Mom, Mormon, rock star: Neon Trees drummer Elaine Bradley talks family, faith

Published: Thursday, June 12 2014 3:45 p.m. MDT

"That stuff doesn’t bother me, though. Everybody’s got an opinion, which is why I think you have to be secure in what you’re doing and with your own routine or your path in life, your relationship with God or your relationship with yourself. If that at all isn’t secure, I can tell you the Internet can be a deadly place."

Bradley's faith also received public attention earlier this year when bandmate Glenn announced he is gay in Rolling Stone magazine. The article identified Bradley as "the band's most devout Mormon" (all four of the band members are members of the LDS Church). Bradley told Rolling Stone, "I think the only anxiety for me comes from people assuming things because I'm religious or assuming things because he's gay. I worry about people not understanding that he's neither angry at the church nor distanced himself."

Bradley told the Deseret News that "one of the first things that we discussed when he came out to me personally was that Heavenly Father loves him and knows him intimately and understands completely the years he’s had and the struggles he’s had to come to terms with this.

"It’s not my business to judge what he does," she said. "It is my business to love him and accept him — be his sister."

Glenn has spoken positively about his Mormon upbringing and family, and Bradley appreciates that he hasn't chosen "one extreme or the other."

"I think that’s going to do wonders to help people understand that Mormons don’t hate gays and gays don’t hate Mormons, that it doesn’t have to be that way," she said.

In addition to her "band family," Bradley and her husband, Sebastian, have one son, Bryce, who will be 2 in July. She calls family "extremely important."

"It’s the unit that will last," Bradley said.

While Sebastian and Bryce often accompany Bradley on tour, it's not something that the family's busy schedule always permits. With Bradley's commitment to the band, Sebastian takes on the responsibility of staying home with Bryce.

"It’s an interesting thing to be a mom, a Mormon mom, and to be on the road," Bradley said. "But what's really wonderful about my situation is that my husband and I are on the exact same page."

Still, it's never easy spending extended time away from her family. That's why at 6 months old, Bryce got to sleep on the band's tour bus and spend time backstage.

For times when being together isn't possible, Bradley is grateful for technology.

"I can't imagine doing this even 20 years ago," she said. "It would be really, really hard. I think FaceTime is one of the best modern inventions because I'll call and my son will take the phone and literally take me around the house and show me stuff, take me into his play room and play. It's not as awesome as being able to be together, but it's better than nothing."

Bradley says her marriage relationship also requires a concerted effort.

"Sebastian and I are always talking about things," she said. "He’s keeping me posted on what Bryce is doing and how he’s feeling about things, and my keeping him posted about things. I think that’s also really important. ... It works great for us. You could say we were meant for each other. I truly believe that."

Email: spetersen@deseretnews.com | Twitter: @Sarah_DNews

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