Please do not misunderstand me. I’m not telling anyone to stop reading mommy blogs, and I’m most definitely not suggesting that mommy blogs are bad. I’m just doing what works for me. Ironically, I have a blog of my own, primarily meant to chronicle my family’s history and entertain my mother in Iowa who suffers from separation anxiety. But since it is a public blog, I sometimes wonder if I’ve ever made anyone else feel like their life was “less than” after reading something I’ve posted. If this is the case, I sincerely apologize and hope you’ll follow my lead and stop reading because chances are you have a pretty marvelous life of your own. You’re just not focusing on it.
The thing is, as I alluded to before, in all our efforts to glean ideas from other mothers, there’s the potential to lose touch with our own intuition as well as a sense of gratitude for what is. As fantastic as it sounds, what’s great for one mom and her family may not be what is needed for your family. And if you have a personality like mine, you will want to incorporate every last great idea out there and risk not doing the most important thing for your family — whatever that is. Worse yet, you will start wishing you were living someone else’s life. And that’s so not fun.
My decision to stop reading mommy blogs was about nothing more than a need to simplify my time and my head, focus on my family instead of someone else’s, and learn how to be grateful and content with my life. I like the idea of bringing things down a notch when it comes to outside information, and I love the idea of getting to the core of what is really needed for my family by listening to my heart.
Maybe you have things in your own life you could give up or cut back on that would reap the same benefits. Mommy blogs, Facebook, Pinterest, shopping, unnecessary work or social obligations, toxic relationships, over-volunteering at the school, too much time at the gym, too much TV. There are a million ways to get distracted from living a more simple, satisfying and authentic life.
I’m sure if I dropped an email to my old blogging friend today, we would pick up right where we left off. (I didn’t mean to make it sound like we had some sort of breakup.) The truth is, she is one of those bloggers who does a great job of keeping it real while putting an emphasis on simplifying. It really is my kind of blog.
Maybe I’ll start reading again. Maybe.
QUESTION: Do you have anything in your life that prevents you from listening to your mother’s intuition and living a more satisfying and authentic family life?
CHALLENGE: Once you identify what that is, try cutting back this next week and see how it feels. You may not miss it at all.
This article is courtesy of Power of Moms, an online gathering place for deliberate mothers.
This post is featured in the new book "Motherhood Realized."
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