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I noticed myself getting caught up in this about ten years ago. Since then, I have deliberately taken actions to stand on my own two feet, to avoid such emotionally crippling people and meetings, and to take charge of my own life. I cannot even describe how much more fulfilled, confident, independent, and healthy I feel - without any medications and without any "sisters" trying to reinforce emotional dependency! It is WONDERFUL!
All I can say to women out there is EMANCIPATE YOURSELVES and CLAIM YOUR LIVES BACK!
The ladies in my Southern Baptist bible study classes were very vocal about their husbands and men in general. In my opinion LDS women get a bad rap perpetuated by anti-Mormons like my sister, also a convert, who blames her leaving the church on her depression over being pushed into trying to be a "Molly Mormon" when in fact she didn't try too awfully hard to follow any of the commandments.
Labels are damaging. Placing blame is damaging. Every person is unique and has a different story to tell. Just because there is a high use of antidepressants among Utah Mormons doesn't mean depression is higher here than anywhere else. Anti-depressants are prescribed for lots of reasons besides depression. We also don't self-medicate with alcohol and cigarettes.
Joel Campbell did a good job of showing there is bias in the media. It was offensive to me to see the picture with the temple in the background, a source of genuine happiness in my life. If I've ever been depressed it has had nothing to do with my religion. Life is hard and sometimes we get down. Using the gospel is one way to lift yourself up. Blaming your religion for anything means you don't have the right perspective. Accessing the atonement and living a clean life bring happiness.
CTF
RE:3:57 PM
Don't judge everyone by who your own contorted thinking. You don't know everything! I'm sorry you think you are the perfect Mormon! I really doubt it. I once had a bishop who thought people who were stressed and depressed had the spirit of the devil with them, and he thought this is why they suffered emotionally. So if don't know something don't jump to conclusions!
Your right! It's the devil that makes the church members depressed. Many say they have come face to face with the devil and that is why they have a strong testimony.
Re: Why get depressed
I think I live in the same ward that you do. This woman in my ward has authority over all!! because of her ancestor. So don't get depressed I just ignore stupidity. Otherwise the devil awaits us all.
Pretty shaky ground for the Utah counterculture crowd to start throwing a smug little victory parade.
My suggestion to these mistreated women is to go to your doctor and talk with him about other alternatives to these meds. The three main side effects to most anti-depressants are: weight gain, loss of sex drive, and refractory depression. Now THAT's depressing. If your doctor won't cooperate with you, I suggest finding another doctor.
You can't pray your way out of depression, despite wht some would think. Get your treatment and get better.
First of all, higher levels of anti-depressant prescription does NOT automatically equal higher levels of actual depression in the population.
Second of all, Utah has one of the highest levels of educational attainment in the nation. As one of the most educated populations in the country, Utah also has one of the highest levels of prescription of anti-depressants . . . along with a number of OTHER medications. You'll find a similar pattern in other high-education states such as Massachusetts - not exactly a hotbed of religious faith.
The truth is, Utah's high use of anti-depressants is far more likely to be due to a) high education, and b) low levels of self-medication through illicit drugs . . . NOT some imagined LDS culture of repression and super-perfection.
WHAT says Utah is depressing...I suggest living in Detroit. I find Utah to be a great place and that is why I moved here, NOT depressing to me!
WHATEVER says Mormoms are depressing...I would suggest the same action. The Mormoms I knew in Detroit (and I have lived several other places outside Utah) weren't depressing, in fact they were just the opposite.
I have a brother who is chronically depressed, I know what it can be like and what a problem it can be for some. I don't have the answers but one of the most effective things I have seen is for those who are not depressed to extend themselves and be friends with those who are.
When did you last visit a nursing home, that is one of the most depressing prospects for me as I grow older. Make friends, do something with others, you will both feel better whether you are in Utah or Detroit. One of our real challanges is to bouy up those who might be depressed, distressed, lonesome, sick etc. That should keep us all busy !
Sure there are people in the Church that have made mistakes, there are some that may have become members for reasons other than having a testimony of the teachings of the Church.there is the saying and it is true, there was only one being on the earth that was perfect. That person was Jesus Christ. In the Lords prayer Jesus prayed that we would be perfect as our Father in Heaven. Now that was a tall order, but He wanted us to do the best we could to become like Him. I don't think anyone should be depressed because of that prayer, but should live each day to the best of our ability.
We Mormons dont claim to be perfect, or to criticize others for not being as strong as another.
The leaders of the Church is not asking perfection, but gives the roadmap to acheive that goal.
SORRY, BUT YOU'RE WRONG! Latter-day Saints welcome different perspectives, so long as they're based on FACTS. The ABC News story had more holes in it than a piece of swiss cheese.
Treatment of the JEWS anyone?? 1:43 p.m. said -
"It's true that the LDS church has always taught it's members and projected themselves as the most persecuted faith on earth."
NO WE DON'T! Just another stupid cheap shot comment. Funny how you invoke the Jews in your comments, since you seem to follow one of the main nazi credos, which is, "Tell a lie often enough and it will become fact."
These comments are just two examples of the endless Mormon bashing crap which is flooding the Internet. The Mormon hating rules are simple. It's okay to lie about the LDS Church, and Latter-day Saints have no right whatsoever to counter the charges. If they do counter, just accuse them of suffering from a persecution complex.
The Mormon Times commentary was terrific.
If the media treated Islam the way they treat Mormonism, there would be riots in the streets around the world.
One thought concerning the discussion about feeling targeted as members of the church: Obviously, we have never suffered as the Jews have. In the past when we were beleaguered, it was primarily in a series of consecutive locales. When the extermination order was issued in Missouri, we were able to move to another state where we were safe for a while.
There was rarely a country-wide effort to go after us. When we got to Utah, we were fairly well protected because we were so isolated. Also, America--even when we were under attack--was much more civilized than Germany was when Hitler led the charge to exterminate the Jews. That was a sad and horrific day in the history of the world.
However, I do think we are treated differently than the rest of Christendom, held to a higher standard. I remember hearing in the news some years back about a Mormon woman from Idaho who threw her two toddlers in the river to drown. Though appalled, I recall thinking, "When was the last time you read--Episcopalian robs bank"?
That seemed to have it's foundation in the communication between members of the church across socio-economic lines regarding the efficacy of using these drugs for mild depression and a number of off-label uses (ADD, ADHD, menopause, post-partum, menstral etc.). Further, we had hundred's of thousands of Union (labor) clients throughout the country (mostly trades) and found that their utilization was far lower. Utah has a very small portion of Union members as compared to the rest of the country.
So, while indeed the article was inflammatory, the nemesis of depression as based on drug use in Utah has far more to do with "medication education" than religion.
If you're depressed, investigate the source. If it's your church, then see what about your church is depressing you. Perhaps you can fix it. If it's your kids, discipline them and the house change will be phenomenal. If you are having depression as a sympton or medical condition, treat it. If you are depressed for no reason, well stop being depressed. Be happy. God loves you.
A few years ago the headlines screamed:
"Utah has more rapes than New York City"!
Fact was, Utah's rapes per thousand was 7 and New Yorks was 6.8. Justified headline? Nowhere in the study were reporting levels and other factors, indicated.
Studies to say whatever you want them to.
Some studies are paid for by Breweries that show alchohol is good for you, others show it will kill you.
Most studies are generally self serving.
Always ask, who paid for the study and what questions were asked?
More often than not, the surveys are sloppy and incomplete.
For example the assumption is that,
Anti/depressant use = Depression = Mormonism
Therefore, Mormonism causes depression.
Questions not asked nor answered in this survey:
1-What% of anti/dep users in Utah are Active Mormon?
(active Mormons are only 50% of Utah's population).
2-What% of users are treating migraines or other conditions?
3-What is the percentage of the Nation's population, treating depression with legal medication versus alcohol, illegal drugs etc.
The conclusion that "Mormons are more depressed", based upon "this incomplete study", is laughable and would be thrown out of any High School Statistics course.
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However, the shaft of the reporter's darts in this report come straight from the heart of a patent dislike for thinks Latter-day Saint. But that is nothing new, and the agenda of the bigoted is unlikely to change any time soon. 'Twas ever thus!
Have you read what the naysayers said about Jesus?
Yet, through all the storm and disappointments of life, the gospel of Jesus Christ keeps me happy and hopeful.
Keep the faith.
It seems that so many are willing to throw out any juicy little libelous tidbit and pass it off as absolute fact.
There used to be (probably still exists) a code of honesty and ethics in journalism.
Perhaps such ethical reporting does not apply to reports about LDS church-who seem to be fair game to everyone about any issue.
On depression: It is an illness. It is more than feeling bad because of a bad situation. Cause? Your theory is as good or bad as mine. I don't know.
I can choose to be sad, or depressed or angry or unpleasant to others. The most important gift our Heavenly Father gave us is the right to choose what we think, what we will become, how we will treat others and whether we feel angry and unhappy. I know some folks have clinical depression because their brain chemistry is not working properly.
Daily scripture study and prayer will certainly motivate us to be thankful, strive to overcome our shortcomings, repent of sins and treat others as we would like to be treated. I know it works because I reap the benefits. Obedience to God's commandments make us happy. Sin brings just the opposite. I know from experience. Take control of your life.
Most of all, a simple blood test did wonders for me. I found I had low levels of testosterone. Wearing a patch everyday has helped me very much. I'm not cured. But now I have more chemicals in my body that help me live a better life. Then I left religion behind, and all that went with it. The clarity I have now far surpasses the fake answers I was given by religion.
So depression isn't just a LDS problem. It can happen to ALL humans. The thing is it's a mental illness. People look at mental illnesses different than other illnesses. Factor in religous teachings that claim illnesses are caused by breaking your god's rules doesn't help.
The ABC story does sound like a main stream christian slap at the mormonism. That's not surprising when most religions claim the are the only way to heaven/afterlife/god/happieness, etc., etc... It's happened before, and it will again.
You make things worse by condemning the victim because you believe that people get what they deserve - and so if someone is suffering in their life, you automatically, and ERRONEOUSLY, assume that they deserve it!
This makes the world nice and safe for you to run around thinking you are superior to everyone else because you are "blessed" for your righteousness, but you are the ones living a lie.
Depression is NOT about SIN! You cannot EARN your way out of it by obedience to anyone's commandments.
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