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First couple signs up for Salt Lake's Mutual Commitment Registry

congrats | 10:59 a.m. April 17, 2008

I dont know much about it but it sounds like a great idea. I hope more couples can take advantage.

Bob | 11:16 a.m. April 17, 2008

Congrats Brandie and Lisa!

One Small Step | 11:30 a.m. April 17, 2008

This registry is one small step down the road to the graveyard of the traditional family. Is legalization of polygamy next?

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Blake | 11:44 a.m. April 17, 2008

And in a shocking turn of events for all the Utah County Neo-Con's...Salt Lake City DID NOT collapse in on itself, or slide into the Great Salt Lake for their horrible sin of granting a domestic partnership application.

to One Small Step | 11:55 a.m. April 17, 2008

And what, a 50% rate of divorce didn't bring us there already?

Seriously, letting people who love, be in love shouldn't damage YOUR relationship at all, unless its on darn shaky ground to begin with.

Dominique | 12:20 p.m. April 17, 2008

CONGRATULATIONS BRANDIE & LISA !!!!!!!!!!

A more loving, devoted family you will not find anywhere. They deserve protection and respect as much as any non-homosexual couple.

*raises glass*

response | 12:27 p.m. April 17, 2008

I know that I feel like my marriage is now not as strong. certainly this turn of events will doom us all!

Give me a break "one small step." I guess live and let live only applies to those who share your skewed values

lost in DC | 12:40 p.m. April 17, 2008

The slope is getting more slippery.

A torn tent provides shelter, a sturdy brick home provides shelter. Which provides better shelter? Call any combination a you want a "marriage", the traditional one man, one woman marriage is still and will always be the best, just as a sturdy brick house provides better shelter than a torn tent.

re: response | 12:44 p.m. April 17, 2008

what gives you the right to judge others values?? and how does some stangers relationship make yours any different? if your marrage is not as strong thats your own fault not someone elses.to say this turn of events will doom us all is ridiculus we all make our own destiny we are not all doomed if someone else does something you dont aprove of!

Wow | 12:49 p.m. April 17, 2008

A seven-year relationship: I wonder how many "traditional" marriages end long before that? Congratulations to Brandie and Lisa!

"One small step" SHOULD be worried about the strength of her marriage if two consenting adults in a committed relationship can affect it. I feel sorry for your spouse. You sure have one small mind!!

Bob | 12:54 p.m. April 17, 2008

congratulations to the happy couple!

Richard G. | 1:03 p.m. April 17, 2008

One small step's comment betrays the bankrupt, arrogant values of Utah's religious majority. But it's fine with me. All the bigotry Mormons hurl at gays will get hurled back at them.

Hey, lost in DC! | 1:09 p.m. April 17, 2008

Maybe if CONSENTING ADULTS had legal access to that sturdy brick house, they'd have better shelter.

GreenCard | 1:28 p.m. April 17, 2008

I have a friend who was married in the Temple to a what I thought was a nice woman. Well she just recently celebrated that she received her citizenship and asked for a divorce. What happened to time and all eternity.. well once you have your Green Card that all goes down the drain.

Congratz to Brandie and Lisa...

Anonymous | 1:28 p.m. April 17, 2008

There are all different kinds of families. Whether children are raised by grandparents or one parent or two mothers. As long as there is love in the home, that is all that matters. If a spouse dies is that no longer considered a traditional marriage? This is a great idea and I am glad Salt Lake City is offering it.

Mormons | 1:30 p.m. April 17, 2008

Because everyone knows the Mormon's are the only ones who oppose the partnerships Richy G. references. Maybe I could borrow the paintbrush you use to paint all Mormons as bigots. Then I could paint all GLTB as bigots, too.

Re: re: response | 1:30 p.m. April 17, 2008

Um...pretty sure "response was being facetious, dude...

Whatever Richard | 1:45 p.m. April 17, 2008

Just as you want to pigeon hold Mormon's for being close-minded as per your idiotic comment, aren't you doing the same to every Mormon...get off your liberal high horse and realize that not every Mormon thinks that way. But if you want to play fire with fire here it is: the most close minded people I know are LIBERALS!!!

Dutchman | 1:42 p.m. April 17, 2008

Brandie and Lisa, be thankful you live in Utah or at least Salt Lake City. I dare say that if you lived in Texas the registry that you just signed would be used to round you up and place you in detention. Thank goodness people here seem to have a sense of fairness.

UtahCivil | 1:50 p.m. April 17, 2008

Seeing how this event went down I guess they were right when they described this as "Gay Marriage" lite. People can say what they want but the PC crowd has done a marvelous job of watering down morals to the point where they mean nothing at all anymore. Call me a homophobe, bigot, racist, etc....It doesn't really matter. I will just say that marriage was meant for the creation and nurturing of children. This does neither.

Jones | 1:56 p.m. April 17, 2008

Didn't the people of Utah pass a constitutional amendment to prevent such a "registry"?

To Richard G. | 2:19 p.m. April 17, 2008

I'm glad to see that the thinly veiled "religious majority" sleight is alive and well. If you'd bother to step outside of your own little world you would realize that many parts of the country feel just as strongly about domestic partnerships and gay marriage. I know that there are those in Utah (many in SLC)who love to consider themselves enlightened and the pinnacle of tolerance - but are only able to do so at the expense of others who feel just as strongly about their worldview. Mormons (or any group for that matter) are only bigots to those who are intolerant of their views. A little more discourse and a little less mudslinging would go a long way in creating understanding.

To the happy couple, congrats from a very active, very happy and very tolerant Mormon.

LDS | 2:15 p.m. April 17, 2008

I am LDS. I think people should have their own choices. If you recall in LDS teaching we all have "agency". I am also a democrat! Curse me! I think this registry is GREAT and also am voting for a democrat this Nov! I guess I am headed for Down under!!!
Congrats Ladies!

splorticus | 2:33 p.m. April 17, 2008

Jones>> Didn't the people of Utah pass a constitutional amendment to prevent such a "registry"?

No. I believe you are confusing the word 'registry' with 'marriage'. Although somewhat difficult for the layperson to detect, there are slight differences between the two--mainly spelling, pronunciation, and complete meaning.

Sleep well Jones, your marriage is still safe from collapse!

magnus | 2:41 p.m. April 17, 2008

I second and third the sentiments of the other "biggoted" Mormons on this board. This sounds like a good thing to me.

While I oppose gay mairrage and the homosexual lifestyle on a personal basis, the laws of our land, the morals of our society, and the principle of liberty have created a situation where we as a country are in a constant state of hypocricy. I think this registry helps to make the laws of the land more just and at the same time helps to preserve the institution of traditional mairrage. I would hope the state legislature would be able apply the ordinance state wide.

Personally..... | 2:49 p.m. April 17, 2008

I hope this IS the slippery slope to Gay equality, and Gay marriage. The next thing I'm hoping for is Gay plural marriage. Oh, sorry...Gay Celestial marriage.

April 17, 2008 | 2:51 p.m. April 17, 2008

Mark this date on your calendars!! The State of Utah takes one step closer to the 21st Century, and one step closer to liberty and justice for all!! ABOUT TIME!!

Mormon 2 | 3:31 p.m. April 17, 2008

In all the years that I have been a member of ï¿½The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saintsï¿½, I never heard a lesson or listened to any general authority say that we can or should be disrespectful or treat any other person with anything other than respect. The church teaches us to be a respecter of others, to love all. Anything less than this is not a true representation of the church. While I donï¿½t agree with the life style of the Gay and Lesbian, that doesnï¿½t make them lesser people. They are equal in Godï¿½s eye and in the eye of my savior. Itï¿½s sad that a minority of the church membership can cause so much hate. At the end of the day you will not be judged by the amount of tithing you gave or even if you attended all your meetings, but by how you treated others and what you gave of your time to help lift others up. I think what the city has done is great and is the finest example we can set for others as an example of what the LDS Church is all about. Thank you Salt Lake City.

LisA | 3:46 p.m. April 17, 2008

Congratulations! Amazingly enough, my marriage is just as solid as ever, and my young children have not declared they are homosexual.
This is a good day for equality.

What a world | 3:50 p.m. April 17, 2008

For the most part the only good thing about gay couples is that they wont reproduce. So congratulation to the happy gay couple may you never reproduce.

re: to 12:44 pm comment | 3:53 p.m. April 17, 2008

My "response" comment was sarcastic. I should have noted that. I guess it came across wrong. I was trying to say that my 5 year marriage won't be affected by Brandi and Lisa. I wish them the best and encourage others to go through it as well.

My apologies that my comments were taken literally instead of sarcastically.

lost in DC | 4:26 p.m. April 17, 2008

my friend at 1:09 doesn't not realize that consenting adults having access to marriage was what I was calling the torn tent. "A rose by any other name" is not the same as saying we can call a dandelion a rose since they both are blossoms.

Anonymous | 5:09 p.m. April 17, 2008

We are born liberal.
We are liberal by nature.

What do you suppose happens to some people to turn them into judgemental, punitive monsters?

JJ | 5:47 p.m. April 17, 2008

I am LDS, Republican, straight, and don't care what other people do in their lives. I have enough to deal with in my own.

I do find it a little odd that people that actually love and care for eachother have to fight so hard to get basic rights. This couple had to spend $2500 to be able to visit eachother in the hospital if they are sick.

I agree that marriage is defined as a union of a man and a woman. Even though I feel that way, I don't see the harm in a registry that gives couples the option of just being able to actually take care of eachother and be able to live their lives as they see fit.

Oh, and if anybody thinks that Utah and SLC are behind the times, try driving through and living in the midwest. I now live in Ohio, and the intolerance for homosexuals and non-christians out here is 100 times worse than in Utah.

Benjamin | 6:28 p.m. April 17, 2008

meh... being gay these days is about as interesting as being left-handed.

JJ, they needed to spend 2,500 so they could have an estate planned. An estate plan is a comprehensive disposal of all your assets and wishes (wills, trusts etc). If they have a lot of property they'd want to make sure a good lawyer drew up a good plan. I'm assuming they have enough to make this worth while. (although if they were legally married the intestacy statute would pass their money to the survivor, but that's another issue).

In any event, the uncalled-for back and forth vying for moral supremacy on this issue is just boring. Both sides, frankly, have logic and reason supporting their views. Politics hasn't yet sorted this issue out, that's all. So let's quit calling each other bigots, "high-horse liberals," etc...

Tolerance and equality are laudable virtues. Respect for traditiona marriage (an institution that's been around a long, long, long time and has tended to work out for the most part (ignore Henry VIII) demands a reasoned approach to any changes surrounding it. Marriage won't be jeopardized by this registry, just as tolerance won't be upset by people questioning it.

God Bless Utah

Congrats! | 9:06 p.m. April 17, 2008

Congrats to Lisa and Brandie, wishing you a long life of happiness together!

This is a proud day for SLC!

My comment | 9:24 p.m. April 17, 2008

Our society is becoming more and more like Sodom and Gomorrah.

At Long Last! | 10:17 p.m. April 17, 2008

Finally these poor people are freed from the ruthless chains of oppression that held them bound. Finally they are free to live as they wish. It's a great day.

Congratulations! | 10:57 p.m. April 17, 2008

Wishing you the best! I am so proud of Salt Lake City. Thanks to Ralph Becker!

Boring | 11:04 p.m. April 17, 2008

Amen Ben!

Charlie | 11:12 p.m. April 17, 2008

Congratulations to the happy couple. I'm so proud to be your friend, today and always.

Agkcrbs | 11:48 p.m. April 17, 2008

Whoops... I think you all got lost. The LibTrib's comment board is that-a-way. Seriously, when did all these Church-haters become such fans of the Church paper?

Anyway, this "mutual commitment registry" is a terrific idea. My trusty, lifelong companion Rover and I will be down to add our names as soon as possible. I'm so proud to be a Utahn! This is truly a step in the right direction.

Tired | 11:45 p.m. April 18, 2008

What audacity to assume that any intellegent individual would show any respect for an opinion which demonstrates little respect for the opinion of someone else.

DIADEB | 7:04 a.m. April 19, 2008

Back up...

Mormon 2 | 3:31 p.m. Apr. 17, 2008 " I think what the city has done is great and is the finest example we can set for others as an example of what the LDS Church is all about"

So the city and the LDS Church are one and the same after all?

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