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and Children can make choices | 1:06 a.m
I don't believe sexual preference is a choice. You cannot choose who or what you are mentally and physically attracted to. I believe those gay people that say it was a choice simply mean that they have accepted their attraction to members of the same sex and chose to pursue it. People don't just decide one day to be attracted to something. A man could be attracted to a woman, and he chooses to act on that attraction. Does me he chose to be attracted to her? No, he merely chose to act on his desire. Does that mean he chose to be straight? No.
Can you recall at what stage of your life that you consciously decided, "Well, I think I will like members of the opposite sex?" You didn't, you just knew, it was not a choice you made, you just knew. The same is true for gay people.
Also, I believe that the people who posted saying that 'their friends' told them it was a choice are either utterly lying to perpetuate the notion or do not understand what their friends have told them (along the lines of what you said: it is a choice to accept who you are or pretend you can change it. Anyone who actually is gay knows that there is nothing in this universe that you can do to change it). Anyone who is NOT gay (most of you posting on this topic), just shut up because you don't know you are talking about and you cannot possibly...you are not gay. So give it a rest!
all this anti-gay rights stuff is born of fear. let your brother live as he chooses (remember free agency? remember your polygamous heritage?)and let GOD judge their hearts.
I chose to live a gay lifestyle!
1) It is recognized by the general authorities of the church that being gay is not a choice. (They offer a life of celibacy to gay mormons--and no longer encourage marriage to the opposite sex).
2) I didn't choose to live the gay lifestyle until the age of 29, after I had dated girls and was unable to feel sexually aroused by them (I have never been able to be sexually aroused by women, I'm probably a Kinsey 9 or 10).
3) My family fasted and prayed each fast Sunday with my homosexual feelings for 3 years. Occasionally, my extended family held a special fast. My name also graced the prayer circle at the temple.
4) I went to LDS Social Services for three + years and met with my bishop almost weekly for five years.
5) I remained a virgin until I was 31.
6) I attended church and did all I can to remove the feelings.
The feelings/inclinations never left. It is not a choice to be gay.
It is a right to be compensated monetarily for being heterosexual.
from a straight woman standing beside her gay brothers and sisters.
I don't know why some heteros equate being gay with smoking.
Really!
I am also gay and I don't smoke --- and the two cannot be further apart --- poles apart.
Let me ask you hetero incapacitated ---
When you look at someone atractive of the opposite sex, do you choose to be attracted to that person or does it come naturally?
I rest my case.
You do not choose. Your hormones --- your wiring --- not just your biology --- determines attraction/orientation/identity.
Heteros that do not see that are too preoccupied with their own notions of what it means to be hetero --- that they don't think that not everyone thinks the way they do.
We do not choose to be this way.
Like previous person said --- had we a choice, I would have chosen a life of non-harrassment, non-teasing, non-prejudice for four decades now.
Have I given the opposite sex a chance?
Yes.
And I choose --- and I said it, I choose, not to break anymore hearts of the opposite sex.
It is not fair to them and it is not fair to me.
So quit your high and mighty speak.
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I don't have to smoke to know that smoking is bad. I don't have to be gay to know it is wrong and you are making a choice to be that way. What I have found is that the person who calls others bigots is usually the only one with the bigotry.