A note to my daughter: Seven attributes that make a husband worth the trouble

Published: Tuesday, Jan. 28 2014 12:29 p.m. MST

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Provided by Gary Larson
I am a man and I know men. I know what our weaknesses are and what our tendencies are. I know that my son-in-law will not be perfect, but I do want him to be capable of improving and growing because you will make him better if he lets you.

He can and should be your best friend and the person that adores you the most in this world because when I am gone from this world, he will be just that.

However, yours should be a mission of patience and love because it is not easy to get rid of our manly rough spots all at once.

In fact, I think you may want him to keep a few of those rough spots, even if it may seem annoying to you at times. It may take years, but if he has the basics of self-confidence, is a hard worker, has respect for you, is committed to you, makes you smile and loves life, is a man of faith and allows you to be challenged, you will have the foundation for a great life together.

I love you sweetheart. You are a treasure to your mom and me. And if, as fate would have it, you bring home a man who possesses none of the attributes I have described, know that we love you, and know that we will love him also.

And we will love him as long as you can endure being around him and until such time that you throw him back into the swamp. If that time comes, you will know it because he is just no longer worth the trouble. Use your brain in addition to your heart as you select the man with whom you will raise the next generation of our family.
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carman
Wasatch Front, UT

Nice list, but you missed the most important attribute of a spouse, be it husband or wife: Kind. If a man or woman is kind, almost all other attributes you want will come out. A kind man or woman is more concerned about others than himself or herself. They will work hard, smile, be respectful, etc. I always put kind at the top of the list.

vangroovin
West Jordan, UT

Good reminder for all of us to be our best self. Thanks for sharing! :)

TJ411
Saratoga Springs, UT

"And we will love him as long as you can endure being around him and until such time that you throw him back into the swamp. If that time comes, you will know it because he is just no longer worth the trouble." Love this line. So true, been there.

carman he did put kindness, it was just under "Joyful". I agree, kindness is key.

Llew40
Sandy, UT

Good, kind, crazy about you. Unfortunately, single, straight men possessing all three of these qualities have been snatched up by age 21. Believe me, I'm 39 and never married, I know. Your daughter is lucky to have a dad like you still married to her mother.

ImABeliever
Provo, UT

To: Llew40, I beg to differ with your comment. Just because you have never been married doesn't make you an authority of men. Many men possess all 3 of these qualities and could be either married or single. I have been married, divorced and currently single and possess these qualities as any woman would tell you that knows me. Following the Spirit of God will lead one to the proper companion that has those qualities. Following the Spirit has been good to me lately in dating as well as other aspects of life.

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