10 things I learned when I stopped yelling at my kids

Published: Tuesday, March 26 2013 11:06 p.m. MDT

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Now that I have stopped yelling, not only do I feel happier and calmer, I also feel lighter. I go to bed guilt-free (except for the extra cookie I ate that day, oops) and wake-up more confident that I can parent with greater understanding of my kids, my needs, and how to be more loving and patient. And I am pretty sure my kids feel happier and calmer, too.

I know everyone wants to read, “I stopped yelling, and not only do I feel great, but also my kids are now calmer and perfectly behaved.“

Well, they aren’t. They are still kids. But, yes, tantrums are shorter, and some are completely avoided.

Now that I am calmer, I can think more rationally to resolve potential problems before meltdown mania. But forget perfectly behaved kids for a second. My kids are most definitely more loving towards me, and now tell me quite often “I love you, Orange Rhino mommy!” and that feels more than awesome. It feels phenomenal.
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Sports Nutz
Smithfield, UT

I really enjoyed the article, especially #6 and #7 on the list. The "at least" is something we all can use in many aspects of our lives. Also, I have often talked to people about why we sometimes tend to treat our friends better than our family?

JoCo Ute
Grants Pass, OR

Great article. Not yelling gives a parent an opportunity to "catch them being good." It frees a parents mind to see and comment on all the positive "good" things our kids do. Things that too often go unnoticed when we are yelling. It gives our kids a chance to repeat those actions that get a positive response instead of just avoiding the negative ones.

Idaho Dad
Pocatello, ID

Wonderful!! Twenty-five years ago as newlyweds, we determined that it would be OK in our family to yell at someone only if we were trying to save their life. Believe it or not, we have held to it, and it has made an amazing difference for us.

We get told too often that it isn't a realistic goal. Baloney! I'm so glad to see an article like this.

Yelling at our kids simply perpetuates a cycle of verbal abuse that must not be tolerated any more than any other type of abuse. Stop the cycle! If we did it, anyone can.

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