Editor's note: This post originally appeared on Power of Moms. It has been shared here with permission.
There’s been quite a stir going on in the media (particularly among mothers) over a post written by a woman named Amy Glass titled “I Look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry.”
You may have already seen it — or at least read one of the many rebuttals published out there. But in essence, the post says that being a wife and a mother isn’t “real work” and that, as a society, we should not applaud women for choosing the “path of least resistance.”
OK, so as Co-Director of Power of Moms — an organization that, for seven years, has been gathering millions of deliberate mothers who believe the exact opposite — I feel a responsibility to step in and take part in this frenzied conversation.
However, my response isn’t one of defense or even a return attack on Amy Glass.
Instead, I’m going to explain why I am grateful to her.
1. Because of Amy’s post, I have seen more women AND men — than ever before — stand up and speak on behalf of the family.
Sometimes, until you’re challenged, you simply don’t make the time to articulate what you believe. Certainly, you live those beliefs, and you apply all that energy to actually strengthening your family, which I think we would all agree is the most important thing we can do. But, wow, it’s exciting to see good people from a variety of backgrounds and walks of life standing up to emphasize the absolute importance of the work done in our homes.
2. Because of Amy’s post, I feel even more excited about the marketplace of ideas.
Amy’s perspective isn’t our society’s standard of truth. It is one blog post, written with a shocking headline and a handful of inflammatory statements intended to generate clicks, shares and discussion. That’s a common strategy in today’s online world, and Amy did that job well. But when we boil it down, that post is simply one opinion. And it’s OK for people to have different opinions.
Clearly, her life experiences have shaped her personal belief that no woman deliberately chooses to be a wife and mother, but the beautiful thing about the marketplace of ideas is that everyone has the right to share. We have the privilege to use the power of language to either tear others down or build them up. I’m thrilled to make the choice every single day to strengthen other mothers.
3. Because of Amy’s post, I am more committed than ever to the work I am doing here at Power of Moms.
The thing that really surprised me about my reaction to Amy’s post was that I hardly had a reaction. This wasn’t new information to me. I’ve been hearing perspectives like this throughout my whole life. And I didn’t even feel the need to write a response because that’s what we’ve been doing for seven years here at Power of Moms.
In the blink of an eye, I could list dozens of posts we’ve already published that clearly explain the truths and principles for which we stand.
Motherhood defies logic – A post I wrote in response to an article describing motherhood as mind-numbing, menial work akin to prison or slavery.
Barbara Walters’ one regret – Allyson Reynolds’ recent post describing how Barbara Walters — a woman who, by anyone’s standard, has accomplished a lot in her life —regrets only that she didn’t have more children.
Your children want YOU! – One of our viral posts on Power of Moms that has been shared more than 340,000 times.
I love my life. It centers on my family, and here at Power of Moms, we gather with women who feel the same.
Until someone lives the life of a deliberate mother — or at least spends a significant amount of time with one — he or she simply will not understand how beautiful this experience really is. Not everyone wants to live the same way I do, and I can respect that, but no matter how many people try to tell me that the work I am doing as a wife and a mother is worthless, I will always know the truth.
I am grateful for the chance I have to use my voice.
And, yes, I’m grateful for voices who challenge what we believe and give us the opportunity to speak about what we know is right.
If you haven’t yet, I challenge you to make some time to read the articles linked above and then take this opportunity to respectfully use your voice to emphasize the value that both men and women bring to a family. Whether it’s through a discussion with your children, a post on social media, an entry in your journal or a formal statement written on your own blog (please link to those below in the Comments), each voice is critical.
When our children look back at what has been written — when they look back and see how our history was shaped — they need to see our voices in there, reminding them that family means everything.
QUESTION: Has this post by Amy Glass inspired you to use your voice?
CHALLENGE: It’s common for negative posts about motherhood to go viral, but we, as deliberate mothers can help to put excellent, family-strengthening ideas into the social networks. Take a moment today to share a post — either from Power of Moms or another site you love — and do your part to make your voice heard.