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LDS conversion is a process, study indicates
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The upside then: I sacrifice (like my grandparents who came to America so that I could choose my path) so that my children might have the opportunity to be a part of Mormonism or not. The bottom line: converting to Mormonism is much trickier than I realized in the beginning. Stepping away from it is much more painful than I understood in the middle of it all. Synthesizing all of this, in the end, is much more important than I can truly know.
The journey has gone from the sweet to the bittersweet - kind of like the chocolate we love as kids to the type of chocolate we come to appreciate as adults. The key for me: what did I want from all this?
Many times others, who don't understand, are like the people in the Great and Spacious Building in Lehi's Dream. They will pick at those who are different. Satan loves it when he can drive a wedge between a new person who has recently tasted the fruit, but hasn't yet developed the immunity against criticism for enjoying the fruit of the tree of life.
God Bless those with this type of struggle.
Don't forget that Jesus, Himself, had the Devil annoying Him with temptations to Not Stay the Course.
Sometimes criticism can be like a flu shot. It can make one stronger. It can be painful for a while, but in the long run One Is Stronger.
Remember to stay close to the Lord. Jesus Does Love those who want to be good followers.
Good Luck and God Bless...
In my family, of those raised Mormon, there hasn't been one devout Mormon since my grandmother's death in the early 80's. There's four generations since her, that have only remained Mormon in name only.
I live abroad and of the 20 new converts to our ward this year,
Maybe 2 or 3 are active.
This is a problem that has existed for years.
Perhaps there is no solution.
It would be interesting to know how many Muslims stay active after
Joining.
With God anything is possible don't doubt and look forward to the Light of Christ.
Let the Holy Ghost be your guide.
Man, including prophets can be fallible, just read the Scriptures, but the Holy Ghost will never leave you alone.Start up a study group, a Family Home Evening group of like minded individuals and share your talents. Everyone has an opinion, but the Holy Ghost is the Source of all truth.
Please, everyone just remember that we all have to go through the refiner's fire whether we are lifers or converts. In fact, we're ALL converts. And it doesn't make any difference whether you live in Utah or somewhere else. Our faith will be tested in some way. That's why we must hold to the iron rod and walk by faith.
The gospel is TRUE. That's why we all need to endure to the end. If we do, we'll find our way no matter what tests we are put through.
So, hang in there. There is ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel.
In Christianity a person is saved; by grace.
It is easy to see the problems that converting others to Mormonism will and has created. It is a culture.
PS: Let's move beyond the rhetoric that says: "they just can't live the gospel." Please.
1. It is MUCH easier to be a convert outside of UT and other "Mormon zones"--though it may be easier to acclimate to "Mormon culture" when you've always lived near it.
2. Converts must realize why they joined. If the conversion was to become closer to God, it is more likely to last.
3. Agree church members need to learn how to support converts MUCH better than they currently do (especially church members in UT and other "Mormon zones"--outside those zones we are always reminded that converts are everywhere, so cannot assume that all know what's going on.
4. As a life-long member of the church, I truly believe that the people who ran the study should not just assume that feelings like those converts shared are individual just to converts. I am a life-long member--grew up in UT--but am still a single woman working on a PhD. I too do not really belong an particular place in the church, and deal with the reality of how different my life is from the majority of church members every day!
Any way you cut it, throwing off the culture of man and adopting the culture of Christ is a difficult thing... definitely a "process." I am totally impressed with people who can do it.
I have never found anything but acceptance in the Church. Even when coming back from inactivity. I think it helped to go in thinking of myself as a part of them. I have never seen myself as an outsider, either to the faith or to Utah.
For me, the answer was to just jump in at the deep end and participate, and learn the culture, not just wait and see if I liked it enough to stay. My acceptance was up to me, not everyone else. It did help that I made good friends right at the beginning, but I do feel that was also my choice.
Boy, oh boy, you should have seen ME when I first joined The Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints!!!
I thought being an "investigator" made me some kind of detective, and I was going to the "Stake House" to get a nice hot meal.
I wanted to do something for the Lord, so I gave the missionaries my television set.
I had to learn all new hymns, because the Methodist hymns I grew up with were not Latter-day Saint hymns.
It was a shock to learn that not all Mormons share a convert's enthusiasm.
It was really tough kicking my love of tobacco, but I eventually did it, after a couple of failed attempts, and with the help of my fellow saints.
It's been forty-two years since I was baptized, and I am STILL learning and trying to adjust!
But, I love it.
Our peculiar faith is so different, and I like it that way.
Thank you.
John Robert Mallernee
Official Bard of Clan Henderson
Armed Forces Retirement Home
Washington, D.C. 20011-8400
Glad the Church is focusing more on these issues. It's especially true for single adults. Nearly all converts in our ward are singles. As WML, I & my wife have become de facto single adult reps!
All of us need to be more aware, particularly to reach out to those of different backgrounds and cultures coming into our wards. We can learn much from them, too. There's not just one way to worship! As the article says, need to "learn the difference between culture and doctrine".
I know not everyone has the gift to fit in easily and make conversation with others they don't know. It behooves each of us to seek understanding, and also be charitable to all we meet in our congregations. I don't fully believe the "culture" is to blame. The Latter-day Saint culture is different where ever you live in some respects. It is up to us to engage both "new" and "old" members.
To me, that's something to celebrate! We rejoice in our diversity. I often say I joined the Mormon church, not the Utah Chamber of Commerce nor the BYU Booster's Club. (Well, there was one of my sons who got his first degree at BYU, but we forgave him.)
I was priviledged to serve a mission to Scotland. There I noticed many LDS families who had their children enrolled in Gallic classes and taught them highland dance. They loved the gospel, but desired to preserve their culture.
That's the right attitude, IMNSHO.
We all live in our own version of being alone. If we spend our time hanging out waiting for someone to fix our alone-ness, we let a lot of lonely people pass by who need our friendship, our concern, our smiles.
Make the time to reach out to others. You need it and they do too.
Living the gospel of Jesus Christ never was, and never will be easy, and is getting harder. It is one thing to get baptized a member, and another to endure to the end. Conversion is a long, ongoing process and only the strong survive. That said, members of the church can better support all followers of Christ, regardless of their religious beliefs. A co-worker and I always share religious feelings, and I don't think he even goes to any church, but simply believes in God and has a number of LDS friends.
In my experience, the more diverse, the stronger a ward becomes. There is a greater willingness to engage in honest dialogue about questions, concerns and testimonies which allows the spirit to teach each individual. In this atmosphere everyone is exposed as existing on a personal island to some degree and no one has a monopoly in regards to "what makes a Mormon?"
I have moved to another state and will be attending another small town single ward church. How will I be accepted and how busy will my new sisters will be?
I took some courses in Bibical Greek this opened up a new world of manuscripts and versions of the Bible, which led me to the evidence of the reliability of the Bible. Speculation on Isaac: Soren Kierkegard wrote a book on this topic"Fear and Trembling". Abraham trusted God,see Hebrews 11:19.
I realize not everybody looks at things the way I do, but I've never heard anybody encouraging people not to marry converts, or to avoid converts, or even asking others how long their family has been in the church.
And, for the record, I have ancestors mentioned in the D&C, and both sides of my family joined the church early on, with a pretty high retention rate since. That doesn't mean anything whatsoever in the long run, does it?
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