Reader comments: Becoming a mom creates amazing changes

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Anissa | 10:14 a.m. Oct. 6, 2008
What a perfect story for this Monday morning! Although I am past this particular spot, in my children's lives, I do still have poop issues, and bed wetting issues. I also have a child who will turn 8 in a few weeks, which has made this part of life very interesting, and challenging in its own way. Mostly because my little baby who slept on my chest for the first few months of her life, is now not a baby!

I would love to read more of your columns..without looking, I hope that there is an rss feed just for your stories! I will look, if not, ask DesNews to get one just for you!! ;)
Shannon | 11:43 a.m. Oct. 6, 2008
Well your kid is only 18 months old? And your a mothering expert? I'd like to hear your thoughts when you've got a teenager. We'll see how wonderful you think it is then. You haven't been at it long enough to be handing out patronizing observations like "It's different when they're your own." There are thousands of abused children in this country. Proof that your theories are not correct.
Re: Shannon | 4:41 p.m. Oct. 6, 2008
Down, Shannon, down. I fail to see how her article implies that she thinks she's an expert. I also fail to see how waiting for her daughter to become a teenager is going to make her more of that expert you mentioned. Abused children, though it shouldn't, exsist because everyone is imperfect... some with bigger problems than others. Such people need help to become the parents they want to be. You either love your kids intensely, or you don't. Hopefully you do. Then it is "different when they're your own."
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Samantha | 8:58 p.m. Oct. 6, 2008
Motherhood rocks! I really loved this article, and hope to read much more from its' author. It really is different when they're your own. Sure there are ups and downs, but as long as we search the depths of our capacity to love and draw from those beautiful waters, our hearts will know no limitations to our motherly affection and capabilities. I'm SO grateful we're never alone in our parenting endeavors. Our children are God's children as well, and he'll give us patience where we lack, as long as we hold out our hearts to receive it, then add a little (or a lot) of elbow grease. Good luck and God bless!
Shannon | 8:10 a.m. Oct. 7, 2008
The point I was making is that sometimes it does not "create amazing changes." Abused children exist because apparently it does not matter if "they're your own." And Child Protective Services do try to help parents stop being abusive. In many cases, they cannot. Once an abuser starts abusing then love is not enough to make them stop. Only removing the child can stop the abuse. It is naive to believe that simply becoming a biological parent creates love.
Jennifer | 1:34 p.m. Oct. 7, 2008
I enjoyed your article and completely agree with how wonderful it is to be a parent. I'm sure parenting teenagers will have their wonderful moments of joy. My Mom sure lucked out when she had me for a teenager. We were great friends (although the pre-teen stage was a little rocky). I consider her an even better friend now, but I hope with my girls it will be the same (maybe even better). :)
future mother | 10:06 p.m. Oct. 7, 2008
Thanks for this article. There needs to be more positive stories on having children, especially for those of us who don't have children yet are a little apprehensive of it. Keep it up.

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