28 tips for every Mormon couple: Marriage advice, encouragement from LDS leaders

Published: Sunday, Nov. 17 2013 11:31 p.m. MST

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"Taking time for each other is the key for harmony at home."
-President Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Read more of his message on LDS.org.
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BYUalum
South Jordan, UT

Beautiful words of advice! Thank you.

Say No to BO
Mapleton, UT

Enough already with the lists.

patjan
Flower Mound, TX

Very good list. A very great talk is Elder L. Whitney Clayton's May Conf. 2013 talk called "Marriage: Watch and Learn" - an excellent all around guide for a great marriage.

conservative scientist
Lindon, UT

Thank you for publishing this. A great collection of inspiring quotes from those I trust. I would like to see more in a similar vein including great quotes on raising children, being wise with finances, forgiveness, etc.

hmckay4
Winston-Salem, NC

Lots of great advice - but shouldn't it be for every married couple? Not just Mormon ones?

Obama10
SYRACUSE, UT

No more lists! I am not clicking through 28 times just so you can artificially increase your clicks for advertisers. If you've got a story to tell, than tell it. I read many articles every day on the internet and I never see lists except in the Dnews. Sure it was a great list, but I'll never know.

ConservativeCommonTater
West Valley City, UT

Most of these suggestions, except for the specifically religious, would fit ANY couple. Isn't that what makes a good relationship? It applies to Mormons and non-Mormons, people that are straight or gay.

Thinkman
Provo, UT

One more tip:

Put your spouse above all else and cleave unto nothing and no one else. It is sad that this tip is easily forgotten when one spouse experiences a lack of belief in the church and the other decides to end the marriage and cleave not to their spouse but to something less.

Confused
Sandy, UT

Sorry to be a wet blanket here...but the thoughts are nice...but reality is something else.

Most relationships tendencies are based on how the person was raised. If you come from a "hugging" family were emotions and words of thoughtfulness is common and marry someone who family is not the "hugging" type.. It can cause conflict.

Thus my relationship with my wife, no matter what I say or do, it is never good enough because my wife was taught by her mother to look for negatives instead of positives of the other person.

No matter how hard I try to convince her, she simply will not acknowledge my thoughts.

dotGone
Puyallup, WA

Awwww! That was adorable! I loved the pictures. I would add: Don't rush into marriage. Most people can look pretty good for a month or two! Don't let your romantic hormones blind you to reality! Also, do not take relationship advice from me, heh heh.... I know nothing!

Neanderthal
Phoenix, AZ

@Confused:
"Most relationships tendencies are based on how the person was raised."

Let's say there's an family issue that needs to be discussed and she says: 'I don't wanna talk about it." Then what?

To you youngsters out there who are contemplating marriage... please examine your spouses parents closely to know what you're getting into. And make sure it's not when they're on their best behavior to impress you. It's an arduous task, lengthy I know... but well worth the effort if you wanna get a spouse you can live with... after the sekes wears off.

Jillian
West Jordan, UT

I read the comments first.
Then I read the article to see what made people "tick" or "ticked-off" . . . interesting very interesting reactions. This list could apply to all. Adjust it to fit!

1 wisemomma
Valley Center, USA, CA

To those who complain about lists...I LIKE lists and I especially like it when I can read a quote and then go to the source to read more if I want to or just keep reading. It helps me remember what is being said. It helps me focus on what is being said. All these quotes are applicable to all married couples and I am grateful for my companion of 39 years who is such a wonderful example of an honorable man who loves me, enriches my life and gives me hope. My heart still skips a beat when I hear his voice....he rocks my world!

Benedito
Beijing, PRC, 00

Let me abridge the 28 clics and save everyone's time. The advice given in 28 different ways is fantastic! There is nothing one, in full state of mind, can say against it. Now, the fast track is: if you want to have a happy marriage, never, ever argue with your woman. Women tend to be right about 95% of the time, so, do not foul yourself by letting your pride afloat. Accept, it: she is right! Now, for the 5% that remains, it is absolutely priceless, when you can lovingly look right in their eyes and say, "sorry, dear, I told you so"...

Sore loser
tampa, fl

The Church has a lot of good advice on a lot of different topics. I like Pres. Kimball's advice to go into marriage with eyes wide open, and be in a marriage with eyes half shut. He has a lot of good advice in my opinion.

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