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Because it's pretty clear that not only did she *not* consent before Joseph's polygamous marriages were made, she didn't even know about them. It's far from clear, in fact, that she was *ever* on board with the idea, notwithstanding D&C 132's specific threat that she would be "destroyed" if she didn't get with the program.
Furthermore, it appears that a woman taken as a polygamous wife must be a "virgin." Didn't Parley Pratt break this rule when he took another (non-member) man's former wife as a plural wife? (The former husband, a Missourian, responded by shooting Elder Pratt dead, which is thought to have contributed to the Mountain Meadows massacre.)
Any thoughts? How can D&C 132 be reconciled with the actual practice of Mormon polygamy? Can it?
What a silly mess!
How absurd to believe you can disassociate polygamy from a person's experiences about a polygamist family. Next you'll be saying: "this is what is supposed to happen in the last days" and that will be that.
I wish Mormon women would unite and change the terrible injustices heaped upon them in this monstrous patriarchal system. I am closer to this problem than you might think, Sister.
Neither Joseph the Prophet nor Parley P. Pratt were breaking the law of the priesthood in taking - with the case of Joseph - wives without Emma's consent or - in the case of Elder Pratt - taking non-virgin wives. If I am not mistaken, D&C 132:61-62 details that consent is only needed from the first wife if that first wife is still a virgin AND if the 2nd wife is a virgin also. Joseph's first plural wife Fanny Alger was a virgin when he married her in 1833. Emma, however, was not a virgin. Therefore, no consent was needed from Emma for Joseph's marriage to Fanny Alger - something which was apparently a great joy for the Alger family. This is, as I understand it, the Law of Virgins. Simply put, consent is only needed in the taking of another virgin if the first wife is a virgin. Also, these passages do not say that only virgins can be taken as plural wives. It is just detailing how to properly take virgins as wives. I think that that is how it works. If I am wrong, which I might be, please someone correct me.
Steve
"It's not secret - it's sacred.
What a crock!
The problem is that verses 61 through 63 are the only ones in LDS scripture that actually authorize polygamy under *any* circumstances (i.e. involving virgins or otherwise). They're not a special "Law of Virgins" -- they're the only scriptural authority for plural marriage, *period.*
Under the circumstances, I think the better reading is that verse 61 sets for the *cumulative* conditions that must be satisfied, if polygamy is not to constitute adultery. Those conditions are (1) the first wife must have been a virgin when first married; (2) the first wife must give her consent to the taking of a second wife; and (3) the second wife must also be a virgin when first married, and "vowed to no other man."
Alternatively, you could read it as stating that both the first wife and the plural wives have to be virgins at the time any plural marriages are contracted -- meaning basically you need to marry everyone simultaneously.
Of course, verse 59 basically says "Whatever Joseph says is right," so maybe that trumps the apparent conflict with scripture here.
What are you, against anti-Mormons or doubly against Mormons????
father of Dorothy Allred Soloman. Rulon Allred was a strong believer in
pural marriage. He took the time to explain the principle to me prior to
his untimely death. I treasure the same. I hope that she will always
cherish his heritage.
I hope you understand that we can not judge groups as a whole from things done by one or two people. I would encourage you to reach out a try to gain good experiences.
Bitterness can cause so much heartache. There is so much beauty and goodness out there to gain and feel.
And of course, some take it way too seriously as boys will be boys.
Seems to me a lady wrote a book and I wonder how many of you have acually read it before entering into this silly battle of words.
In the U.S. as a whole, people are more concerned with who sleeps with whom than the welfare of education, poverty, human rights, and tolerance.
Dorothy Solomon is right when she says the human mind can entertain many different points of view and find a balance. One's own convictions need not cause us to slander others.
I, on the other hand, will take my chances and declare my personal independence from this brand of authoritarianism and wish you the best of luck.
People are fallible....face it and move on. People sometimes use "God" to blame for their mistakes.
Polygamy is wrong; it hurts. We know that now. We are moving on.
And if this sounds absurd to you......think twice...
Early on, something simply did not feel right about LDS doctrine to me. I felt I did not belong in the boy's club, walked away, and am now blissfully living in another state. I am successful, earn 110K per year, am healthy and happier than I've ever been in my life.
I hope other women can realize they do not need any patriarchal system in their lives to be blessed.
What could we have accomplished for good in the world in the same amount of time we have wasted on this message board today? (I'm guilty!)80+ comments? I challenge everyone to find 80 good things to say about their spouse/child/parent/sibling before the end of the day... and say them with the same energy that you expressed on this message board today.
What might also be accomplished in this forum is the absolute recognition that there are many, many truths. Not just one sovereign one.
Until this is understood, you will have a Tower of Babel situation where people are expressing themselves in energetic ways -- but the diversity is beautiful. As it should be.
Many societies also practiced cannibalism; does that make it "no biggie"?
True Christians have NEVER believed that polygamy is commanded by god. There is NO CHRISTIAN support for it. And that is another of the doctrines that makes Mormonism NOT CHRISTIAN! Get over it.
But I believe it won't be and so does much of the world.
I read the book and when I tried posting my commentary, I was edited out. My only comment was that this book should have been named: My life in Polygamy it was great and wonderful. She pussyfooted around the issues of clearcut abuse, including sexual simply because, as she stated: My father made me promise to not write anything bad about the family.
In polygamy, women and children often are in states of starvation because of not preferred wife status or simply because money is spread too thin. There are clearcut instances of abuse which she glossed over in which a father gets "first chance" at his daughter before she marries. Yet this was glossed over as inconsequential. I finished the book angry that she failed to write what she knows to be true in order to save family honor. This only protects the victimizer.
We are talking to the majority of those involved in this practice and we're here to help. The majority need help, counseling, financial means to leave and supportive people.
We are here and we will help. We will not support slavery, polygamy or inequality anymore.
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