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8 types of bullies and how to handle them

Published: Thursday, Aug. 14 2014 8:55 a.m. MDT

How to handle: NoBullying.com offers a simple suggestion for this kind of bullying; tell someone about it. Whether it’s a parent, principal or pal, informing someone of what’s going on may cause action and dialogue to occur, bringing everyone together and putting everyone on the same page.

The observer

Bullying isn't the only issue. Observing and not saying anything can be nearly as bad for both the non-bullied and bully, research has shown. Observing bullying from afar has been linked to suicidal thoughts in the past, according to research by Brunel University London. Bystanders — those watching the bullying go down without doing anything about it — usually don’t get involved because they believe it’s not their business or that stepping in may hurt their reputation, according to reachout.com, a website advocating for the end of bullying.

How to handle: Slate’s Emily Bazelon asked what people can do to help encourage bystanders to start speaking up for the weaker man. “Bystanders, then, represent a major opportunity: Convert more of them into defenders or allies of the target of bullying, and you could take the sting out of one of childhood’s enduring harms,” Bazelon wrote. So how do you handle the observer? Ask for his or her help and try to get them to step in and say something to stop the bullying from happening.

The social king

It’s not all about preying on the little man when it comes to bullying. A 2011 study by CNN found that some bullies will act out to climb the social ladder. In these instances, bullies will go after the top dog by insulting or belittling them in hopes of taking over the social throne, CNN reported.

How to handle: Much like other researchers have suggested, it might be best to let them try to get to you, but not respond to it. As CNN reported, increased aggression doesn’t actually make someone any more socially popular. So by allowing them to act out aggressively, you may actually be helping your own cause.

The workplace bully

Away from the hallways and far from the playground stands another bully: the workplace bully. This kind of bully is on the rise, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute that found 35 percent of people have been bullied at the office. This person will look to misuse his or her authority, try to intimidate co-workers or even destroy built up relationships formed within the cubicles, according to The Huffington Post.

How to handle: While some have said the workplace bully is a hard one to stop and might not be prevalent, avoiding the workplace bully has helped for many, HuffPost reported. That may be the best strategy, too, since workplace bullying can be contagious, HuffPost reported.

If you’re being bullied, use the resources below for help:

CyberBully Hotline: 1-800-420-1479

Anti-Bullying Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK


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