Comments about ‘Biological father sends letter, asks for baby’

I am really glad I am not the judge on this case. It's a huge mess and if it all goes to court as planned, there is no way to keep this from getting ugly. I just hope that whatever happens, this child will be taken care of well. What a mess.

He asked for the child so early in the adoption that it would have been smart to return him at that point. Now there will be a horrific battle over this little boy by people who love him. Nobody can win in this case. No matter how it goes there will be unhappiness. Let us hope it is settled while the little guy is so young he won't be aware of it.

Judges need to quit legislating from the bench. Their job is only to interpret the law. Idaho's laws were followed exactly and so the child should remain with his adoted family. nuff said

The law is the law and the biological father new before the birth that he was going to be a dad and should have taken the steps to be a proper dad at that time, not after the child is settled and making attachments. If you truly love your child, no matter how hard it may be, you would want your child to be where he would be happiest. It sounds like the parents that adopted him did all that they were told to do and they should not have their child taken just because the 20 yr old decides he is now ready to be a dad.

In regards to "true blue" - AMEN.

The law is the law and should be upheld as such. It is ridiculous that there is always some loop people can jump through to make the law what they what it to be. Our courts are jam packed with too many people trying to get around the system because they failed to do something properly! So I agree - NUFF SAID!!

This guy blew off the Birth Mother until after the adoption, HE HAS NO RIGHTS HE IS A SPERM DONER NOT A FATHER or he would would have been there the whole time! He pretty much abandoned the birth mother which is why she gave the child up, he is probably doing this for His Mother & Father not himself. He is doing that baby and the adopting parents a TERRIBLE INJUSTICE! Wham Bam Thankyou Mam, Oh by the way My Mom & Dad want the mistake I made. It makes me sick! You don't "Knock Up" a girl and abandon her, and then show up after the baby has been given up for adoption and say "Wait a minute I have rights too!" It doesn't work that way!

First off, from the story it sounds like the Judge is not following the law. The Fathers name was not on the list.
Second, this judge is passing the baby around to all parties. This will make it tough for everyone now.
Third the father is a kid who has not been around since month 7 of the pregnancy, if this guy was my dad I not wanting that type of commitment.

This judge has got a problem and he is taking it out on all the partys involved.

I don't think this is a problem about who would better take care of the baby, it is about judges feeling like the can adjust the law in what ever way they want just because they can. This birthfather had 40 weeks and 24 hrs, according to state law, to claim paternity and claim responsibility, yet he chose not to do so. This would have implied that if he did not gain custody of the baby he would have to pay child support. Most birth fathers choose not to do this because of the responsibility paying child support is. I think it is terrible that someone who was not supportive during a pregnancy and chose not to take responsibility for all those weeks be given that responsibility just because all of the sudden they felt like it. The adoptive family is obviously very open with the birthmother and continues to have a good relationship with her. He could have had that too and he also could have been thinking about what is best for that baby. He also could have followed the law.

Why would you want to keep a baby, knowing the father wants it? You should want the blessing of the father and mother. Without that, it would be a cloud over your family forever.

I'm sure the baby would be better off with a Mom and Dad. But look at the father's point of view. If the mom wants to have an abortion, he can't stop it. If she wants to make him pay child support, he can't make her put the baby up for adoption or have an abortion. She has all the power. And now when he wants his baby, he has to fight in court for his child. Fathers should be told early in the pregnancy about the baby. Then they should have the right to tell the Mother to take care of it herself, or they should sign papers to be responsible for their children. That's fair and would solve a lot of problems.

Coming from a girl who's had children born out of wedlock, I didn't make it easy for the birth fathers to come around while I was pregnant. I have also given a child up for adoption, which is a beautiful chance to give someone who can't have babies. But the bottom line is, the dad wants to be a dad. And I have faith he will get the baby boy. He didn't sign any adoption papers, did he even know HIS SON was being adopted?? Either way, he didn't sign his rights away. He'll get the baby back. Good for him to be a good father and not let the law or strangers scare him away from what's legally and morally his.

If the birth father missed a serious deadline. Whats to say he wont miss the dead lines of taking care of this child. Doctors appointment, birth days, school registration and such. This looks more like the births fathers mother is mad her grandchild is being raised by strangers. Perhaps she should have taught him some thing about responsibility instead of doing it for him.

does anyone know if this so-called father paid for any of the expenses of the childbirth or paid child support. If not, this so-called judge ought to be run out of town on the old proverbial rail. good luck on this one to the adoptive parents.

I noticed the judge said he thought is would be best for the baby. What kind of notion is that? Give a baby to a kid who doesn't care squat about the mother of the baby, or for that matter, the baby? How dumb can you be! Leave the child with the family who really loves him!

with adoption caseworker. Most 19 to 20 year old young men will not claim paternity because they do not want the responsibility. The responsibility of hospital bills and child support is enough to scare away most men plus all the time involved in raising a baby by yourself... wow no time for anything else but work, pay bills, and raise a child something every 20 year old wants to do at that stage in there life.

to why: you asked a question, why would you want to keep a baby, knowing the father wants it? Ok, first, i'll you "Why". The reason for me is very clear. The birth father had 40 weeks to claim paternal responsibility. Where the heck was he at? At this point if i had become the adoption father, id be saying not so fast also. I would be asking, why didn't you take responsibility? I need no blessing from such a Man. He is unworthy of such a blessing, he demonstrated it himself For longer than ten months.

It's obvious that no law was broken and that the baby's adoption was legal. He should stay in Utah with the adoptive family who loves him. In early news stories the birth mother so much as said she doesn't want him and from past actions it's obvious the birth father won't take responsibility needed. So PLEASE let this boy have the best chance for a great life and leave him in a two-parent loving home!!

To life isn't fair- this father WAS told about the baby early in the pregnancy! He had the choice to claim it or not. He chose not to! This baby should stay with the Mom and Dad who have been preparing for him for years! Not the dad that decided last second he wanted a baby.

The child should not have gone back to the birth father. Once the birth mother signed the adoption papers, her rights and the father's rights are terminated as she lifts the pen from the paper. By the father not signing up on the registry, his rights are terminated. The judge didn't follow Idaho law. The judge also should not have given the baby back to the custody of the birth parents. For the six months after a baby is placed with an adoptive family, the baby is legally LDS Family Services. Once an adoption is finalized with the Utah courts, the baby is legally the Nielsons. The Idaho judge had no right to take the baby away from the Nielsons or LDS Family Services who are the custodians of the baby.

My thoughts and prayers are with the Nielsons at this time. An adopted baby deserved the opportunity to be raised by a loving and responsible married couple.

I think the whole thing comes down to one thing! Matt's (bio-father)mommy wants to be a grandma! It sounds like LDS tried to do the right thing, as far as the registry was concerned. It just sounds like Matt dropped the ball, big time!! But he has his mommy there now to take care of his mess, as far as raising the child is concerned. I have adopted my 3 kids and they are the best thing in the whole world! My last adoption was a little bit scarry, because out of the blue this kid said hey i want my baby! after the fact, my wife and i had to pay to have some DNA work done, which came back negative with this kid, but we found out later that it just so happened to be this kids mommy was telling him that she wanted a grandchild. And so i think this is the same with this Matt's mommy wants a grandchild. Here is a suggestion for Matt and his Mom, cut your losses and let this adoption happen!! In the long run you may just really lose big time go back to Idaho!!