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Gay support group outlines requests to LDS Church
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I count those who struggle with this problem and do their best to keep God's standards as unsung heroes in the Church.
To others who are struggling you know the meaning of enduring to the end. All of us truly do have our crosses to bear in this life and God understands them and will take them into account when judgement is made. The judgement He will make will have more to do with the honest desires of our heart to do right more so than actually having done what is right.
Our duty is to do our very best to comply with His teachings and we will succeed. The atonement will take care of where we fell short as long as our heart was right.
Some in the Church who struggle with prejudice against those with this problem are also loved by God and hopefully someday will be more accepting.
Thank you so much for indicating your belief that people like me who struggle with ssa are "unsung hereos" of the church. You can't even begin to know how validating that statement is to me. We suffer in silence for the most part because we fear being ostracized by members and nonmembers of the church alike. Every once in a while kind, compassionate people like yourself step forward to help us. By the way, the Church doesn't cause us to be suicidal - Satan does!
It just seems that they want sensational publicity, along with some or other person saying it's ok to be homosexual. Live your own life guys, if you choose to be gay, then live with it, don't look for validation. Be yourselves, and take the consequences - good or bad.
If these people want to be actively homosexual, go ahead, but do not demand a religion to change becaus eyou cannot or do not want to live its teachings. I cannot expect to be able to break the law of chastity and have the church condone my behavior anyt more than this group can.
While not wanting to judge any one person, which is the Lord's way. It is the responsibily of everyone to condone the act. The brethren have often spoke in General Conference pleading with the members to overcome adversities. Homosexuality is an adversity. If you are a member of the church with these tendancies, you have been instructed likewise. Repent of your evil ways or start your own church and leave us alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
At the end of the day, if a person lives teh law of chastity, the church has no issues.
It is the responsibility of every one to overcome their own trials in this life, and no one has the right to blame the church, as a whole, for their own decisions to commit suiside or to do any other form of destrucion to themselves.
There are programs. offered by the church and others, to deal with these problems, such as counseling, fasting/prayer, speaking candidly with loving Bishops with a remorse for ones own sins. The way back is not promised to be easy but worth it.
The Lord loves everyone, but will always condone sin. His soul purpose to get us all back in his presense. Does the Bible not state that the shepard will leave the ninety and nine and go after the one lost sheep? Homosexuals are "the one lost sheep" in this case. He will heal you if you seek forgivness through the blood of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, who has already paid for your sin and mine with his own blood, because he loves us and we are all worth it...........
Those who engage in sexual relations outside of traditional marriage, regardless of the genders involved, are choosing to sin. Sin is the business of churches when it is their own members involved.
So why again is it that a group of people who apparently promote a sinful lifestyle think they should have a voice in LDS General Conferences?
I think that today is a time of sifting, a time when the Lord is beginning to separate the wheat from the tares, the sheep from the goats. It is individual choices, to sin or not to sin, that place us each of us on His right or on His left hand, for eternity...
Get over the LDS church already and move on.
I don't personally struggle with SSA, but I have relatives who do and I feel for them. It appears to be a difficult challenge that I will never fully understand. I admire what Carolyn Pearson says in her book on the subject. That no matter what their chosen path in dealing with it (in or out of the LDS church, living a gay or straight life): "I wish them well"
There was a time after my mission when I really was struggling with this. I had come to realize that these feelings I had were not going to go away notwithstanding an honorable mission and years of fasting, prayer, and counseling. I realized I would not marry and that I would live a lonely challenging life. I sought the counsel of several bishops. Most of them were very misinformed about this issue. One of them placed me on a sort of probabation�preventing me from holding a calling or even passing the sacrament�even though I had not acted on my feelings. He said I needed to �overcome even the attraction� before I would be temple-worthy.
I moved on.
So no, I�m not expecting the church to change its doctrine. But I can no longer subject myself to the whispers, the suspicion, and the general ostracism that accompanied being an active member. If anything good can come from Affirmation speaking out, I hope it is that more effort can be made to educate members about this issue, to dispel all the misinformation that is out there, and to create a more accepting environment where people like me can find support in the gospel, and not rejection.
Affirmation is totally wasting their energy. Mormon Standard Time is decades behind the civilized world, and always has been. It took the LDS 148 years before they would admit blacks. Women are still excluded from the priesthood and its many spiritual and temporal privileges. It could take centuries before SLC accepts that homosexuality is not a choice.
Affirmation: why beat your heads against a wall? There are so many other wonderful churches that don't expect people to beg and grovel. There is something deeply pathetic about Affirmation, I pity the folks at Affirmation for their delusions about SLC.
You think that your stuggle is so much harder than others and that what frustrates me. There are elderly people who feel shunned because of their age etc.. in the church, but we all still go because we love the savior and no that it's true.
Dude, life is hard! I find that as a single woman that never got married, people are rude no matter inside the church or outside.
Brad I hear you man! I had a very similar experience to yours in my life. I finally discovered that living by the "reasonable restrictions" the church places on gay members, and the constant backbiting and rumors that were taking place behind my back, and sometimes in front of my face, were not really making me happy, as so many ecclesiastical leaders made me believe I could be. I have never felt the joy and compensating love that was promised to me on so many occasions for "fighting the good fight" and remaining active and obedient.
I have since moved on, and am dating guys and have been the happiest I have ever been since returning home from my mission. All members of my family say this, of course, is just a temporary happiness and that in the eternities no such happiness will be present. Well I say, at least now I am feeling some positive feelings about myself and future, where as before all I felt was loneliness and darkness .
Churches in America are constitutionally not political forums. If Affirmation Group wants such, let them join the Southern Baptists or some of the more radical evangelistic congregations.
The Latter-Day Saints are Bible believers, and, in great historical wisdom, keep religion and politics clearly separated.
Politicizing special interest groups comes under the realm of a country's constituted government.
Read the Bible, David, and then peruse the U.S. Constitution.
But I've also seen how an older single man was treated in my old ward. Everyone knew he was gay and people would gossip pretty openly about him and whether he was truly "worthy". I knew parents who didn't want him around their children. I'm sorry, but I very much doubt that you as a single sister face this. I know I don't. I at least get to teach primary and contriubte.
I feel sorry for you that people treated you that way, it must have been hard. No member of the church should have to deal with that. That said, you seem to suffer from the same thing that many less active or former members of the church suffer from: A failure to realize that the people around you who treated you that way are also sinners and imperfect. That fact does in no way justify their actions, but it's something that ALL of us deal with on some level. My wife and I moved into a new ward and frankly never really met anyone in the ward that I didn't already know. We were there literally unnoticed for almost 8 full months. I didn't receive a calling... I know it's apples to oranges, but c'mon. It's basically a double standard to say that nobody around you has any right to succumb to there own ignorance or beliefs. It's a matter of education, not outright hate or disgust. It just SEEMS to me that "gays" play this woe-is-me game, stop feeling sorry and start helping people understand, just my 2 cents.
Affirmation wants a female church leader to address mothers to let them know they're not responsible for their children's sexuality. Melson said guilt is a "huge problem" for mothers of gay children."
People, and particularly this Affirmation group, need to understand that no one tells the Lord, or His authorized servants, what to do. It is the other way around; the Lord, or in His absence, His authorized servants, that gives counsel to the masses.
Affirmation wants a General Conference talk on the Church's position on homosexuals? That won't happen unless the Lord wants it.
Affirmation wants a female Church leader to tell mothers it's not their fault some of their children live a homosexual lifestyle? Again, that won't happen unless the Lord desires it. It's HIS church, not man's. Besides, what if it IS the fault of the mother? Much research seems to point towards bad/abusive parenting as being a key factor in later homosexual activity.
The Lord is in charge and not the other way around.
Having said that, I do wish that more members of the Church and non-members for that matter - would be more accepting. But it is the loud groups like Affirmation and Pride Parades that perpetuate the stigmas associated with gay men and women. I am not a pedophile. I am not deviant. I am not a murderer. Yet I get treated like one. Until the members of the Church see more active men and women who struggle with same-gender attraction in a positive light, the stigmas will not go away.
The Church is slowly helping this issue - Elder Oaks spoke of a gay man in a conference talk (Heavy Laden talk), it has been spoken of in the Ensign, and there is a specific pamphlet.
Change will happen in time - but it can't be forced by outside agendas.
- The ACT of homosexual behavior(s) is a sin, and a very grievious one at that.
- The Lord has not told us yet whether homosexual desires are "learned" or "genetic"
- However, homosexual actions ARE immoral (see #1)
- Those who ACT in a homosexual manner/lifestyle are not worthy to be baptized into the LDS faith, take the sacrament, serve church missions, attend the Temple, marry in the Temple or, if male, to hold or exercise the Priesthood in any way unless/until they repent
- Those who have a sexual attraction towards members of their own sex but DON'T act on their desires are counted worthy by the Lord in EVERY respect
- LOVE the sinner, NOT the sin
- Even practicing homosexuals are welcome to attend Church services UNLESS they (the homosexuals) act in such a way (by actions or speech or dress, etc) that the sanctity, holiness and peace of the worship service is repeatedly diminished by their conduct
That's it!
Yes, Christ ministered to those who needed it but He also cautioned His disciples to avoid even "the appearance of evil".
Did anyone notice the part in the article where the Church representative said "we wanted to meet with them in private but they (Affirmation) are turning this into a public event"?
Several years ago I took responsibility for my own happiness, which for me meant becoming inactive, for reasons I explained above. I don't feel sorry for myself and I don't want or expect anyone else to. I am quite happy and I now have a network of very understanding and accepting friends.
GOD BLESS YOU FOR YOUR EXCEPTIONAL COURAGE IN WALKING FROM DARKNESS INTO THE LIGHT!!!
We do indeed ALL have "crosses to bear".
Keep the faith!
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