The scripture on charity in 1 Corinthians 13 is a wonderful basis for a happy marriage. “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6). By being patient with your spouse and treating her kindly, avoiding pride and seeking to put your spouse before yourself, you can find peace and happiness within your marriage.
Charity is the pure love of Christ. By viewing your spouse as Christ views him, you can see the potential within and realize that you are imperfect, as well.
Rule 5: Make the Commitment.
In 2012, a study was done by the Relationship Institute at UCLA. Researchers noticed there were two types of commitment found in marriages. One is that you like the relationship and want it to continue and the other is being committed to doing what it takes to make the relationship work. One of the authors, Thomas Bradbury said, “the couples that were willing to make sacrifices within their relationships were more effective in solving their problems.”
If you recognize that in making the marriage work you need to work hard and put it before all else, then you have committed yourself to its success. Sit down together and make that commitment to work hard at making your marriage work. If you need professional help, seek a qualified counselor who can guide you through the process of recommitting.
Happy marriages do not just magically happen. You may think that reaching the altar is all it takes to find your “happily ever after”, but in reality the work and the true joy are just beginning. Apply these rules to your marriage and you can still have that look in your eye which conveys to all that you love each other more than you did the day you wed.
Robyn Carr is a graduate of Brigham Young University, the mother of 5 and grandmother to 1. She currently lives in North Carolina. Comments welcomed at firstname.lastname@example.org
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