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Net program helps porn addicts

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anonymous | 6:00 a.m. Oct. 13, 2008
Great story to make people aware. I can totally relate
anonymous | 9:39 a.m. Oct. 13, 2008
Anyone who has known someone with a porn addiction knows it is eerily similar to a drug addiction.

I hope this software helps millions.
Litespeed2 | 10:34 a.m. Oct. 13, 2008
Excellent insight and very informative. It's good to hear that the medical community is starting to get a handle on this problem. It breaks up families and ruins the lives of good people. Thank you for publishing the article.
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wonderwoman | 11:50 a.m. Oct. 13, 2008
Of course! Fight fire with fire. Use the internet to attack the problem that the internet makes so easy to get hooked on. Brilliant. I truly hope Candeo can start pushing back the tidal wave of filth that is overwhelming us at every turn.
outdeep | 12:35 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
I am a recovering sex addict and the disease is indeed cunning, baffling and powerful. I am am not completely sure that I see that one can receive adequate therapy over the internet. Personally, I have had to have actual people in my life and the ability to tell my story out loud in a safe environment and hear the experience, strength, and hope of others. For this reason I found twelve-step programs (SA, SAA S&LA, Celebrate Recovery) to be helpful because behind the computer I am still in that place of isolation. I can see using the internet to reach sex addicts, but I think eventually relationships have to be formed for recovery to take place.
anonymous | 12:37 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
It's so good to know there are people out there fighting this! I know many who are addicted and need help. I found their web site for others that may need this. www.candeocan.com
outdeep | 1:29 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
To add on to my last comment and I am also a little concerned about a "six week program that will cure you for only $499". I'm not saying this is a fraud and maybe five hundred bucks is worth it if it is not a fad and really causes a change (this can go either way). Nevertheless, I guess I'm of the mindset that I am so thankful for those who gave me help that I am more than willing to help another addict for free. Certainly I don't want to make a profit out my addiction. I want to give back what was freely given to me. Sounds too much like midnight infomercials in my opinion.
been broken | 2:26 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
Porn is a tsnumni wave engulfing our society in slease, broken relationships, suffering families, lost self esteem, guilt, secrecy and a whirlpool that only drags a person deeper and deeper down a black hole.

How is it possible to turn off the mind's recording devices and erase all the images stored? The never-ending replays go on forever.

If porn is your Waterloo, get help now, get help often, find a way to bind-up the hearts and homes that have been broken; get out of the filth and move into the Light. It will be the best move you ever make.
whoever | 2:34 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
$499 seems like a much better price than paying for years of marriage/ family counseling.
anonymous | 2:40 p.m. Oct. 13, 2008
I like this approach to dealing with the addiction. I don't think most people are willing to sit in a group and talk about it with other people. Even though outdeep's intentions are good, how are you going to find people that are addicted and "coach" them through the addiction?

Anonymous | 12:01 p.m. Oct. 15, 2008
There are 12 step programs out there that the LDS church does that work. It's the ONLY thing that has helped my husband and I. Yeah its not fun to go at first and be seen in public, but sorry you can't try to hide by doing it online or you will never get over the releapses. Remember the temptation will always be there, it's not giving into the temptation you are trying to fix. I feel like hiding online isn't going to do a darn thing. If you really want help you will do anything and everything you can and put your pride aside, both for the addict and his loved ones.
anonymous2 | 12:11 p.m. Oct. 15, 2008
I agree with outreach. there is a 12 step program the Lds church offers for anyone to come to. It's the only thing that helped my husband and I. yeah it's hard getting out and doing it but if you want to change it's the only help that really works if you put your heart into it FOR free.
Anonymous5000 | 11:10 p.m. Oct. 15, 2008
If this program is as effective as their website says then I think it is a great idea. A 12 step program can be effective but there are many places in the world where there aren't enough LDS people around to make up a group like that ... for them, this site may be their only option.
anonymous3 | 11:23 p.m. Oct. 15, 2008
Anonymous & anonymous2 I'm not sure why every ward doesnt have a 12 step group for pornography addiction but our bishop has refered me and my husband to a counceling program (which I know costs quite a bit of money). I hope this program helps us as much as the 12 step program helped you
anonymous | 8:53 a.m. Oct. 24, 2008
I do know Dr Bernell Christensen and I also heard the therapy has a 5% recidivism rate instead of 75% in so many other environments, at least done in the office. Taking it to the Internet is a new thing as described, but they had much greater success than many, and that is part of why they took it here. There are all types of people, but it sounds like they have a handle on what is needed. I will be checking it out. Hope to be among the 95%. Leaving the internet with a technology job has proven difficult at best.
Anonymous | 10:33 p.m. Oct. 27, 2008
I am a licensed therapist and I reviewed their product online. It is full of misinformation and many of their claims counter those found in the research by those treating pornography addiction. It�s unfortunate Mr. Kastleman is taking advantage of others who are struggling with this problem. I suspect he is well-meaning, however, there is NO way this product is helping 1000�s of individuals. I doubt they�ve had more than 50 people even use the product because anyone who has struggled with a pornography addiction will take one look at this product and realize it is an unrealistic approach to recovery. It�s a shame the Deseret News gave it so much attention without doing their homework. Utah therapists such as Rory Reid, Dan Gray, Mark Chamberlain, Todd Olsen, Rod Jeppson, and others have programs that require time, energy, and effort, but are effective. Mr. Kastleman�s claim about 4-5 month waiting lists is unbelievable. Try anyone of the therapists above and you�ll get in within 6 weeks. I will continue to refer my patients who have pornography addictions to these therapists.
Interesting | 11:25 p.m. Nov. 7, 2008
I would love to see the proof that they have had the success they are claiming. This is a new product that has only been available in its current form for less than 30 days. To claim success when the product just came online is false advertising and I predict legal ramifications. No way this has any clinical proof as it is used as an internet program. I wish it were true. Beware of impossible claims. I hear they are using claims of LDS church endorsement to sell it... Sounds like another lie.
6 Wasted Weeks. | 2:01 a.m. Nov. 22, 2008
Going to the website you realize you are getting for $499.00 what the company can provide for a very small overhead. Automatic e-mails, texts, and "check-ups" cost next too nothing once you've established a system. Give me $500 and I'll e-mail you every hour and encourage you. This is an unfortunate...let's call it like it is...scam, of people wanting to profit from a gap in a billion dollar industry. "outdeep's" comments are right. If so sincere and desire to reach out, why reach into peoples' pocket so deep? Porn addicts are hurting enough, don't waste your money on lofty promises from people who won't even look you in the eye. Know a wooden nickel when you see one.

whoeveranonymous isn't | 2:14 a.m. Nov. 22, 2008
Notice how "anonymous" and "whoever" commented the same day and commented within 10 minutes of each other. Their messages are the only non-skeptical and obviously biased prospective that just happens to use similar language to the web-site's. "Coaching" gave it away kid. The probability of all these positive messages being different people is probably the same as the 6 week program has on a disgruntled sex addict willing to fork over $500 for false claims. You will find dear Dr's. that people are actually quite intelligent and can spot a fake from a mile away. GOOD LUCK. You're gonna need it.
Hopefor you | 10:51 p.m. Nov. 30, 2008
My husband is going through this program and it's the most hopeful thing has found. The program encourages the spouse to go through program too (for no additional fee) to gain a better understanding of what your spouse is experiencing and helps you both to fight this fight together. My husband has tried everything and every 12-step and recovery program you can name but he feels like this company "gets it" and understands the root of the problem like no other program before it.

You get lots of mini-course material lessons and exercises and it's really like an online class, with LOTS of helps and extras. You are not just paying the money for text messages etc. I hope if you have the money, you will give it a try. All addicts are different and I have no doubt that this program can help thousands!
Bill Harrison | 2:02 p.m. July 9, 2009
It's not a scam at all. I broke down and bought the program, and was pleasantly surprised how good it is. If what you're doing isn't working, give this a try. I wish I'd heard about it 10 years ago. I'm three months in and working hard at it, and it's succeeding beyond my wildest dreams. I've tried 12-step programs for alcoholism, and they work for that. But this works (for me) better for pornography and masturbation. If what you're doing works, great. If not, I'd recommend you try this.

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