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'Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you'

Published: Tuesday, Sept. 1 2015 4:35 a.m. MDT

Miley Cyrus poses backstage at the Teen Choice Awards at the Gibson Amphitheater on Sunday, Aug. 11, 2013, in Los Angeles. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP) (Jordan Strauss, Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP) Miley Cyrus poses backstage at the Teen Choice Awards at the Gibson Amphitheater on Sunday, Aug. 11, 2013, in Los Angeles. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP) (Jordan Strauss, Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP)

Not only was Miley Cyrus the talk of almost every morning show Monday, but the 20-year-old's name was mentioned 306 times per minute on Twitter Sunday night.

Whether the media frenzy around Cyrus' performance on the MTV Video Music Awards will boost her music sales or not, many parents could care less. Rather, some have responded online with advice for their children and Cyrus.

One mom's blog about Cyrus' performance has gone viral, with more than 1,000 comments on her blog and more than 10,000 shares on Facebook.

The author, Kim Keller, expresses her concerns in a letter titled "Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you."

Keller begins by explaining what may have prompted Cyrus' performance.

"Yes, this is what happens when you constantly hear everything you do is awesome. This is what happens when people fawn over your every Tweet and Instagram photo.

In this March 13, 2010 photo, actress Miley Cyrus, from the upcoming film In this March 13, 2010 photo, actress Miley Cyrus, from the upcoming film "The Last Song" poses for portrait in Santa Monica, Calif. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles) (Matt Sayles, ASSOCIATED PRESS)

"This is what happens when no responsible adult has ever said the word 'no,' made you change your clothes before leaving the house, or never spanked your butt for deliberate defiance," Keller wrote on her blog.

She continues to warn her daughter that if she were to ever act in such a way that she would regret every second.

"I promise you that I will run up and twerk so you will see how ridiculous twerking looks. I will duct tape your mouth shut so your tongue doesn’t hang out like an overheated hound dog," Keller wrote on her blog.

"Why would I do that? Because I love you and I want you to respect yourself."

Keller recognized that many friends may think these actions are cool or sexy. However, she ultimately referred to Cyrus as a "desperate girl screaming for attention."

Singer Miley Cyrus arrives at the MTV Video Music Awards on Sunday, Aug. 25, 2013, at the Barclays Center in the Brooklyn borough of New York. Since Cyrus's performance, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) (Evan Agostini, Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) Singer Miley Cyrus arrives at the MTV Video Music Awards on Sunday, Aug. 25, 2013, at the Barclays Center in the Brooklyn borough of New York. Since Cyrus's performance, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) (Evan Agostini, Evan Agostini/Invision/AP)

"You probably know girls who will emulate this behavior at the next school dance. Don’t do it with them. You are far too valuable to sell yourself so cheaply," Keller wrote on her blog. "Walk away. Let the boys gawk and know in your heart that they see only a body that can be used for their pleasure and then forgotten."

In conclusion, Keller apologized to her daughter if she has ever felt sad because her mother hasn't praised her every accomplishment. She then apologized for being a mother first before a friend. But she expressed that one day her daughter will know she did what was best.

"Dear daughter, I am going to fight or die trying to keep you from becoming like the Miley Cyruses of the world," Keller wrote. "You can thank me later."

Many have reacted to Keller's work, including talk radio host Glenn Beck, who referred to Keller as a "super mom."

"I think that’s one of the best letters," Beck said during his radio show. "That is a super mom. That is a super mom. And that is a mom we need to have on the program, because I think … if that daughter does not appreciate her mom now or won’t in the immediate future, she will in the end."

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth arrive at the U.S. premiere of Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth arrive at the U.S. premiere of "Paranoia" at the DGA Theatre on Thursday, Aug. 8, 2013 in Los Angeles.Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP) (Jordan Strauss, Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP)

Beck discussed his latest thoughts, pointing out the important role of parents in their children's lives.

"We're not going to be able to solve the problems of the world, we're just not," Beck said. "But we can rescue our own children from being sucked into it. And in the end, if enough of us rescue our own children and our own families, there will be enough of us to be able to set the example when the reset button is hit, and we will lead the way out of real darkness."

Other parents are also standing up for what they believe is best for their children.

As previously reported by the Deseret News, the Parents Television Council issued a complaint against MTV regarding several performances that were shown during the program that was rated OK for children 14 years old and up.

"This much is absolutely clear: MTV marketed adults-only material to children while falsely manipulating the content rating to make parents think the content was safe for their children," the Parents Television Council press release stated.

In this Sept. 2008 file photo, Katy Perry, left, poses with Miley Cyrus, center and her mother Leticia Cyrus at the 2008 MTV Video Music Awards held at Paramount Pictures Studio Lot in Los Angeles. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello) (Chris Pizzello, ASSOCIATED PRESS) In this Sept. 2008 file photo, Katy Perry, left, poses with Miley Cyrus, center and her mother Leticia Cyrus at the 2008 MTV Video Music Awards held at Paramount Pictures Studio Lot in Los Angeles. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello) (Chris Pizzello, ASSOCIATED PRESS)

“MTV continues to sexually exploit young women by promoting acts that incorporate ‘twerking’ in a nude-colored bikini. How is this image of former child star Miley Cyrus appropriate for 14-year-olds? How is it appropriate for children to watch Lady Gaga strip down to a bikini in the opening act?"

Mika Brzezinski, the co-host of MSNBC’s "Morning Joe" and Dr. Nancy Snyderman had more to say about the topic on the "Today Show" regarding what duty parents have to their children. After co-host Matt Lauer said that Cyrus' performance shouldn't surprise anyone in the media, Snyderman responded as a mom.

"I have my parent hat on right now, sorry I'm not a member of the media right now," Snyderman said on the "Today Show." "Where are the parental guidelines to take a child from Hannah Montana to the next stage like that?"

In an open letter to Cyrus, Sasha Emmons expressed that after witnessing Cyrus' mother applaud her daughter's performance Sunday night, her belief in the importance of parenting was reaffirmed.

Singer Miley Cyrus arrives at the MTV Video Music Awards on Sunday, Aug. 25, 2013, at the Barclays Center in the Brooklyn borough of New York. Since Cyrus's performance, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) (Evan Agostini, Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) Singer Miley Cyrus arrives at the MTV Video Music Awards on Sunday, Aug. 25, 2013, at the Barclays Center in the Brooklyn borough of New York. Since Cyrus's performance, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP) (Evan Agostini, Evan Agostini/Invision/AP)

"If I were your mother, you’d be getting a stern talking-to this morning," Emmons wrote on ivillage.com. "Someone needs to give you a hug, and love you in the hardest way a parent can love their child: by not always saying yes.

"As a mother to a daughter myself (a daughter who, thankfully, was in bed and didn’t watch), I want to raise a woman who’s proud of her body and in control of her sexuality. But part of that is letting her know it’s important to put on the brakes when something feels wrong. And that performance just felt so, so wrong. Your mama should have told you so."

Jill Simonian, a mother of two daughters, also wrote words of advice to Cyrus in her blog post "My, My Miley." Simonian begins her letter by pointing out that while she has been a fan of Cyrus for a long time and even stood up for her in recent years, she said that her VMA performance was much below the performer's talent.

"Last night, I watched from my couch and felt sad and violated," Simonian wrote on her blog. "At one point during your performance, I covered my eyes and then cringed out of fear that I'm turning into some prude mother. But I'm not turning into some prude mother."

In this July 2008 file photo, actress-singer Miley Cyrus co-hosts MTV's In this July 2008 file photo, actress-singer Miley Cyrus co-hosts MTV's "Total Request Live" at MTV Studios on Friday, July 18, 2008 in New York. Since Cyrus's recent performance at the MTV VMAs, social media has exploded with negative responses from parents. (AP Photo/Evan Agostini) (Evan Agostini, ASSOCIATED PRESS)

Simonian expressed her understanding that Cyrus no longer desired to be associated with her innocent past, and that no one could expect her to stay that way, yet as a mother and a fan, Simonian hoped for a brighter future for the 20-year-old.

"It's not about being an example for little girls around the world, it's about being the best YOU that you can be. … Last night, you did not win, Miley. So as a fan, I'll ask you to put your tongue back in your mouth and get back to winning," Simonian wrote on her blog.

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