David Sacks, Digital Vision
Editor’s note: This is the second article in a four-part series, written in partnership with TheAtlantic.com, examining the role of fathers in American families. You can also read part one, part three or part four of the series.
When his son, Kyle, was 4 months old, Stefan Malliet woke up to his crying at 3 a.m. Stefan tried to figure out what was wrong: Kyle wasn’t hungry, his diaper wasn’t dirty, but he still wouldn’t settle down and go to sleep. He just kept screaming. With no one else in the house to take Kyle off his hands, Stefan called a friend, crying: “I had no idea what was going on.”
When I asked Stefan how he decided to take on the responsibilities of a single dad, he said, “This is my child. I have to be here.”
Today, more men than ever are making the same choice. A recent Pew Research study published this statistic: 8 percent of households with minor children are now headed by a single father, up from just 1 percent in 1960.
This represents a nearly nine-fold increase from fewer than 300,000 households in 1960 to more than 2.6 million in 2011. In contrast, the number of single-mother households increased roughly four-fold during that time period, from 1.9 million in 1960 to 8.6 million in 2011.
These numbers speak to two trends in American family life today: a rising divorce rate over the past half-century, along with the increasing frequency of parents never marrying at all, and growing societal acceptance of fathers as primary caregivers.
A century ago, this image of men left alone with children was horrifying enough to spur an anti-suffrage movement. So what happened? How did single fatherhood go from terrifying to increasingly normal?
According to the Pew study, people can attribute a large part of this to the U.S. judicial system and its shifting standards for child custody cases. Until recently, U.S. courts would almost always rule “in the best interest of the child” (slang for “in favor of the mother”). But since the early 2000s, many states have been adopting legislation that moves away from the “best interest” policy.
Most new legislation provides for “joint parenting” or joint physical custody, policies that encourage both parents to spend equal time with the child (Oregon, Minnesota, Arizona, Iowa, and Maine have particularly strong joint parenting laws). Rather than prompting divorced parents to split their child’s time 50-50, these policies seem to have prompted a dramatic increase in the number of single fathers.
A 2011 study published in the Journal of Empirical Legal Studies explains why this is happening. The study analyzes the case of Oregon, which in 1997 became one of the first states to formally enact joint parenting legislation. Before this change, Oregon’s custody law was pretty standard. It favored joint legal custody (the parents both have a say in decisions made about the child), but not joint physical custody. The decision about physical custody was made “in the best interest of the child,” which generally meant that the child lived with one parent or the other (and most often with the mother). After the new legislation, Oregon courts defaulted to joint parenting, encouraging the child to spend half of his or her time with dad, and half with mom.
But this new law didn’t turn out the way legislators expected. Instead of increasing the number of families that split parenting time equally, it increased the number of fathers with sole custody.
There are a few reasons why the state push for joint parenting is resulting in more single dads.
1. It empowers fathers to ask for more, and believe they deserve it. William Fabricius, Professor of Psychology at Arizona State University and chair of Arizona’s committee on child custody statutes, says that most men want to share parenting time equally, but assume courts have a strong maternal bias.
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