Published: Monday, April 8 2013 9:00 a.m. MDT
A short time ago I finally was able to forgive someone who had hurt me very
deeply. For a while I even contemplated suicide because I was so depressed. But
then, in answer to many prayers, I was able to finally forgive him. The relief
and sheer happiness I've felt ever since,is beyond words. Forgiveness is a gift
we give to ourselves. I admire Mr. Williams for his ability to forgive someone
so quickly. I am going to keep this article to refer to when I need a lift.
Thanks to Elaine Jarvik for such outstanding journalism, and to the Deseret News
for printing it.
Travis--You're right, mercy can't rob justice. But who decides what
"justice" is? You? Victims? The only real justice will occur in a different
place, in a different time, when all things are known, and the One True Judge
Thank you for an amazing article!Thank you to those who have shown
these fabulous examples of forgiveness!I admit it....I love to have
the good in my life...and I very much dislike it interrupted by trials,
problems, or hurts by others. Thank you for helping me with some
introspection. Why do I believe that I deserve to never have problems? Wow...and
eye opener for me...I have been struggling lately with this very
thing. I have absolute trust in a Heavenly Father who loves me and is trying to
bless me...even when I can't see in what ways He is trying to bless me. When I am drug kicking and screaming to the next blessing of growth, I
don't see it as much of a blessing. And then a few more steps and I begin to
understand in a very small way that His infinite wisdom is so very superior to
my limited desire to always stay in the "good" life areas of my life.Thank you again for the insight.
Absolutly wonderful article. Was very touching and insiteful. Wouldn't the
world be a much better place with more people like Mr. Williams?
Thank you for this story. Forgiveness is so important. Forgiveness really does
help the victim. I really liked how Brother Williams said it.
Citizens who have been hurt by criminals can forgive drunk drivers, murderers,
child abusers, etc, but please don't require our court system to do the same.
People who make bad decisions which harm others, should suffer the full
consequences for their actions. In Websters, under "forgive", it
states two definitions: (1) To give up resentment (2) To give up all claim to
punish or exact penalty. When we are wronged by someone, God expects us to
follow the first definition, NOT the second. Otherwise, we all become throw
rugs for evil people to walk on continually.
this article has inspired me to do moer research on forgiveness.I study
health issues and seeing some of the research has begun brightens my day.I
feel strongly about forgiving and now I want to do more to help me and others
understand how truly wonderful, beneficial, and uplifting it is to forgive (even
the little things).thank you for this well-researched and well-presented
Here is my take, but I am interested to know what others think. As children of
a loving Father in Heaven it is our duty to forgive everyone of both definitions
of forgiveness. Obviously that doesnt mean the person that committed the crime
is going to change their life or go through the repentance process, which is why
we have the judicial system to try to help those people change by enacting
punishments, penalties, and programs to get their lives back on track.
Hopefully the judicial system can start the process and then as neighbors we can
help out. Obviously none of us are perfect and neither is the judicial system,
so we will have that opportunity to be judged by a righteous/fair/loving Judge
in the eternities, which I hope we have all improved enough to have a joyous
I greatly appreciated the extremely well written and thought provoking article
on forgiveness. It struck a chord with me on many levels. I have recently
recognized and acknowledged that I may have a problem forgiving others when I
feel I have been wronged. Even though intellectually I know that holding on to
anger and/or pain is not beneficial, emotionally I often find it hard to release
the hurt and extend forgiveness. I will use this article to help me in my need
to become a more forgiving person and thank the author and the newspaper for
printing an article of such value.
I heard about this article and can't find it anywhere on the web. Could you
please forward it to me? Thank you.
Hi, just e-mailed saying I would like a copy of the "article". I noticed on top
of this page, it says "read story". So, please dis-regard my previous e-mail.
Personally knowing the williams family has made it even better and more real on
how this could happen to anyone and the way he just went out and forgave this
person is amazing. it's always good to read something a little more moving in
Elaine Jarvik wrote an article in the early or mid 90s, about a man, and it
caused my wife and I to begun using the phrase "hug therapy" to describe
something very profound and beautiful.This article about Chris
Williams is troubling for me, because it reminds me of the truth that hurts--my
tendency to react emotionally to unreasonable behavior from others--and my
inability to forgive. I am very worried that when the time comes for me to lose
something that I feel is critical to my life, I will be unprepared to forgive.
The article explains that we can learn forgiveness, just as one can learn to
play the piano. But I am concerned that I do not have the time to start
learning to forgive, because I am too busy working on other things.Thank you for the article.
Guitarboy,Like with everything in our lives we can learn to forgive.
Especially if you begin now and focus your heart on what is true about life. All
people will eventually die and move on to whatever awaits us on the other side.
Some may leave in accidents like this or quietly of old age in their sleep. What
matters is learning that this life is transitory and we take whatever love or
hate may be in us.I sometimes wonder what I would do in this situation.
Would I forgive or hate? Live your life in the way that you would want to be and
you will find you live up to the best within you when you are put to the test.
When it comes down to it I suppose what I am saying is, Love is more powerful
than hate and love can heal. Hate will only and has only ever destroyed. Wanting
to do better is the first step to a greater understanding of who you really are
in your heart. God bless you.
Okay,and what about a story on how Cameron is doing (the person encouraged to
move on)? Are we really having this conversation? It is a good story...
"Man forgives drunk teen driver who killed wife, two children"Not me. I'd see the guy got a huge jail sentence. Then perhaps, after
serving his time, I'd think about forgiving him.
Personal responsibility is more than hygiene, How things look or what is cool. I
can't be responsible for any one's actions but my own. I'm the
biggest screw up in the whole world. Some times I'm not the brightest bulb
am the street. Stuff happens. I'm feel so sorry and I'm so angry at my
self I can get sick. I try to make restitution and make amends. All tho Others
have forgave me, they say that it's not that big of dill, it is to me
It's hard to forgive my self. .
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