Deseret News | Reader comments: Talovic family keeps to itself after moving back to Bosnia

Reader comments
Talovic family keeps to itself after moving back to Bosnia

John in AZ | 6:40 a.m. March 19, 2008

The Media...it is all about the media. They are out of control. It's about the 'story'. It's about circulation numbers. It is greed. The media ought to have some controls. Freedom of the press does not mean they can hassle folks until they get that story. But it happens in America. There are numerous tragedies in America that anyone in the world can read about anywhere, anytime. People need and deserve their privacy. This is the downside of technology. Good and bad.

You're Wrong | 7:46 a.m. March 19, 2008

Just because one person does something they should not have done does not mean the whole family is bad.

Re: Bosnia is the Place to be | 7:53 a.m. March 19, 2008

You are a classless individual. It is people like you that make people here in FL think that all Utahn's are holier than thou. If your brother busts out the neighbors car windows or shoots someone at work are you also guilty because you are his family? Get a life!

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Ugly Attitude | 7:52 a.m. March 19, 2008

The person who commented at 7:39 a.m. has an ugly attitude.

Their family did not do any damage at all. The son of a family did the damage, not his father, mother or other family members.

May their wounds heal with the help of others.

Jules | 8:45 a.m. March 19, 2008

I totally agree that this individual making this ignorant/rude comment is classless. It is the people living here in UT believing they are holier than thou. I get sick and tired of people like this. Sulji, his wife and three young girls are wonderful sincere people. I know them personally and feel their pain. It's people with comments like this that should be damned. Maybe some day a friend or relative of this person may do something. Will this person be accountable. No. Yes,please get a life!!!

Dorothy | 8:41 a.m. March 19, 2008

The person who commented at 7:39 might or might not be from Utah. The evidence of love and compassion of Utah people toward the Talovic family is more what Utah is about. A few rotten eggs make Utah look "holier than thou" or any other negative attribute but the fact is, there are caring, loving, forgiving people in Utah who are quite genuine. They are good examples to all of us. Good luck to the Talovic family - I hope they find peace in their new home.

Ugly Attitude 2 | 8:49 a.m. March 19, 2008

The comment made @ 7:30Am is definitely an ugly attitude. I pray for Sulji's family and that living in Bosnia will help them gain some peace and serenity. They so much deserve this. I would hope the media would please leave them alone. They need to heal.

Re: Jules | 9:22 a.m. March 19, 2008

Jules,
So you just read a story about a family whose son killed 5 people in a random act of violence. The father says that his community in Utah reached out to him, icluding a victim's family, to let him know that they didn't blame him for his son's actions. Then you proceed to seemingly generalize all Utahns as "holier than thou" based on one comment on an anonymous message board. That just doesn't make sense.

Mitch | 9:30 a.m. March 19, 2008

Anonymous at 9:05, please check yourself in. So you do not have ancestors that migrated here at some point in you history. This is America, a country founded on immigration. Please respect others cultures and believes although they may be foreign to you.

Californian | 10:04 a.m. March 19, 2008

OK, isn't it time to leave this poor family alone? Suleiman's victims are hopefully getting their lives back together. Shouldn't his other victims, the people that loved him, be entitled to do the same?

Catherine | 10:11 a.m. March 19, 2008

I hope the Talovic family can find the peace and privacy that they need and deserve. Their son committed a crime, not the entire family. They should be left alone to work through their feelings instead of being over-analyzed for every single thing they do or where they move for whatever reason for the rest of their lives.

Big deal if they don't talk to their neighbors. Neither do I- other than an occasional conversation about the weather or a wave hello/good-bye. That doesn't mean people like this are freaks of nature and hermits. We just value privacy and our own personal space.

God bless the Talovics. I hope they will find comfort in knowing that not everyone in the world is judging them.

Robert | 10:29 a.m. March 19, 2008

I don't even know why this article is even in the newspaper. These poor people moved back to their home country because that is what felt best for them. It seems almost ridiculous to run an article titled "Family keeps to itself" and put it in the newspaper for everyone to read. It isn't necessary to pry into their lives, They have already gone through enough and they are only trying to protect the family that they love. The media always oversteps their boundaries and I'm really truly sick and often times disgusted by the stories that they run and how they are presented because it has become soley based on appeal and money. Leave this poor family alone, and allow them to continue their lives in the privacy that they deserve. As far as the horrific and completely ignorant comments go, I say we should run an article no, multiple articles, for every mistake that you and your entire family makes. Then we should allow everyone who thinks that because they can figure out how to log onto the internet, that they are intelligent enough to form a logical opinion, ridicule, mock and disrespect you.

No accountability? | 10:41 a.m. March 19, 2008

OK - I agree with nearly everyone that the family should not be blamed for the son's actions. However, I guess I can't find them 100% blameless. Obviously this boy needed some help. I recall from the stories at the time, the family was aware he had 'problems.' Was there no one in the family who saw he needed help? Couldn't they have referred him to someone? Was there absolutely no way they could have intervened?

I don't know - maybe not. But if one of my children had died in that tragedy, I can't say I could hold the family absolutely and completely blameless.

I guess the biggest thing that kept running through my head as I read it, is whether the boy would have still done what he did, if he had known the impact it would have on his own family. In effect he also killed all of them...they're just dying in a more drawn out manner.

Thank You Robert | 10:44 a.m. March 19, 2008

I couldn't agree more. The media needs to quit hounding these people and let all of us move on.

jr | 11:06 a.m. March 19, 2008

Until many of you have walked in the shoes of those that came from war torn experiences you cannot even fathom the hell the have lived in. Trying to begin a new life in a new country in itself would take a toll. Seeing how many of the native Utahns treat people from out of state/country one can understand some of the hurts being continued in their new home/land. Utahns are not the most friendly welcoming people. First question you are most likely to be asked is "are you Mormon" then see how fast the atmsophere deteriorates. GOD BLESS this family that they may heal from the Ugliness of War, death and personal struggles. We as parents all miss a few pointers in our duties so lets not be high minded in the blame game.

Jules | 11:17 a.m. March 19, 2008

Regarding the person who commented 9:22AM.
For your information I did not intend to generalize ALL Utahns as "holier than thou". Although, I see it frequently and do not like it. I understand also, I didn't exactly make myself clear. I don't even know if the person who said this is indeed a Utahn. I still shame them just the same. I realize how many people reached out to the Talovic family. I was one of them and I am a Utahn.

RockOn | 1:05 p.m. March 19, 2008

Sadness. How excruciating it must be for the Talovic father, mother and daughters.

May the peace of the Spirit be upon them.

Thank you for the article for letting us know how they're doing. May they heal.

Professional "Help?" | 1:16 p.m. March 19, 2008

many people think that a professional can solve the problems of the mentally ill. many who commit suicide are getting professional help. They guy who killed the Chicago Dermatologist (on dateline Friday night) was getting professional help and was medicated. Sometimes people can't be helped if they are crazy, we can't just institutionalize everyone that we think may do something crazy. The family keeps to itself because the Media is still stalking them.

chandevry | 1:29 p.m. March 19, 2008

Doesn't everyone want to go home when they don't feel well? I know I do. This family cannot heal until we leave them alone. God bless them and give them strenght to realize they are not at all to blame. There is no good in blame. We learn from our experiences and move on. I hope that someday the Talovics will find joy and the ability to carry on (for the sake of their three sweet little girls). Their son did something terrible, but we cannot judge what his thoughts were or why he did what he did. Thank goodness that God... who knows all... will have that responsibility. And God bless the all the victums of this mysterious tragedy.

sympathy | 1:56 p.m. March 19, 2008

The boy who did this was old enough to make his own decisions and know that there are consequences with decisions and HE still did it. It was not his father, his mother or his sisters who did this horrid crime. I cannot imagine the pain, embarrassment or suffering that the family feels...to know your son, your brother did something so terrible. I have sympathy for them and hope that they can somehow heal. I hope that they find a good life back in the country in which they came from. I hope that everyone learns from this experience and treats everyone a little more kind. If there was more tolerance, kindness and love towards different cultures, people-especially young people (Columbine)would not be incline to do such a horrid thing. The media needs to let this family continue to live, it was not them that commited the crime. The person who did commit the crime is paying the price in a different world.

re: sympathy | 3:32 p.m. March 19, 2008

This was beautifully stated. I hope if another article is published regarding the Talovics we will hear how well they are doing and how nicely they have gotten on with their lives. For now, I'll hope the media/newspapers will leave them alone and let them heal on their own. It takes so much time to process and they deserve to have this. And yes, wouldn't it be nice if everyone could learn from this experience and treat people with (more) kindness. Thanks sympathy.

It's time.. | 4:10 p.m. March 19, 2008

that this whole story went away. Let them live their lives in peace...

saldina | 9:10 p.m. March 31, 2008

the talovici are my family and i grow up with sulejman i know him better by his nic name LEKO he was the gratest person in the world for me and i want to tell evry one that my aunt sabira and her family went to bosnia to fell closer to sulejmen because his grave is there i also want to thank all of the people that speak good of the talovici because they are good people and i want to say sorry to all of the people that sulejman hurt i want u to know that he was a good person he wold have never hurt a soul only god knows what made him do what he did and i do mean what and who and for eny one who thinks that him being a muslim had a thig to do with what he did they are wrong bosnian muslims like my self are not killer some thing else in his head made him do that...my prears are with all of the victams....and please do pry for the talovic family.,

John Ngo | 2:23 p.m. Oct. 8, 2009

Fatima, His sister was my friend, ever since the third grade, we knew each other well... Please, If anyone knows where they are, Please tell me, I want to talk to her again, She moved from here in 7th, I didn't get to say goodbye in time, I want to say sorry, so please if any of you know about where they are or how to contact them please tell me, I beg you. JohnVanNgo(@)yahoo(.)com

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