "And I believe, along with George Washington, who stated this clearly in his farewell address to the nation, that religion and traditional morality are critical to the maintenance of our free society."

    But even George Washington hired a known homosexual, Friedrich Wilhelm von Steuben, whose military training methods at Valley Forge were largely responsible for Washington's subsequent successes in the Revolutionary War. Washington promoted Steuben to Inspector General. He became an American citizen. The German-American Steuben Parade is an annual parade held in numerous cities across the country. Some of Steuben's training methods are still used today.

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 2:25 a.m.

    Birth or choice (it's birth, I never chose to be straight) it doesn't really matter. What people do in their bedrooms is not my concern. As long as it's consentual adults, it's none of our business. If you want to go impose your idea of morality on others, then go find a country that's like that. Iran could be one, they've got that theocracy thing going on.

  • Blue Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 12:41 a.m.

    "From my point of view, I'm feeling increasingly like a minority in our country. Not because I'm black, but because I am a Christian."

    Oh for Pete's sake! Four out of five Americans identify themselves as Christians. That's a minority?

    "As a Christian, I believe in the truth of traditional morality as transmitted to us through our biblical sources."

    No, you don't. Fortunately for civilization, American morality is sharply at odds with the "morality" of the Bible.

    The Bible sets rules for owning slaves, and never once says slavery is bad.

    The Bible describes the circumstances under which rape is OK, and never says that rape a crime - except as a property loss to the husband or father.

    The Bible says that women may never lead or instruct men, that people of different religious beliefs must be killed, that eating shrimp is an abomination, that women mustn't wear pants, that fields can't be planted with two crops...

    If you're seeking a basis for your bigotry, you'll have to do better than citing the Bible, because Christians have already wisely, sanely, chosen to ignore most of the Bible's "morality."

  • firstamendment Lehi, UT
    Dec. 27, 2010 12:16 a.m.

    Cause for concern is also that as we increasingly accept homosexual behavior as teach that it is normal, we increase the numbers of people who believe they were born gay. New research has shown that genetics play little role in homosexual expression. Environment creates homosexuals or illicits homosexuality.

    Activists have been loudly pushing certain concepts upon us, and these concepts are harmful. They do their own research, misrepresent facts, hire protestors, work in shifts on Newspaper comment sections, etc.
    There is much information about this available. Check narth etc.
    Crafting Gay Children is an interesting article for propaganda efforts (a little biased, but good information).
    I know many wonderful gays, and have gay family members that I love, but, through research, I now feel they would be happily married in eternal procreative relationships if it were not for propaganda efforts (activists were trained in Utah by a leading Canadian activist, ex-Mormon, anti-LDS propagandist, who publishes attacks on Mormons and Joseph Smith in Newspapers and other media, and helps run worldwide anti-LDS hate groups).
    Love gays, but promoting it is not compassion, it ruins lives: increases violence, death, suicide, addiction, prostitution, etc. Again, check narth.