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15 powerful things happy people do differently

Published: Thursday, May 17 2012 9:55 a.m. MDT

What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious: Happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently, and that is why I have put together a list of things that happy people do differently than unhappy people. This content originally appeared on Purpose Fairy and has been used here with the permission of the author.
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Misty Mountain
Kent, WA

"Acceptance vs. Resistance
Happy people understand that you can't really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence."

Um, no.

You can change YOU by accepting that stuff happens. Sometimes people get sick and die young. Sometimes freak accidents happen and your car gets totaled. Sometimes people that you trust betray you.

You can't change the bad situation by accepting it. Or by insisting that there is a "reason" that this bad thing happened, and seeking out that "reason". You can accept the fact that some people you trusted have feet of clay. You can accept that bad things happen for no "reason" at all, but still know that you have within you the strength to cope with the loss (physical, emotional, financial) that this situation has brought you.

Misty Mountain
Kent, WA

"Trust vs Doubt"
"They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race."

You could have left "color" out of the list--"race" covers that.

But you left out gender orientation. Was that accidental?

Happy people don't freak out when the law--or judicial ruling--requires them to treat everybody with dignity and respect. If they're marrying someone you think they shouldn't be marrying, you remember that it's their decision, and respect their right to make it. Just like the decision of who you chose to marry was your own, and deserved the same respect.

Laura Bilington
Maple Valley, WA

"Challenges vs. Problems"
Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them.

Expressing their gratitude? Are you serious?

You can remain calm in the face of problems (aka challenges), being confident that you will be able to weather them. But expecting someone to feel grateful for challenges (or by claiming that you aren't an officially "happy" person unless you feel gratitude for problems is absolute nonsense.

And what's with the picture in #8? He's using a brush over his bald area. What does this have to do with selflessness?

#10 is weird. There is a word for "dreaming big vs. being a realist" and it is "recklessness". And yes, that is scary to the rest of us more prudent ones, but not because being reckless leads to great accomplishments. It's because we--as a family, as a society--have to step in to pick up the pieces when these non-realist dreams fall flat on their faces.

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