Comments about ‘Single sisters in good company’

Thank you so much. You made my day. I will share this with others

So how does this not sound like a "cosmic consolation prize"?

I agree more with this last comment than I do with the writer. Being sigle and waiting you will always get the consolation prize even in the next life. There isn't anything that anybody can say that can help the hurt that comes with being single in Utah or not. When I hear them say it's not your fault then it is usually men or married women.They don't know how people feel. We all look at it differently.

Babysitting and wage earning and assembling humanitarian aid kits gives very little solid purpose to life. What we need is NOT to be told that our lives are pointless, "but just wait until you're dead and everything will be okay." We need guidance on using our lives for something with real meaning.

Stop listening to people who only value your worth as a wife and mother. I had a really fantastic career and traveled extensively. Didn't get married until I was 37, with absolutely no regrets. Being a wife and mom is great, but it is only ONE facet of who I am. There is no way I would sit at home consoling myself with Ben and Jerry's waiting to be someone's polygamous wife in the celestial kingdom. Sister's-- you all have God-given talents, USE THEM!

Oh really. There's a lot more "quality" women than men your age. I suppose you think that includes you. It's probably that condescending attitude that got you where you are today. And all this time I thought the "quality" women were already taken.

Too many singles figure that they deserve someone better than whoever they are going out with. A woman will hold out for a prince, not realizing that she is driving away knights, until the day that the knights stop knocking on her door. A lot of guys aren't any smarter.

It's not enough to find the right partner. You have to BE the right partner.

I would hate to be Mormon and Single. I read a really awful article in the Church News not that many weeks ago. It was about a Single Women becoming 30 and returning to her Ward. How her chances for Marriage would be severly hampered. How the Bishop was supposed to give her a CALLING, and make her feel as welcome as possible. I could only think about how limiting that was and how there are Mormon Single Dating Sights. How narrow and backward the authors scope was. This is why some members become Inactive and or Marry Non Members.However not always because it was always limited, when some of these women where young they may have turned down more then one good man,because of one silly reason or another. Sometmes you have to think outside the box. The main thing is can He take you to the Temple, and is he going to treat you decent. Some of the people who turn down everyone are not that acceptable themselfs. I have never been Mormon and single. However I did attend Institute and I do observe. God has forgiven Elders for many sins that Mormon Single Women haven't.

There's a reason polygyny is a legitimate eternal principle... as unpopular as it is down here.

Better to remain alone than to marry someone you don't love, or who doesn't love you - don't settle, ladies.

Nothing is wrong with being single! When will the brainwashed wake up to see that there is a full, meaningful life ahead with or without marriage and children?!?

Once i left the LDS Church, I was able to accept myself as an intelligent, attractive, interesting unmarried woman in her late 30s. I met my husband (also ex-Mormon) shortly thereafter.

My secret: letting go of the negative Mormon messages playing inside my head.

As with everything else in life this too shall pass.

This article is well-written but misses some basic points.

The author appears never to have been married which puts her in an entirely different category.

I was married for 15 years and have been single for 10. Talk about a bitter pill. It is not good for (wo)man to be alone. I want someone to share my day with - my hopes, dreams and disappointments - even the darn toothpaste war would be welcome at this point in my life.

That said, I am writing a book, have my own blog, volunteer at my local Episcopal church doing community outreach, volunteer at a day program for stroke survivors, have started 2 book clubs and am working on a county wide club - in other words - I am anxiously engaged.

I have all but stopped asking God to send me a man - I can find one all by myself.

I would recommend that other singles consider moving to a state where they might actually find a man who is not on his 3rd marriage with someone in their 20's. Just a thought.....

In my experience as a married person outside the state of Utah, there is usually a reason (or many reasons) most people are single.... not an all encompassing list but one that most fit into is:
1. too picky
2. too unrealistic
3. too stubborn
4. too passive (the other party has to be the assertive one)
5. fear (marriage is tough with plenty of risks)
6. too independent (some people really don't want to be married even though they say they do)
7. easily offended
8. selfish
9. too intimidating (usually not the fault of the individual but the fault of the seeking party who has squandered their personal development)
10. too lazy (it is hard work to date and to consistently pursue a worthwhile goal/reward when the odds aren't great)

Interesting how the remedy to the above is marriage. I have an element of all the above in myself and the greatest tool that relentlessly has helped me to work on the above has been my own marriage. It is the chicken and the egg dihlema... how can one get over these things with out marriage, yet how can one get married with too much of the above!

I couldn't agree more to Single-married.

Sisters, just easy on yourself, and others.

I would say it has been my experience that too many girls are picky. I'm not considered a "so-called prince" or just didn't make the cut from their "picture-perfect" spouse list.

Having moved back to Utah after a long stint overseas, I'm amazed to see so many lonely single adults here. Marriage alone is not enough to make you happy. If you are not satisfied now with where you are in your life, you will never be happy even with a spouse and children.

An individuals value is not placed on the status of their lives, but sadly so many are clouded by their own inadequacies that they ignore their capacities and capabilities.

Get up and stop worrying about what you don't have, and do something good besides feeling sorry for yourself.

That is so judgmental. One of the major reasons I've seen for women not marrying in the normal time frame (21-25) is that they are competent. There is nothing like being competent to drive away men. Most men evidently want fluff. By the way, despite being competent, I married within that time frame but I happened to find one of those rare men who are not easily intimidated (maybe because they have enough going on in their brains that they don't need to worry about competing with their wives).

It's rather disheartening to see how many folks think the blame is entirely on the woman. "She's too picky." or "turns away the knight waiting for the prince."

It takes two. As as was stated in a church magazine -- guys need to quit just "hanging out" and need to start asking.

And as my husband has said, it's easy to just find someone, the hard part is finding someone that is worth it.

What does this article have to do with female siblings who both aren't married?

At the "ancient" age of 33, I got married to my lovely wife. Up until that point, I felt that I was plenty eligible, plenty liked, plenty interested, but nothing significant seemed to materialize for a long time. I suppose I had my doubts and concerns, much like those expressed by the writer. They're only natural. But deep down I always felt that a serious relationship would happen.

And it did. And yet I still haven't the faintest idea what the key to the whole thing was! (And despite what everyone and their dog will tell you, I highly doubt anyone knows the key to love, even the young fools who get hitched as freshman, etc., etc.)

It isn't easy to do, but taking it easy, going with the flow of life, and not overanalyzing/despairing is the best way to live, no matter what your situation.

If marriage is in your future, I'm convinced it'll happen with or without your planning.

I have decided not to marry or have children. It is the right thing for me. I have a fulfilling and creative job in education and interests to keep me busy for a lifetime. I have enough family and friends with kids that I don't miss out on family style events or holidays. I come and go and as I please. Save and spend my money as I want. Keep my house as clean or dirty and I choose. In other words, I am my own person. I do not need someone else to make me happy or whole. Is it hard to go to church and listen to all the marriage, family, and children stuff? Sometimes. But then I look around at the people that are in unhappy marriages or struggling with children and I am SO, SO, SO glad that is not me. Find happiness where ever you are in life. Believe me, life is too short to be wishing it away on the could haves, should haves, or would haves.