28 tips for every Mormon couple: Marriage advice, encouragement from LDS leaders

Published: Sunday, Nov. 17 2013 11:31 p.m. MST

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Marriage advice has rarely been hard to come by, and the wealth of relationship recommendations available online has made that increasingly true.

Most recently, many have read and shared messages from bloggers who discuss their own marriage experiences and advice online. While some suggestions are simply viewed by family and friends, other posts have gone viral, receiving national and even global attention.

For years, leaders of The Church of Jesus of Latter-day Saints have also shared marriage advice, warnings and encouragement. They have given counsel on topics such as selfishness, gratitude, responsibilities and much more.

Click through this list to find 28 pieces of advice and encouragement from previous and current LDS leaders.

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South Jordan, UT

Beautiful words of advice! Thank you.

Say No to BO
Mapleton, UT

Enough already with the lists.

Flower Mound, TX

Very good list. A very great talk is Elder L. Whitney Clayton's May Conf. 2013 talk called "Marriage: Watch and Learn" - an excellent all around guide for a great marriage.

conservative scientist
Lindon, UT

Thank you for publishing this. A great collection of inspiring quotes from those I trust. I would like to see more in a similar vein including great quotes on raising children, being wise with finances, forgiveness, etc.

Winston-Salem, NC

Lots of great advice - but shouldn't it be for every married couple? Not just Mormon ones?


No more lists! I am not clicking through 28 times just so you can artificially increase your clicks for advertisers. If you've got a story to tell, than tell it. I read many articles every day on the internet and I never see lists except in the Dnews. Sure it was a great list, but I'll never know.

West Valley City, UT

Most of these suggestions, except for the specifically religious, would fit ANY couple. Isn't that what makes a good relationship? It applies to Mormons and non-Mormons, people that are straight or gay.

Provo, UT

One more tip:

Put your spouse above all else and cleave unto nothing and no one else. It is sad that this tip is easily forgotten when one spouse experiences a lack of belief in the church and the other decides to end the marriage and cleave not to their spouse but to something less.

Sandy, UT

Sorry to be a wet blanket here...but the thoughts are nice...but reality is something else.

Most relationships tendencies are based on how the person was raised. If you come from a "hugging" family were emotions and words of thoughtfulness is common and marry someone who family is not the "hugging" type.. It can cause conflict.

Thus my relationship with my wife, no matter what I say or do, it is never good enough because my wife was taught by her mother to look for negatives instead of positives of the other person.

No matter how hard I try to convince her, she simply will not acknowledge my thoughts.

Puyallup, WA

Awwww! That was adorable! I loved the pictures. I would add: Don't rush into marriage. Most people can look pretty good for a month or two! Don't let your romantic hormones blind you to reality! Also, do not take relationship advice from me, heh heh.... I know nothing!

Phoenix, AZ

"Most relationships tendencies are based on how the person was raised."

Let's say there's an family issue that needs to be discussed and she says: 'I don't wanna talk about it." Then what?

To you youngsters out there who are contemplating marriage... please examine your spouses parents closely to know what you're getting into. And make sure it's not when they're on their best behavior to impress you. It's an arduous task, lengthy I know... but well worth the effort if you wanna get a spouse you can live with... after the sekes wears off.

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