Comments about ‘Pregnancy is different second time around’

Good luck with this pregnancy! I enjoy your insights.

At a women's meeting once a young mom-to-be complained about her frequent nighttime trips to the bathroom. I still laugh at the memory of her saying, "Oh, I'll be so glad when this baby is born so I don't have to get up in the middle of the night anymore!"

I don't know why I keep reading these articles. They're great (informative and fun to read), but the desire I once had to have children is fading steadily and fast the more information I gather about pregnancy and motherhood. What, if any, are the benefits of even having babies? Maybe having someone to care for me when I'm old I guess.

It is terrible that this author makes motherhood sound so bad that women like Not a Mom decide to abandon their call to be mothers. Our Church leaders have taught that a woman's duty is to be a mother, not a newspaper article writer. Birth control is against the teachings of the Church, but this author is apparently driving women to use it in order to avoid motherhood.

No, it's not Erin that makes pregnancy and motherhood sound bad. She's very realistic and positive about it, actually. The fact that so many people DON'T tell us the true facts makes it all the more surprising when reality strikes. It can be hard for women to find out that motherhood isn't this la la blissful experience like most men (and women) pretend it is or tell us it should be. I've always known raising a family is difficult. I've always known that childbirth is painful. But growing up as a little girl we're told that it's beautiful and wonderful and magical and that being a mommy is the greatest thing on earth. It is in one respect, which is why I'll have kids someday. It's the short-term part that's scary. All the more reason to wait until I'm mature enough to handle it.

And no, birth control isn't against the teachings of the church. Are you really that ignorant? Using it irresponsibly is, but birth control itself is hardly considered "wrong." However, spreading false doctrine is against our religion. Think about that.

Where does it say that birth control is against the teachings of the Church? Get off Erin's case. It is between the Lord and the couple whether or not to use birth control. Welcoming children to the family is wonderful, but going through a pregnancy stinks. Not a Mom ought not to base her desisions on discussion of pregnancy. Pregnancy passes eventually, it is tough for many women and the first few months of the child's life turn you into a zombie like creature due to the lack of sleep, but when that little infant gives you a smile, you forget all troubles.

You know, I differ in opinion with one point in the article. During my first pregnancy I told myself that I shouldn't complain about the discomfort of pregnancy because once the baby came, I might just want her back inside. After the baby came, even though it was hard to get up in the middle of the night, etc., etc. I never once wanted her back inside. I much prefer the fatigue of the newborn stage to the discomforts of pregnancy. It's so much more fun when you get to see and hold your baby. Plus, Daddy can take a turn once in a while, and you get a break!! And also, I put off wearing maternity clothes as long as possible with my first pregnancy. (Does anyone else wish they had better selection in maternity clothes (without paying an arm and a leg)?)