What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious: Happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently, and that is why I have put together a list of things that happy people do differently than unhappy people. This content originally appeared on Purpose Fairy and has been used here with the permission of the author.
Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy FEAR less and LOVE a lot more.
They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.
Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence.
When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse, but, rather, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? and they go from there, focusing on the positive rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full no matter what happens to them.
Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold onto anger. They choose to FORGIVE and FORGET, understanding that FORGIVENESS is a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.
They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them.
They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They understand that “doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life,” as Wayne Dyer puts it, and they care more about living a life full of meaning rather than what in our modern society we would call living a successful life.
The irony here is that most of the time they get both, success and meaning, just because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most, and they always pursue their hearts' desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world.
Happy people would probably agree with Carl’s Jung theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior.
When a parent wants to make sure that his 7-year-old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child won’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, in the end getting the wanted results.
Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lies many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.
They do what they do not for themselves but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness into the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.
”Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.”
They have an abundant mindset, living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.
These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big. They always listen to their hearts and intuition, and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.
“Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men."
They are kind to themselves and others, and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.
No no matter where they look, no matter where they are or whom they're with, they have this capacity to see beauty where most of us would only see ugliness; opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles; abundance, where most of us would only see lack, and they express their gratitude for them all.
They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future.
“When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek your self in it and mistake it for who you are.” -Eckhart Tolle
No matter what happens to them, they always seem to keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.
They take full ownership over their lives, and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away, and they choose to keep the power for themselves and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.