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Published: Wednesday, Jan. 2 2008 12:08 a.m. MST

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Charles Wray Jr

I think it is a great Idea. It should be a nessisaty for all homes with kids. The internet is full 0f porn these day's so this would help parent's deal with this problem

Nick

A book like this is very much needed in these days.

Clare Q.

I don't know. This book seems a little creepy. I would certainly buy it for the weirdness value, though.

Also, it will probably be hard to deter almost-teenage boys from searching for porn.

Fabiano

This is a very good idea, although I need to see the book itself before I say how well it does the job. Children are going to be exposed and get their information about porn one way or another. It is inevitable. Therefore, I think it is very helpful to provide parents with tools that they can use to help their children understand the difference between porn and reality, and to help them protect themselves from being pulled into the addictive patterns of porn use and its results.

Wowzer

I think this will help

Help Wanted

Glad to see another tool for helping our kids -- one tip: freaking out when your child stumbles onto online pornography doesn't really help. It makes them more afraid to tell you next time.
Best thing you can do when it is stumbled upon (there are people out there who set traps purposefully -- similar site names to safe places, etc.), is to turn the computer off -- the creators of porn also make the sites uncloseable or like a domino effect -- opening one opens more & more.
God help us all in this battle for innocence!

T. Martin

Shame is the main driver of sexual addiction. Any way that can be used to reduce shame is good. Talking about this issue as a normal challenge facing children will take away the sting when it is encountered and allow kids to not withdraw into depressive cycles of addiction. Effectively dealing with pornography is the issue facing the american family, whether we want to believe it or not the problem is gynormous and the less we know the worse off families will be. Especially in the Church where the shame factor is magnified.

The Andersons,

We haven't read the book yet but we will. The concept is excellent i.e. helping parents to become actively involved with preventing this devastating addiction. It is exactly that (an addiction) and working with those trying to move beyond it's horrific grasp is sobering..and yet rewarding as they gradually succeed. For those involved, contact LDS Family Services about their 12-Step Pornography Addiction Recovery Groups. The program really does help.... if you're ready to try. Thank you Karen Child for helping in this arena.

Steve

Maybe the reason some kids are "scared for life" is due to the reactions of their parents and those around them. Freak out over them seeing something you don't approve of and/or making a huge production out of avoiding it only spurs their curiousity even more (the same is true for anything you want your kids to avoid). And don't assume just because they're not doing it (as far as you're aware) in your house that they aren't doing it elsewhere, they're human to and naturally interested in sex as much as the next person.

And when we say "porn", do you mean simple nudity or pictures depicting sex acts? Because I see many parents get up in arms over published artistic nude photography by the likes of Jock Sturges, Sally Mann and David Hamilton (calling it porn) and I don't see why... nudity is natural.

interesting add

While reading the article I had to scroll down past an add of a very seductively dressed woman with half her breasts showing...kind of odd advertising yet 'revealing' none the less...

stop pornography. #1 spiritual killer of men...hence Pres. Hinckley's talks each general priesthood meeting.

Computers...wonderful for many things, so harmful for others. Satan sure knows how to use the tools of today!

Anonymous

Steve, your comment "nudity is natural" is exactly the kind of thinking that Satan loves.

My nudity is natural to me. Your nudity is natural to you. Your nudity is NOT natural to me, nor do I want it to be, unless you're my spouse, which you are not. Wanting, drooling, desperate to see others' nudity is simply voyeurism, and leads to destructive and abusive habits of self and others.

cricker1

Steve, don't you mean "scarred for life", not "scared for life"?

Get some credibility man.

hmugar

As a mother of a son, this is a very helpful tool in finding preventive ways to avoid this from happening in our home. If we can stop it whilest they are young, hopefully we won't have the problems we see so prevalent now in adults. Props to these two ladies, who have seen a vision and are getting something out there for those who need it.
I wish you all the best!!

Steve - Re: Cricker1

Obviously you knew what I meant despite my typo, so no need to be rude.

almost lost

pornography addiction is real. i have found very few things that can help. belief in a higher power is part of it but also understanding how your brain works is crucial. if someone is really seeking help with this addiction, i found help at inner gold.

Steve - Re: almost lost

Oh no doubt, yes... addiction to pornography is real. And yes it's a bit sinful to lusfully be looking at these depictions of sex acts. But for those who lump artistic nudity (whether in sculpture or photography) in with "porn", I think they're wrong to do that. They're missing out on some great books by those famous photo artists I've mentioned (Jock Sturges, Sally Mann, and David Hamilton).

Suzanne

My husband was exposed at the age of 8 to pornography. We were married last June, I didn't realize this addiction was a problem until just recently when our cell bills were outrages because of online browsing and the cable bill! WHEW! I wish there was more info on this, I'm an addictions counselor and it's a very touchy subject since it's so close to me. I can deal with clients but not my own husband! Frustrating....

Old Cowgirl

My own "experience, strength and hope" is that porn/sexual addiction is addictive, doesn't stop "after marriage," can't be overcome in secret and ruins real intimacy. It doesn't just happen to men-I am a woman.

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