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Vai's View: Death of Andy Reid's son Garrett is a tragic ending

Published: Thursday, July 30 2015 6:37 a.m. MDT

Flowers are delivered to the funeral for Garrett Reid, son of Eagles head coach Andy Reid, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa. Andy Reid issued a statement through the team Monday evening thanking people for their support and saying his son had faced personal challenges -- an indirect reference to his son's history of drug addiction. The Eagles coach says Garrett Flowers are delivered to the funeral for Garrett Reid, son of Eagles head coach Andy Reid, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa. Andy Reid issued a statement through the team Monday evening thanking people for their support and saying his son had faced personal challenges -- an indirect reference to his son's history of drug addiction. The Eagles coach says Garrett "lost the battle" but will be remembered as a fighter, with a huge, loving heart. (Brynn Anderson, Associated Press)

I'm heartbroken for Andy and Tammy Reid. No parent ever plans to bury a child, yet that's what the Reids will do this morning.

The oldest of their five children, Garrett, was found dead in his dorm room at Lehigh University Sunday morning, where the Philadelphia Eagles are in training camp.

Cause of death has not been determined, but given Garrett's very public drug addiction, observers want to connect the dots. Twenty-nine, after all, is too early to die of natural causes. The Reids believe the cause of death to be drug-related, hinting so in their released statement to the media: "Even though he lost the battle that has been ongoing for the last eight years, we will always remember him as a fighter who had a huge, loving heart."

We will soon know more when autopsy results are released.

A hearse carries the casket of Garrett Reid, the son of Philadelphia Eagles head coach Andy Reid, after a funeral service, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa.  Reid, 29, was found dead Sunday morning, Aug. 5, in a dorm room at the team's Lehigh University NFL football training camp.  (Brynn Anderson, Associated Press) A hearse carries the casket of Garrett Reid, the son of Philadelphia Eagles head coach Andy Reid, after a funeral service, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa. Reid, 29, was found dead Sunday morning, Aug. 5, in a dorm room at the team's Lehigh University NFL football training camp. (Brynn Anderson, Associated Press)

Andy Reid is the longest-tenured head coach in the NFL with 14 years of service in Philadelphia. Few in the current ranks of coaches are as well-liked or admired as Andy, not only for his professionalism but for his personal conduct.

Andy is as good a man as I've ever been around. He's grounded, extremely bright and driven. What happened with his two oldest sons happens in the best of families in more ideal settings than the professional sports world in which the Reids operate.

Pro sports is unforgiving. It doesn't honor birthdays, piano or dance recitals, baptisms, weddings or anniversaries. My wife and I didn't celebrate an anniversary together until our 10th, after I retired from the NFL because we married in college on July 21, just as training camps opened. Pro sports doesn't celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year's or Mother's Day. It doesn't mourn the loss of loved ones or even the assassination of the president of the United States.

Philadelphia Eagles coach Andy Reid address a news conference at the team's NFL football training facility, Wednesday, Dec. 28, 2011, in Philadelphia. Garrett Reid, the oldest son of Andy Reid, was found dead Sunday, Aug. 5, 2012, in his room at Eagles training camp at Lehigh University. (Matt Rourke, Associated Press) Philadelphia Eagles coach Andy Reid address a news conference at the team's NFL football training facility, Wednesday, Dec. 28, 2011, in Philadelphia. Garrett Reid, the oldest son of Andy Reid, was found dead Sunday, Aug. 5, 2012, in his room at Eagles training camp at Lehigh University. (Matt Rourke, Associated Press)

Former NFL commissioner Pete Rozelle chose to play games in November 1963 after President John F. Kennedy's assassination, which he regretted all his life. Eagles' owner Jeffrey Lurie has already stated he expects Andy to coach this Thursday's opening preseason game. ESPN analyst and former NFL player Damien Woody didn't even realize the absurdity of his statement that when an assistant coach suddenly died in 2001 when he was in New England, the team used it as motivation to win its first Super Bowl.

The implication is, if the Eagles played this right, they can possibly ride Garrett Reid's passing to Super Bowl glory. In pro sports, nothing is more sacrosanct than winning a championship, which conveniently ignores the fact that Garrett was a beloved son, a big brother and grandson. Indeed, he was troubled and suffered from addiction. He made bad choices that he paid for dearly with precious time at the very peak of his youth and young adult years. But by all accounts, he was making his way back. Not as quickly as his brother Britt, who had also run afoul of the law yet recently married and is a graduate assistant at Temple University where the Reids' youngest boy, Spencer, is playing football. Nonetheless, in his own way, Garrett seemed to be slowly coming back.

FILE - In this file photo from Feb. 16, 2007, Garrett Reid, the oldest son of Philadelphia Eagles head coach Andy Reid, leaves the Plymouth Township police station in Plymouth Meeting, Pa., after surrendering to police for 14 misdemeanor and summary offenses. Garrett Reid was found dead Sunday, Aug. 5, 2012, in his room at Eagles training camp at Lehigh University.  (Associated Press) FILE - In this file photo from Feb. 16, 2007, Garrett Reid, the oldest son of Philadelphia Eagles head coach Andy Reid, leaves the Plymouth Township police station in Plymouth Meeting, Pa., after surrendering to police for 14 misdemeanor and summary offenses. Garrett Reid was found dead Sunday, Aug. 5, 2012, in his room at Eagles training camp at Lehigh University. (Associated Press)

Garrett was helping out with his dad's team, assisting the strength and conditioning coaches at training camp. Andy was doing everything he could to help Garrett, to keep him close and away from the bad influences that led him away in the first place.

I started to see those influences emerge during Garrett and Britt's late teens. Their father and I were teammates at BYU in the early '80s and remained good friends, so they always gravitated to me whenever they saw me in the clubhouse or at camp when they were young boys. They were always anxious to talk BYU football, their Eagle Scout projects, youth conference, their trip to the Hill Cumorah Pageant and plans to serve a mission. Andy's kids, the two older boys especially, were always respectful, cheerful and just normal teenagers.

By their late teens, the light in Garrett and Britt's eyes started to slowly dim. We spoke less and less of missions and stake dances and youth conferences. Then suddenly, in January 2007, came the arrests of both boys, on the same day, in separate incidences of DUI, a gun charge and drugs. The fight was on.

Mourners stand in line for the funeral for Garrett Reid, son of Eagles head coach Andy Reid, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa. Andy Reid issued a statement through the team Monday evening thanking people for their support and saying his son had faced personal challenges -- an indirect reference to his son's history of drug addiction. The Eagles coach says Garrett Mourners stand in line for the funeral for Garrett Reid, son of Eagles head coach Andy Reid, Tuesday, Aug. 7, 2012 in Broomall, Pa. Andy Reid issued a statement through the team Monday evening thanking people for their support and saying his son had faced personal challenges -- an indirect reference to his son's history of drug addiction. The Eagles coach says Garrett "lost the battle" but will be remembered as a fighter, with a huge, loving heart. (Brynn Anderson, Associated Press)

Garrett lost his battle. It's happened to lots of other families. Addiction doesn't seem to care about socioeconomics, political persuasion, the religious or ungodly, whether you're rich or poor, famous or unknown, educated or illiterate, prince or pauper.

Garrett seemed to be working hard to make his way back. But it ended in a dorm room in Bethlehem, Pa., Sunday morning.

Andy and I exchanged very personal emails last night. I shared my condolences, support and love; he expressed his hope and faith in God. He's reeling, as one might expect, but he and Tammy are leaning on their faith, their LDS ward, family and friends.

What else can you do?

It's just so tragic.

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