Comments about ‘Porn debate emphasizes healthy views’

Views on sex in america are archiac and repressive. Parents and education are forbidden to give the children any sex educatuion so it has been left up to their own curiosity and experimentaion to get a sex education, often times with tragic results in preganancy, drugs, and suicides. Pornography with sex should be considered a service to parents and educators alike to properly give young adults in puberty the information they crave but don't understand. A parent should be allowed to show visual as well as oral information to their children without being persecuted and jailed trying to give their children some kind of sex education and real world information without the young having to resort to experimentation and exploitation by others. Adults have grown to fruition with the stigma that normal sex is negative in human behavior. Sex and cohabitaion should be scorned as it is unhealthy in mind, body, relationships and family unity. Pictures and photos of naked human bodies should be used more positive as a tool for sex education for those in puberty and adulthood. Homosexuals can openly display their abnormal human behavior but its a crime to tell the truth about sex.

Healthy porn, now that makes sense. The sexual urge and response is a biological process and can be used and abused both. Education about it is to be applauded and information on the biology as well as the stimulating aspects is good. Understanding this can help a lot of severely repressed people to relax a lot more and assuage the guilt over feeling good.

Here in Colorado, we have had a "Christian killer", Michael Murray, who had thousands of pornographic images on his computer. Pornography dehumanizes people to the extent that society is threatened. It is hard to value the sole of an individual when only base instincts invade the mind.

Porn was my downfall. It was instrumental in my seeing women and girls as objects and not as persons. I had been raised by very controlling, and in today's world, abusive parents so when I was able to get on my own I wanted to control.

Porn was visually stimulating and allowed fantasies that began to be more important than everyday life, almost like a drug. If I felt bad for whatever reason I could find relief in porn. Later I was able to transfer that to abuse of others.

I was controlling and abusive to all around me. Luckily, I was found out and through therapy I was able to make changes in my life. Where once I was in self-destructive mode and taking others with me, now I am no longer that way. Porn is a self-defeating behavior, IMO.

Whats the point? Who is trying to kid who? Get this crap out of here. SICKOS!

I like the term porn actor rather than porn star. If you have never heard of the person they aren't a start in my opinion, just an actor. My coworker is a part time actor but I wouldn't call him a star.

Porn doesn't seem to be as much of a problem in Europe where it is more in your face. While at the airport I saw a row of magazines. Disney, Disney, not Disney!! I laughed at the juxtaposition but it reminded me of how different Utah is.

The real reason I think porn is a lesser issue in Europe is they have a different attitude about sex--it is taught in a healthy way at an appropriate age by adults to teenagers. I don't feel that should be the realm of teachers but done in the home. But it isn't happening as evidenced by our teen pregnancy rates. It is almost like people believe forbidding sex means kids will listen. We really should be more honest and open about these issues.

While I saw porn in Europe everywhere, I am glad I don't here. Maybe it would have been okay if I was sensitized to it, but I wasn't so I always get a bit shocked by it.

If we are going to look at causes of what bring unhealth sexual attitudes lets also look at how religion contributes to this.

Religions for some reason take it upon themselves to make very strict secual rules, forgetting that one size seldom fits all.

Mormons are taught that it is preferable to die rather than commit sexual sin. The fact that one uses protection doesn't matter, it is the act itself. If one has a wife in a vegatative state, there can still be no exception to this rule.

Catholics forbid married couples to use contraception at all, consequently, where only one believes there is friction in the marriage, where both believe there is either a less than full life or there is un-necessary guilt.

Moslems believe women must cover their head and whole body their entire life and must never go out of the house unless they are accompanies by their husband or male relative. In Saudia Arabia little girls were pushed back into a school to die because in their haste to get out they tried to leave without their head coverings.

All these rules specifically degrade the quality of life and in general pervert health sex attitudes.

While I would agree that twisted hard core porn can be damaging to a healthy sexual outlook, people take this too far.

In Utah many people believe that the nude figure in art, such as is common in churches in Europe is immoral. For someone to believe this shows they already have been twisted, probably not by porn but by false doctrines taught by several religions which can also help to damage a healthy sexual outlook.

All porn does not fit in the same basket. What is refered to as soft core porn, merely showing the female form is not un-healthy and serves a purpose to portray beauty.

Yes porn can be a self defeating behavior as can drinking alcohol if one doesn't do it responsibly or gun ownership or driving.

Each of these adult activities have their place in adding to the quality of life or they can be destructive. Its your choice how you handle it.

Porn is always harmful to anyone and everyone it touches (including and especially the present or future family members of the porn consumer), the only question is how much harm.

It gives a distorted view of sex and relationships that make healthy interactions difficult or impossible.

That it is powerfully addictive as well makes it worse.

Society is doing miserable job protecting children from exposure to porn.

Porn is a drug. It effects the same part of the brain as hard core drugs. Thus, you become addicted and want more and more to keep up with those cravings. It is all around us. Inviting and enticing 24/7. We are all at risk and need to keep our guard up at all times. I know there are those who would not agree with this. But that's their problem. I've seen first hand what it does to families and loved ones. It is ugly, dark and uncaring, like a wild animal tracking down it's prey. That prey is you, me, family, friends and the whole world.

I'd be curious to see a study on who has healthier sexual attitudes.

People who abstain from porn but grow up in sexually repressed societies, due to religious influence.

Or people who grow up in a secular society where porn is not thought of as any big deal.

No doubt each would have their own set of sexual problems, but I'd still be interested to see which is more damaging.

Porn is an illusion. Men see the women that pose as actually being open to them and accepting them, when in reality there is no real acceptance or love. The girl posing doesn't love the man looking, except as her own emotional need is craving attention.

Further, I can attest that porn deadens the heart, and clouds judgment about others.

I also learned that it is impossible to both love someone and look upon her as an object that exists only to satisfy a physical urge. Love is outwardly focused. Pure sexual love (a very real and God-give joy) is outwardly focused on the other partner's feelings and satisfaction. Corrupted sexual love is inwardly focused on one's own desires - it is not giving, it is consuming.

As a doctoral level counselor, I have seen pornography destroy families in a way that I've never seen before. It makes alcohol look like orange juice. Pornography is especially atrocious because it has the capacity to never leave the mind in a way that alcohol leaves the body. I have worked with people who still remember images they saw three decades ago. I fully agree that having a healthy sexual relationship is an essential part of long-term adult relationships. I also agree that many religions have marginalized its importance. However, pornography portrays sexual partners and behaviors in a way that an individual is never going to experience. The drive to experience sex in these unobtainable ways leads to dissatisfaction with one's partner and is often the downfall of their relationship. The only people I have ever known to have not had problems due to pornographic material are couples who watch pornography together or who allow their spouses to have multiple sexual partners. I am not sure that that meets anybody's standards of family values.

DON'T TALK ABOUT IT...DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!

In the last 25 years as porn has become more available, rape has gone down 80%. Just because Gordon Hinckley kept touted it was more addictive than drugs got every so scared. It should be discussed between the couple. If one has a problem, leave it alone. If not, and you're an adult, you decide.
I get sick of offenders blaming porn. Take some responsibilities guys. If Porn is addictive, and as widely used as reported, it's either not as harmful as they say, or it's not the problem they say. Where are all of these murderers and rapists if nearly everyone has seen porn? It can't be both.

Can you tell me (all of us) which is more damaging in having sexual attitude.

To live in Europe or Japan where porn is no big deal, or to grow up,

1. Mormon

2. Baptist

3. Catholic

4. Moslem

I really would like to know.

Porno starts are nothing but paid prostitutes that allow people to view them. Porn does nothing good for society. It trivializes and cheapens love/sex. Those who argue elsewise either are brainwashed or can't find someone provide them with a loving relationship.

Studies show that religious people in general have more satisfying sex lives because they view sex in the context of meaning and commitment. Pornography is the antithesis of this. It views sex in the context of exploitation, and objectification. One of the reasons that pornography is addicting is because it never satisfies. You want more and more, but what you get does not satisfy, so you go to more and more extreme forms. You can never get enough of what you don't really need.