Editor's note: This content, "What I wish I knew as a young mom" by Susan Tordella, originally appeared on her website, Raising Able. It has been posted here with the author's permission. There’s so much to know to be a good mother that young moms can’t know it all. They can learn it from their kids and from other moms. Here are 10 things I wish I had known or that I've discovered along the way.
Time is short, even though it feels long when they’re young. Cherish their childhood. It will be gone faster than you can believe. I know everyone says this and the days are long.
Go the extra mile even when it’s hard.
Motherhood means sacrifice. You will eventually have more time for you. (See #1.)
Learn to give as much as humanly possible. They’ll always want more anyway!
Take care of yourself. It took me a few years to learn this one. Self-care makes you a better mother. Spend some time and money on YOU. Then you have more to give.
Don’t fool with regret and guilt. Do your best. There is no perfect mother out there. As long as you get it right at least half the time, you’re good. Get help! (See #5.)
Other mothers and experienced mothers can help. Parenting support groups saved me and showed me how to have a respectful and healthy relationship with my kids, without yelling, threatening, spanking, bribing and punishment. It was an investment of time and effort that paid off.
HAVE FUN. Your kids will cherish the good times and hopefully forgive and forget the not-so-good. Kids thrive on fun. Laugh, play games, tell stories, play Charades together.
Kids don’t have to have it all. Learn to say “no” in a kind and firm way. Encourage them to earn money to buy more stuff. Show them how to have fun without spending a dime.
Kids are wonderful teachers. They are patient and kind. They will reflect back who and what we are. Sometimes the reflection is painful. They are flexible and can learn from us, especially through our actions. My kids let me make the same mistake over and over again until I figured out a different way.
Having family meetings and having kids do chores and family dinners are like putting money in the bank — an investment in everything you want your kids to become in the future.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. When my two young sons discovered a mud bath and got really dirty, my choice was to reprimand them or surrender and get out the camera, quickly, and laugh.
Susan Tordella's book, "Raising Able: How chores empower families" is available on Amazon